Why do I fall in love so easily?

[April]

Don't count on it, Bliss baby.

Shane, if we knew the answers, life would be a lot more certain, and I think that's against the rules.

 

[Guest]

Let us redefine love!

Relationships are demanding, lets face it.
What we crave is love at a price. The genuine need for caring for someone and to be needed ourselves comes most of the times with selfish motives.
For example, why would some guy buy a dozen roses for a girl if he wasn't trying to either get something out of it or to patronize her ("I'm sorry that I'm such an asshole dear. Here's some roses, now shut up.")
We end up falling for SO MUCH SHIT because we crave the affection and that warm cuddly feeling without stepping back and asking ourselves. "Is he/she trying to fuck me over?"
Falling in love is great if you can keep open eyes for the partner who is realistically right for you and not just because they are "there" or that you owe them love back for all they've done for you. Chances are if you've been swept off your feet by love, you have damn well better get back on them and wake up!
Find out exactly what they truthfully want out of you (ie.- an easy marriage partner, sex, instant security, etc.) and ask yourself... How much of real love is left for me?

 

[Mustang Sally]

Strikes me as a bit naive, there flowerpetal. Love isn't synonymous with marriage. And avoiding the entanglements of marriage won't save you from the pain of love. Uh, nothing will as far as I know.

Cheri, flowerpetal didn't say anything about marriage. She just said she wanted to stay single, which can also mean no relationship/boyfriend.

I can relate to what she's saying. I'm an emotional person, and I give of myself too freely. Sometimes it feels like I'm beating my head against the wall. If only I didn't like sex so much, I would get me to a nunnery! hehehe sigh

 

[Guest]

Henry Rollins knows the score.. thats why he's still single

Due to our human nature, we desire companionship, but when this desire overwhelms our ego and rational thinking ability, then we are stuck with an "infactuation of need" which tends to go unnoticed in our subconscious mind. Some of us, at the first mention or hint of sex, material gain. security, etc , tend to let our hearts override our heads, while the other lays out the manipulative bait to slowly get us where he/she wants us to be. While fooled by this sense of false love, we choose to believe its real to avoid possible mistrust or known hurt or resentment hoping it will get better, but alas only worse to the point of deep regret and hurt. Now love becomes the shackles in which you are enslaved, and not even knowing fully what happened.
Check out the Henry Rollins Band CD "Weight"
and listen to the song called "Liar". It will explain
quite well why we fall in love so easily and fall for
other co-dependant needs.

 

[forgetunome]

Scratches head...

(...no I don't have lice) Looks at above post by sockrateaze HUH????

Not so philisophical pleaze my hair blew straight back as that one blew right over my head....but hey it sounds great. It's either to late or too early to try to put my brain in gear and actually think! LOL!

 

[Guest]

Ok then, I believe you don't have lice, but this Rollins song should explain better what I was trying to say...

Henry Rollins Band: Fool (from CD Weight)

I should have seen my end coming from a long way off
My friend said man she'll give you the blues,don't get caught
But I went ahead and told myself a bunch of lies
And spent night after hammered night getting back my mind
I am a fool when I think I need you, I'm a fool to believe
My heart is so wide open, I'm so easy to decieve
I'm a fool I'll keep believing, like a fool I'll believe it all, I'm a fool who'll keep on coming, and like a fool I'll crawl
I waste time in my mind thinking of you, I'm a fool I know
and it hurts to take the pain over and over, I'm a fool I know, I keep wrecking myself when I should be healing my wounds, I'm a fool I know, Self-mutilation is the only thing that I know, I'm a fool I know I've watched your front teeth sharpenand I've felt your muscles flex, you have the kind of eyes that turn mere mortals into wrecks, I know first hand so well all the hard times you direct, seduced, rejected, reduced, ejected again ...

Take a lesson from ole Hank....he's single and happy... any wonder why?

 

[Guest]

Dese love ting drive me nuts when I hear Abba in Volvo

Yah! I agree wit Rollins, but my English is pour so I can comment little. Dese ease my opinion......
knowing me knowing you, ah ha, there's nothing we can do -
yah, I tink I got de idea?
Abba rools!!!
(insert picture of I givin de hang loose gesture)

 

[Skitten]

Lafies and Gentlemen out there the problem isn't falling in love you sound like you are all afraid of what might happen. And you can't control your future Yea it hurts like hell when it doesn't work out, but did you ever stop and think how great it can be when it does work out.

Most of you know here that wizzie and I are married we are more in love now than when we first got together. It takes more than feelings it takes the commitment to making it work
it means sometimes giving more of yourself than you have ever been willing to give.

The love part is wonderful yes we all get hurt at one time or another but if you don't take a chance you will never know and that is what life is about. Taking chances and yes we fail sometime but there are other times when it works and there is nothing to compare it too.

So quit being scared be yourself and find that happiness, don't be too scared to live. Or else you are not living up to the expectation we all deserve.

 

[wolfy]

Love/Lust

I think love is when you desire to be with a person and enjoy doing anything with them. When you care about them selflessly and want to make them happy even if it hurts you to do it.

Lust is when you are physically attracted to someone and want to have sex with them constantly. If you lust after someone enough you may be willing to go to extremes for them because you want to have sex with them more.

Course you could just like someone you lust after and still enjoy doing things with them. I guess the more you love someone the more you are willing to do to make them happy.
Oh well just my sleepy brain thoughts

 

[Guest]

pffffffft

Henry Rollins knows the score.. thats why he's still single

Henry is still single because he likes to scream, look in the mirror and contemplate that he has more tatooeaux than all of Motley Crue combined. Keep dreaming big, it's fun to watch.

 

[Siren]

TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION FLOWERPETAL.....

 

[lala]

hey kids, here comes another one, and it stinks, which is it? an opinion!

what makes love worthwhile is the eye of the storm- when you've gotten in, and you're not getting out yet.

i love being in love- it's great,... everything is pretty.

at the moment, i'm with someone i fell for (not in love, just fell for) and i love him very much, and he is my best friend and my favorite person, after 9 months, i'm starting to fall in love with him,... i'm not there yet,... but i can see it coming, and i'm bracing myself,

fallling in love always knocks me down for the count. i can't do a lot else,... i just have to brace myself, and hope for the best,...


So,... i understand April when it comes to love issues,...

As for Henry Rollins- he screams a lot,... i only do that when i'm not happy,...

ok, lady, i luv you buh-bye!

 

[Never]

Nope, I haven't been in love yet. Or maybe I have and it's just easy for me to wash off.
Hmmm. I don't think anyone means enough to me for me to fall in love with.

 

[Mustang Sally]

Lafies and Gentlemen out there the problem isn't falling in love you sound like you are all afraid of what might happen. And you can't control your future Yea it hurts like hell when it doesn't work out, but did you ever stop and think how great it can be when it does work out.

Aww Skitten, us poor single people sometimes can't help but wonder if it will ever work out. When relationships consistently fail, it's easy to become discouraged. A relationship that works - and keeps on working - seems like a fairy tale.

What if I never meet "the one"?
Will nobody ever really love me?
Maybe I should just get some cats and learn how to knit.

 

[Xander]

I used to fall in love easily. But not anymore.

For years now, I haven't been able to fall in love easily. And I some of my friends tell me to lighten up once in a while, and not be a wall of ice, when it comes to the opposite sex.

BUT every single time I've fallen, I've had my heart dug out with a rusty spoon. And that makes my defenceses so much more powerful.
I only "allow" myself to have strong feelings when I REALLY feel it's worth it. For better or worse.

I'd rather be single and alone, than walk from one relationship to the other, with a bagage of pain.
The reason? Simple, when I feel I feel all the way. I don't believe there's a gentle middleway in love.
So the pain is much stronger to me when there has been played with my feelings.

So yes I can relate. I'm just the opposite. I don't fall in love.