When I confronted my cheating wife and asked about her lover's cock.

[Nellie60]

Good question. Among the things I get out of the current situation are (1) the continued humiliation of my wife fucking and getting complete sexual satisfaction from a tall, good-looking, super fit, cocky, horse-hung alpha male, (2) the erotic excitement of both of us anticipating her next fuck session with him, game-planning what she'll do and say to bring out his most primal sexual instincts, choosing outfits for her to pack, and (3) getting her extremely detailed accounts of every moment when she gets home - every dinner, every drink, every dirty comment and conversation, every kiss, every touch, every stroke, every postion, every orgasm - usually while I'm between her legs devouring her used, re-sized pussy. While I'd love to be able to watch without blowing her cover, so to speak, I treasure this status quo and am intent on keeping it intact and continuing to enjoy it for as long as possible.

Well answered Ed.

I never understood getting satisfaction via humiliation but I do understand the strategy of planning each eventful day and the reward of hearing every naughty detail later.

But I wonder if this young stud is simply running other relationships simultaneously when your wife is not on the road.

So I congratulate you for being happy with this arrangement despite being the complete opposite when you first discovered the affair.

Still instead of just having a hot wife I personally would love to see for myself or at least be involved.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Well answered Ed.

I never understood getting satisfaction via humiliation but I do understand the strategy of planning each eventful day and the reward of hearing every naughty detail later.

But I wonder if this young stud is simply running other relationships simultaneously when your wife is not on the road.

So I congratulate you for being happy with this arrangement despite being the complete opposite when you first discovered the affair.

Still instead of just having a hot wife I personally would love to see for myself or at least be involved.

A few clarifications. The stud is younger than her but not exactly "young" - mid 40s now. He enjoys fucking plenty of other women, including other married women, besides my wife. She's well aware of that and doesn't mind at all. In fact, I think it adds to her attraction to him. Though I can't literally see for myself, given my intimate involvement (albeit not in person) in every aspect of her relationship with him, and the vivid, incredibly detailed accounts she gives me, I feel like I'm as close as possible to *seeing* them in action while preserving his belief that she's still a wanton, cheating slut with a clueless hubby.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

A few clarifications. The stud is younger than her but not exactly "young" - mid 40s now. He enjoys fucking pkenty of other women, including other married women, besides my wife. She's well aware of that and doesn't mind at all. In fact, I think it adds to her attraction to him. Though I can't literally see for myself, given my intimate involvement (albeit not in person) in every aspect of her relationship with him, and the vivid, incredibly detailed accounts she gives me, I feel like I'm as close as possible to *seeing* them in action while preserving his belief that she's still a wanton, cheating slut with a clueless hubby.

I should add that the intense eroticism of the humiliation and emasculation I've experienced is hard to explain, and hard for most people to understand, but if you've been there you know.

 

[liqueur]

I should add that the intense eroticism of the humiliation and emasculation I've experienced is hard to explain, and hard for most people to understand, but if you've been there you know.

Oh, God yes!!

Humiliation ≠Emasculation... Obviously there's lots of overlap, but they are not the same thing. Either or both are huge erogenous zones in my brain. Sometimes the words alone are enough to arouse me.

 

[cuckoldbill]

I should add that the intense eroticism of the humiliation and emasculation I've experienced is hard to explain, and hard for most people to understand, but if you've been there you know.

I fully understand it and and it’s a huge part of my being her cuckold

 

[Nellie60]

I should add that the intense eroticism of the humiliation and emasculation I've experienced is hard to explain, and hard for most people to understand, but if you've been there you know.

I suppose so. I imagine it is associated with letting another man "supposedly more masculine" enjoy the pleasures that your wife or girlfriend can give him just like you have experienced with her?

And her letting you know he was "better than you" and further did things to each other that you don't do together.

What was the turning point from angry husband discovering your wife was having an affair to the "intense eroticism" you say.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

I suppose so. I imagine it is associated with letting another man "supposedly more masculine" enjoy the pleasures that your wife or girlfriend can give him just like you have experienced with her?

And her letting you know he was "better than you" and further did things to each other that you don't do together.

What was the turning point from angry husband discovering your wife was having an affair to the "intense eroticism" you say.

Well, "supposedly more masculine" skirts the truth. My wife's colleague is obviously, undeniably more manly, muscular, masculine, assertive and alpha than me, and the fact that my wife responded to that the way she did and was so instantly, intensely, helplessly sexually attracted to him, gets to the heart of my humiliation and resulting arousal. There was no one "turning point." It was a long, gradual process. It started with months of interrogating her and extracting every detail she could remember, so I was confident she was being 100% truthful and transparent about everything that happened, her motivations, her feelings about it. Then more months of processing all that information and engaging in some heavy self-analysis to figure out if I could get past the betrayal and stay with her and rebuild trust and our relationship. I realized that to have any chance of getting back to some semblance of "normal" and being the happy person I used to be, I had to forgive her - much more for my benefit than for hers, so I set my mind to doing that. As I let go of my anger and resentment and started to genuinely forgive her, my mind cleared and I was able to step back and see the whole situation more objectively and appreciate the intense eroticism of what she had done, her powerful, primal attraction to him, his masculinity and alpha male aura and authority, his muscular body, his cock that's twice the size of mine that she couldn't get enough of, his extensive sexual experience and skills, his ability to easily give her one shattering orgasm after another, and I found myself becoming incredibly aroused by all that, by his vast sexual superiority, by the fact that my wife was so intoxicated by him, that she so badly needed to be fucked by him that she blatantly betrayed me, risked our marriage and our family for it, and then kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I found out. There's something about the humiliating and emasculating effect of all that, of what he blithely did to me, a stranger intruding into my life out of nowhere and fundamentally changing me, turning me into something I wasn't before - a cuckold - that has produced a level of sexual arousal I never imagined could exist. Though words aren't adequate to fully capture it, that's about the best explanation I can offer.

 

[Ramone45]

It's never only about his cock. He was different from any other man she fucked, and she liked it. She came from wealth, and her lovers were generally from the same circle. This guy was a truck driver, and he was rough around the edges. He dominated her and she loved that. She fucked him because he could make her cum, and I know that she loves to cum with a dick in her pussy. That's all I had to know about his cock.

 

[Nellie60]

Well, "supposedly more masculine" skirts the truth. My wife's colleague is obviously, undeniably more manly, muscular, masculine, assertive and alpha than me, and the fact that my wife responded to that the way she did and was so instantly, intensely, helplessly sexually attracted to him, gets to the heart of my humiliation and resulting arousal. There was no one "turning point." It was a long, gradual process. It started with months of interrogating her and extracting every detail she could remember, so I was confident she was being 100% truthful and transparent about everything that happened, her motivations, her feelings about it. Then more months of processing all that information and engaging in some heavy self-analysis to figure out if I could get past the betrayal and stay with her and rebuild trust and our relationship. I realized that to have any chance of getting back to some semblance of "normal" and being the happy person I used to be, I had to forgive her - much more for my benefit than for hers, so I set my mind to doing that. As I let go of my anger and resentment and started to genuinely forgive her, my mind cleared and I was able to step back and see the whole situation more objectively and appreciate the intense eroticism of what she had done, her powerful, primal attraction to him, his masculinity and alpha male aura and authority, his muscular body, his cock that's twice the size of mine that she couldn't get enough of, his extensive sexual experience and skills, his ability to easily give her one shattering orgasm after another, and I found myself becoming incredibly aroused by all that, by his vast sexual superiority, by the fact that my wife was so intoxicated by him, that she so badly needed to be fucked by him that she blatantly betrayed me, risked our marriage and our family for it, and then kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I found out. There's something about the humiliating and emasculating effect of all that, of what he blithely did to me, a stranger intruding into my life out of nowhere and fundamentally changing me, turning me into something I wasn't before - a cuckold - that has produced a level of sexual arousal I never imagined could exist. Though words aren't adequate to fully capture it, that's about the best explanation I can offer.

You have "captured it" pretty well in your own words.

The hardest part to process is the months of "interrogation" and months of "processing" and then acceptance of that trust to keep your relationship afloat.

You must have been very understanding and then her being very understanding. I congratulate you on your strong relationship with her despite all this occurrence.

 

[Mike130]

A few clarifications. The stud is younger than her but not exactly "young" - mid 40s now. He enjoys fucking plenty of other women, including other married women, besides my wife. She's well aware of that and doesn't mind at all. In fact, I think it adds to her attraction to him. Though I can't literally see for myself, given my intimate involvement (albeit not in person) in every aspect of her relationship with him, and the vivid, incredibly detailed accounts she gives me, I feel like I'm as close as possible to *seeing* them in action while preserving his belief that she's still a wanton, cheating slut with a clueless hubby.

Perhaps have her put her phone on FaceTime during the next session. If she knows you like it, she might put on a real show for you!