why is it so difficult?

[bashfull]

A female friend of mine who is beautiful, sensual, and very sexy has been attempting for months to find a female friend with benefits...and, perhaps, to play with her and her SO (she really wants a 3some). She has posted on CL, etc...but to no avail. When she tells me all this, I'm astonished. I figured that she shouldn't have a problem finding a woman who wanted to participate but she assures me that apparently it is.

So i was wondering is it as difficult as she is making it? Any suggestions I can tell her?

 

[Noor]

A female friend of mine who is beautiful, sensual, and very sexy has been attempting for months to find a female friend with benefits...and, perhaps, to play with her and her SO (she really wants a 3some). She has posted on CL, etc...but to no avail. When she tells me all this, I'm astonished. I figured that she shouldn't have a problem finding a woman who wanted to participate but she assures me that apparently it is.

So i was wondering is it as difficult as she is making it? Any suggestions I can tell her?

Maybe its her profile, have you read it? does it make you want to play with her?

CL seems to be pretty bad for stuff like that around here.
Has she posted here on lit?

 

[bashfull]

Maybe its her profile, have you read it? does it make you want to play with her?

CL seems to be pretty bad for stuff like that around here.
Has she posted here on lit?

I saw her profile...it's pretty sensuous...and she has a pic of herself up as well. If i were a woman...i'd jump all over it!

 

[Noor]

I saw her profile...it's pretty sensuous...and she has a pic of herself up as well. If i were a woman...i'd jump all over it!

Pm me the link, I will help if I can. Pictures available to people she doesnt know or is not part of a community could be a turn off, or might feel like a set-up for something.

Its like anything else, you need to mark yourself in the right place, the right way to the right audience.

 

[bashfull]

Pm me the link, I will help if I can. Pictures available to people she doesnt know or is not part of a community could be a turn off, or might feel like a set-up for something.

Its like anything else, you need to mark yourself in the right place, the right way to the right audience.

I'll ask her permission to send you link. And her pic isn't a naked pic or anything...just shows her femininity (sp?) and is very alluring. not nude and no face.

 

[MissAries]

From personal experience it is not easy to find a female willing to join a couple. My hubby and I have been looking for years. We have been fortunate enough to find a couple of women during that time but only for a month or so. Profiles do have alot to do with it but at the same time most women are either looking for a man for a long term relationship or just a woman....not both. I would suggest that they try to go to some local events or munches. If there are any clubs that cater to swingers that is a good place to start. Even if they don't meet anyone that fits them they will make some friends and they might know someone who would be a good match. I wish them luck in their search.

 

[bashfull]

From personal experience it is not easy to find a female willing to join a couple. My hubby and I have been looking for years. We have been fortunate enough to find a couple of women during that time but only for a month or so. Profiles do have alot to do with it but at the same time most women are either looking for a man for a long term relationship or just a woman....not both. I would suggest that they try to go to some local events or munches. If there are any clubs that cater to swingers that is a good place to start. Even if they don't meet anyone that fits them they will make some friends and they might know someone who would be a good match. I wish them luck in their search.

Thanks, darlin'. I'll be sure to convey the advice from here to her.

 

[MissAries]

you're very welcome Bashful. I hope she finds what she seeks but tell her to keep her spirits up if it doesn't happen right away. It might be a long search for the right one but it will be worth it......at least that is what I repeat to myself each day that I don't find my precious pet/slut.....LOL

 

[bashfull]

you're very welcome Bashful. I hope she finds what she seeks but tell her to keep her spirits up if it doesn't happen right away. It might be a long search for the right one but it will be worth it......at least that is what I repeat to myself each day that I don't find my precious pet/slut.....LOL

I'll pass it along, darlin'. I do know that her SO lives quite a ways away, so most of the time, it would be just the two ladies. And my friend very feminine (but very strong of character) and also somewhat submissive.