Why did i become bi?

[E_C65]

I'll have to be careful how I write this but I was flashed by a guy when I was younger, nothing else happened as I was able to leave the situation and go on my way, but from then on I did wonder what caused me to think over and over on that experience. As I got older (over 18) I found that getting a girlfriend was tricky as I was new to a city where I had no natural social circle (I hadnt been to school there and had no social network outside of my job).

I started to go out to pubs and clubs in the evenings and found myself often in the company of more mature men. One such regular haunt had me striking up a friendship with a group of older guys, and one in particular offered me a comapionable walk back to his flat after a particularly heavy nights drinking.

He flattered me and asked on my dating status (then single, and a virgin), before offering me a blowjob. Although nervous, I was intrigued as it wasnt going to be anything more, and like most 18 year-old guys was happy to bust a nut at the drop of a hat. I certainly enjoyed the release.

Shortly afterwards I started dating a girl about my age, who I met via a bar job, and started my assumed straight acting persona in life. It was only about 25 years later that those memories returned, and over time I found that I couldnt ignore them as easily as perhaps I could have in the throws of the sexual headonism I experienced in my early 20's.

I had to re-visit my past memories and find out. The fascination was still there, and as I expored more I relised that I had never been entirely straight. Ever.

 

[dobbins1]

I think it takes us all that long to figure out that we like sex a lot more than women. Thought of it makes us look to whatever or whomever can provide it. Sex consumes our minds and finding a way to make it last longer more intense and more meaningful pushes us to bridge those gaps we never thought possible.

Good analogy. I equate it to hitting puberty when your hormones are going crazy and though the opposite sex (for most of us) is the main attraction, you share a common "lust" with your male friends. And since most of us are ill equipped mentally/emotionally to bed a female at that age, we turn to the next best opportunity..our male friends!! That's where my "bi" interest started for me. Then as mentioned, when the interest/attraction starts to wane in a marriage, guess what? We're reliving some of our youth and satisfying our adult needs at the same time!! (at least for me).

 

[kutag]

I had been straight a big part of my life, when things changed when I was 50. I have always been addicted to skimpy G Strings. One day at a remote beach in Greece, I noticed that men were much more interested in watching me wearing strings then women. One guy who was 50 meters away even started to wank.

I searched the Internet for thong forums, most of them were dominated by men. In the course of the time, I got into contact like minded thongers over the internet, also looking at their pics. One moment I didn’t only admire their strings but the butts, at the same time I got a lot of positive reaction about my sexy butt. This evolved, and today, I love to see sexy strings as well as sexy cocks.

Last summer, I spend a day at a clothing-optional gay Ressort, and I had a nude tantra message. These days, I lol be in Berlin, and I plan to have another tantra massage - it goes without saying that I will go to a male masseur.

Mike

Hi Mike, I am a bit like you. I have always worn small G Strings. On holidays by the pool or beach my wife would wear a modest bikini I would be next to her in one of my skimpy G Strings. I loved looking at men and women in small swimwear the smaller the better, nice breasts and maybe a cameltoe, but always got turned on with a guys bulge. Seeing the outline of his cock in a wet pouch and if he had a G String on I was hard. When my wife stopped coming to the nude beach with me I went on my own but moved down the beach to the gay section wearing my G Strings, that's how I started out.

 

[MikeBauer]

Hi Mike, I am a bit like you. I have always worn small G Strings. On holidays by the pool or beach my wife would wear a modest bikini I would be next to her in one of my skimpy G Strings. I loved looking at men and women in small swimwear the smaller the better, nice breasts and maybe a cameltoe, but always got turned on with a guys bulge. Seeing the outline of his cock in a wet pouch and if he had a G String on I was hard. When my wife stopped coming to the nude beach with me I went on my own but moved down the beach to the gay section wearing my G Strings, that's how I started out.

And how did it continue?

 

[SissyBrandi19]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

Well, I didn't want to tell you but...one time after gym class when we were all showering? I found one of your pubic hairs and just as a joke, I took it and said a little, ohhhhhhhhhh....magic spell? I seriously didn't think it'd take but...color me embarrassed! I'm just glad it worked out! Look, we evolve. I would guess there was a time in your life when you didn't find ANY person...sexually attractive. Then you did...you found MANY people attractive and they probably all shared one trait - sex - that really doesn't predict much I mean, there's tremendous variance within the category of human female. So you became sexually attracted or potentially, to 50% of the world's population. That's a lot of people and lot of variance! And then...you just...increased the variance the type of person you find attractive! I'm not sure what the mystery is. Maybe the TRUE mystery is why we let culture and society make us feel guilty about things our body tells us it likes? Like oh, I'm a guy I can't like guys! Why? Um...because the Catholic Church? Oh boy...um, sit down a sec and let me tell you a little something about the Catholic Church...

 

[storypost603]

right out of high school had my one and only m/m experience we both sucked each other off and from that day I knew I really wanted to do it again. I got married and I have not yet done that and it has been 40 years but I have dreamed it, thought about it, relived that one time. I know it will happen again. I cant wait.

 

[GoodTimesOnly87]

I blame porn for my curiosity. Lol. Went off to college, the whole world opened up to me, and gradually started to really enjoy all kinds of porn, including gay porn. Wound up experimenting with a close friend and have enjoyed it since.

 

[Lemmetri]

I think I became bi because I was afraid to admit that I'm gay. So I'm married to the love of my life and my best friend and would never want to change that but if I had been honest as a young curious man I prefer see with men.