Why guys are afraid of the 'L' word

[curious2c]

The only reason I tend to hesitate with that three word phrase...I had a girlfriend once whom I did love very much. One night, I lightly told her that I loved her heart and soul...dead silence from her. Then a change of subject. Tried it again later...about four days later, same response.

I gave up saying it thinking that she didn't feel the same way about me. Later that year we broke up...more like drifted apart as she moved to take a new job.

Years later she calls me out of the blue...she says, I'm so sorry about that night...when you told me you loved me. I changed the subject because I was afraid that I loved you too. I didn't want to be in love with anyone at that point in my life and I found that I did fall in love with you.

By then, of course, I was married and quite...well...cool to this whole conversation. Looking back on it...ahhh...does not matter anymore.

 

[eZ vv]

its definately not a guy thing to be scurred of the "L" word, its a big step for anyone to take, im not afraid to say if i feel it, its only natural, plus bein in love is the best feeling in the world, if your truely in love, hearing your other half say she loves you back is amazing, never gets old

 

[scrymettet]

I. Love. You. ... love is soft as an easy chair. And more often than not, an easy chair is the world's most comfortable place to be...

 

[MNGuy]

I like The L-Word, nothing like watching a show about girly lovin' to get a man horny. I can't wait for the second season on Showtime.

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Well - it WAS hard to hear clearly with your thighs wrapped around my ears and all! lol

You're a blowing Goddess alright....

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Re: Re: Why guys are afraid of the 'L' word

I love you

Sorry Shameless, it was soooo tempting...

I've always looked at that as a compliment not an insult. It simply means you see the same things in her as I do and couldn't help but come to the same conclusion.


LTR, I love you.

 

[lovetoread]

LTR, I love you.

I love you too.

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Re: Re: Re: Why guys are afraid of the 'L' word

I've always looked at that as a compliment not an insult. It simply means you see the same things in her as I do and couldn't help but come to the same conclusion.


LTR, I love you.

A compliment it is !! I was merely thinking you might get jealous...

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Why guys are afraid of the 'L' word

A compliment it is !! I was merely thinking you might get jealous...

Jealousy is impractical.

I could never hope to be the only one to love her. I'm happy to be the recipient of her love and affections.

Continue to admire her from afar for she deserves no less.



Just don't try putting her on a pedestal just to look up her skirt!

 

[lovetoread]

from afar

lmao

 

[Debbie]

I love you too.

I love you too, but you already know that.

<sniffle at the loving in this thread>

 

[lovetoread]

I love you too, but you already know that.

<sniffle at the loving in this thread>

 

[Image]

Love, is a burnin' thing... ( I guess I had better get that checked)

Oh great... now you tell me

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

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Jealousy is impractical.

I could never hope to be the only one to love her. I'm happy to be the recipient of her love and affections.

Continue to admire her from afar for she deserves no less.



Just don't try putting her on a pedestal just to look up her skirt!

LOL !!!!

Damn !!! You know me so well...

 

[Clare Quilty]

Women tend to profess love much too casually and in a manner which would be more correctly termed infatuation. I'm sorry if this seems callous, but after two or three weeks I have not known a woman love enough to have developed a meaningful and abiding feeling of romantic love. Some women seem to be in love with the notion of being in love, which is decidedly different than loving someone -- with the man in question being little more than a prop.

 

[lovetoread]

Women tend to profess love much too casually and in a manner which would be more correctly termed infatuation. I'm sorry if this seems callous, but after two or three weeks I have not known a woman love enough to have developed a meaningful and abiding feeling of romantic love. Some women seem to be in love with the notion of being in love, which is decidedly different than loving someone -- with the man in question being little more than a prop.

I actually agree.

 

[SpellCheckBuddy]

Men are not afraid of the L word. That's a myth. Here's what really happens.

A man is often in a relationship for sex and mothering, and the woman doesn't get that. She thinks they're in love. "He's afraid of the L-Word" she thinks, when, in reality, the only thing he's looking for is regular sex. From her. When he finds the right woman, the L-Word will come very easily.

So, you see, it's not an insenstive guy problem, it's a delusional girl problem.

Dixon, you sound a little sarcastic but there is a lot of truth in what you said.

SBC, hoping the women he loves don't stone him to death

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Dixon, you sound a little sarcastic but there is a lot of truth in what you said.

SBC, hoping the women he loves don't stone him to death

*cough*
Acronym buddy says SCB.

 

[SpellCheckBuddy]

*cough*
Acronym buddy says SCB.

LOL (hope I spelled *that* right!) I love being corrected by smart sexy women. Thank you.

 

[Clare Quilty]

I actually agree.

Well, I didn't intent to come off as disdainfulness of insulting, I just feel that, generally, there are fundamental differences in the romantic sensibilities of women and men.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

LOL (hope I spelled *that* right!) I love being corrected by smart sexy women. Thank you.

Even when the person in question is a man?

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Even when the person in question is a man?

LOL !! Welcome to the club, SCB !

 

[lovetoread]

LOL (hope I spelled *that* right!) I love being corrected by smart sexy women. Thank you.

I find her exceptionally sexy.

Thanks.