Why is it that...

[Kitte]

some women are just stupid. (Not ALL women just some)
[rant]
I know three perfectly wonderful adorable men. They are sweet, kind, handsome, and single. Were I single any one of the three would be a WONDERFUL choice.

I do not get why women consistantly treat these men like dirt. I would give my left nut (if I had one) to have any one of these men.

It just frustrates the living hell out of me[/rant]

 

[bad kitty]

Some women are just sitches, plain and simple...

 

[Cibo]

*knows how they feel*

 

[markb325]

For the same reason some men are complete and total assholes towards women.

 

[calypso_21]

Mark are you saying it is balanced then? Personally I think everyone should just love one another...and take my mother off my hands PLEASE!!

 

[J.B.]

I know exactly how you feel. I have a friend who's one of the sweetest guys I've known. He has the craziest relationship with a person I lovingly call "The Wicked Bitch". But he's there with her even though he's based on an island snd she's somewhere out east..
I tell him to hook up with an island girl and forget her ass....
does he listen??? noooooooooo

 

[Wiggles]

Hey, ummm, where are these men again?

There are wonderful people all over the place, I'm sure they'll find one.

 

[Dougy]

Because we let them Kitte, dear...

 

[J.B.]

Why?

 

[Dougy]

Is that why directed towards me?

 

[Nora]

ya ever have one of those moments when you know you should keep your mouth shut, but you don't?

I think it's a learned behavior for both men and women. For some reason they've got it bundled into their brain that their relationship isn't complete unless there's extreme drama involved.

In my limited experience, when you call them on this they will respond (both male and female) with "But I love him/her!" Uh...and? So what? You've loved someone before, you'll love someone again. Hopefully you'll make a wiser choice next time.

Additionally. I think they've decided that "passion" can only be found with someone who's insane.

Until people really take a good look at what attracts them to others, they're going to continue to be attracted to people who treat them like shit.

 

[J.B.]

No. Mainly to the men who do let themselves be taken advantage of. Don't get me wrong I don't mean all men should convert to being total jerks, but to have the .. well.. balls to tell a girl to get a grip when she's raking him through the coals.

 

[riff]

I am certain they have their reasons.

 

[Dougy]

From my experience, which I will grant you is quite stale at this point, the treating like shit is something that slowly builds through a relationship. I was in a 5 year relationship with a woman that often treated me like shit...it didn't start that way, and by the time it was that way I was invested in the relationship. I found it very hard to walk away because she made it clear that she loved me and was going through personal difficulties outside of the relationship. There were several years in the relationship where I didn't actually love her, but felt like I was needed by her. When one really cares about the other person in a relationship (even when it is no longer love) it is difficult to just walk out of their life and let them sort out their problems alone.

As the relationship went on, she began to adjust and improve and I walked away...of course by that time, I wasn't such a happy person. Lesson learned!

Is it a result of weakness? Sure, but not a weakness that I am unhappy to have, just one that I have to apply more carefully.

 

[Nora]

Dougy, I've said it before (although probably behind your back) but I'll state it here publicly. You are one of the good ones, mi amigo. Yes, sometimes having a good heart doesn't pay, but hopefully there's an iota of truth to Karma. It's definitely your turn for some good to come around, IMO.

 

[Nora]

And Dougy, would you clean out your damned PM box so I can hit send. Purdy puleeeeeeez! lol

 

[Dougy]

That just sounds too close to pity, Nora. I bring on my own difficulties, just as I bring on my own successes.

 

[Nora]

And the fact that you take personal responsibility for your actions doesn't exactly hurt my position there, Meester Dougy.

But what I liked about your post wasn't so much the action of staying with her 'til she was on her feet. More that you know that your actions aren't something you want to repeat and you've learned from it. That you're not over-dramatizing and going all polar opposite over it.. "well fine! then I'm gonna be a dick next time!" but learning to incorporate experience with the qualities you recognize in yourself as ones you want to keep.

 

[Kitte]

All three of the above stated men have at one time or another allowed themselved to be mistreated. All three are now single and looking. They just cant seem to find someone. It just frustrates me. I would love to marry all three of them off to good women. Hell Id love to marry all three of them!

 

[teddybear4play]

some women are just stupid. (Not ALL women just some)
[rant]
I know three perfectly wonderful adorable men. They are sweet, kind, handsome, and single. Were I single any one of the three would be a WONDERFUL choice.

I do not get why women consistantly treat these men like dirt. I would give my left nut (if I had one) to have any one of these men.

It just frustrates the living hell out of me[/rant]

Well, when you figure out why, can you let me know, please?

TB4p

 

[markb325]

Mark are you saying it is balanced then? Personally I think everyone should just love one another...and take my mother off my hands PLEASE!!

Caly I wonder sometimes.... somedays I think there are more idiotic men in the world and some days woman.... So tell the truth I don't really know if it is balanced. I agree about loving one another.

Oh and I moved to TX to get a way from my mother.