Why is sex with men different?

[ColtonWrites]

Yes, there's the obvious. Sex with a (cis) man involves his dick. Sex with a (cis) woman does not.

But I'm in a more unusual situation and it got me thinking about how sex is different according to the gender of the people involved, even outside the mechanics.

I'm married to a (trans) woman who currently has a vulva and a vagina; has for most of the time I have known her. I've recently gotten involved in a FWB situation with a cis man.

So, anatomically this means that I've had sex with men with penises, women with penises, and women with vulvas.

The sex I would have with my FWB is "anatomically" identically to sex that I've had with my wife, prior to her surgery. It is absolutely not the same feeling. And while I have not had sex with a man with a vulva, as a man(*) with a vulva I can say that I treat sex differently than women do. (Many trans masculine people identify/identified as lesbians/lesbian-adjacent. I do not.)

So if it's not the dick, what IS the difference?

(* wibbly wobbly gender bendy stuff, close enough for purposes of this discussion)

 

[Britva415]

Energy

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Cum

 

[Sounding22]

Yes, there's the obvious. Sex with a (cis) man involves his dick. Sex with a (cis) woman does not.

But I'm in a more unusual situation and it got me thinking about how sex is different according to the gender of the people involved, even outside the mechanics.

I'm married to a (trans) woman who currently has a vulva and a vagina; has for most of the time I have known her. I've recently gotten involved in a FWB situation with a cis man.

So, anatomically this means that I've had sex with men with penises, women with penises, and women with vulvas.

The sex I would have with my FWB is "anatomically" identically to sex that I've had with my wife, prior to her surgery. It is absolutely not the same feeling. And while I have not had sex with a man with a vulva, as a man(*) with a vulva I can say that I treat sex differently than women do. (Many trans masculine people identify/identified as lesbians/lesbian-adjacent. I do not.)

So if it's not the dick, what IS the difference?

(* wibbly wobbly gender bendy stuff, close enough for purposes of this discussion)

I would think as much as modern medicine has advanced it still cannot replicate actual organs.
Amount of nerve endings and how pliable tissue is. Plus many things we don’t know much about
Like a male has a prostate.

 

[Terrylipstick]

Energy

I think you’re absolutely correct. It’s the energy with another guy. It’s just different, better… so much better.

 

[ColtonWrites]

I would think as much as modern medicine has advanced it still cannot replicate actual organs.
Amount of nerve endings and how pliable tissue is. Plus many things we don’t know much about
Like a male has a prostate.

Cis Men do have a prostate, but...so do trans women. And I don't have one, but I much prefer anal sex to vaginal. (Theres an angle that hits *something* in there, I know that much)

Energy

I think you’re absolutely correct. It’s the energy with another guy. It’s just different, better… so much better.

Yeah, i think it is the energy. Harder, harsher, more intense.
Different. I dont know that I'd say one over the other is "better", now that I've had both.

Tbf, my wife calls me "push-button start"; it really does not take much to get me to climax, and Im always down for multiples. So my bar is not high as to what "good sex" feels like.

 

[Sounding22]

Cis Men do have a prostate, but...so do trans women. And I don't have one, but I much prefer anal sex to vaginal. (Theres an angle that hits *something* in there, I know that much)





Yeah, i think it is the energy. Harder, harsher, more intense.
Different. I dont know that I'd say one over the other is "better", now that I've had both.

Tbf, my wife calls me "push-button start"; it really does not take much to get me to climax, and Im always down for multiples. So my bar is not high as to what "good sex" feels like.

prostates are a hassle for sure. But you said you don’t have so you have Skenes glands,
Only reason I know about this is because cancer took care of mine lol life right.
Sounds like your S spot is or was my P spot
Take care of yourself

 

[writerzblok92]

For it was simply the way a man responds to the pleasure I'm giving him. The way his breathing changes. The way his body tenses up. The way his cock throbs and trembles...it's so much more expressive, to me at least.

 

[debbislut]

Yes, there's the obvious. Sex with a (cis) man involves his dick. Sex with a (cis) woman does not.

But I'm in a more unusual situation and it got me thinking about how sex is different according to the gender of the people involved, even outside the mechanics.

I'm married to a (trans) woman who currently has a vulva and a vagina; has for most of the time I have known her. I've recently gotten involved in a FWB situation with a cis man.

So, anatomically this means that I've had sex with men with penises, women with penises, and women with vulvas.

The sex I would have with my FWB is "anatomically" identically to sex that I've had with my wife, prior to her surgery. It is absolutely not the same feeling. And while I have not had sex with a man with a vulva, as a man(*) with a vulva I can say that I treat sex differently than women do. (Many trans masculine people identify/identified as lesbians/lesbian-adjacent. I do not.)

So if it's not the dick, what IS the difference?

(* wibbly wobbly gender bendy stuff, close enough for purposes of this discussion)

I thought I was strait when I was seventeen and had a girlfriend. Then a Man french kissed me and I realised I was either bisexual or gay. While that Guy was devouring my mouth I developed an incredible urge to suck His Cock. That gorgeous Man who showed me the way was assertive , He tasted gorgeous and brought out the submissive in me I don't think any woman could. Could I fall in love with a Man ? Absolutely I could. When I see a woman I feel jealous they have such a gorgeous body. When I see an attractive Man , or almost any Man I wonder if He is a good kisser and think about how His Cock and balls would taste like.

 

[debbislut]

I thought I was strait when I was seventeen and had a girlfriend. Then a Man french kissed me and I realised I was either bisexual or gay. While that Guy was devouring my mouth I developed an incredible urge to suck His Cock. That gorgeous Man who showed me the way was assertive , He tasted gorgeous and brought out the submissive in me I don't think any woman could. Could I fall in love with a Man ? Absolutely I could. When I see a woman I feel jealous they have such a gorgeous body. When I see an attractive Man , or almost any Man I wonder if He is a good kisser and think about how His Cock and balls would taste like.

I hope you are enjoying my posts Billy.

 

[remington123691]

Because it's easy to tell if a guy is turned on and when he orgasms which turns me on!

 

[debbislut]

Yes, there's the obvious. Sex with a (cis) man involves his dick. Sex with a (cis) woman does not.

But I'm in a more unusual situation and it got me thinking about how sex is different according to the gender of the people involved, even outside the mechanics.

I'm married to a (trans) woman who currently has a vulva and a vagina; has for most of the time I have known her. I've recently gotten involved in a FWB situation with a cis man.

So, anatomically this means that I've had sex with men with penises, women with penises, and women with vulvas.

The sex I would have with my FWB is "anatomically" identically to sex that I've had with my wife, prior to her surgery. It is absolutely not the same feeling. And while I have not had sex with a man with a vulva, as a man(*) with a vulva I can say that I treat sex differently than women do. (Many trans masculine people identify/identified as lesbians/lesbian-adjacent. I do not.)

So if it's not the dick, what IS the difference?

(* wibbly wobbly gender bendy stuff, close enough for purposes of this discussion)

Men's mouths taste and feel different somehow and that sexy scrape of stubble on my face when a Guy is kissing it is something a woman couldn't replicate. A Man's body taste's and smells different to that of a women. I love the scent a Guy leaves on me after having sex. Obviously their bodies are different as well and when we reach the genitals the scent and taste are most definitely different. I had a girlfriend once until a Man kissed me and I finally discovered my true sexuality. Having a big hairy Man on top of me and inside me is so much better than a sex toy. Would being pegged by a woman be pleasurable for me ? Possibly but I would still prefer to be taking a penis. I've never penetrated a Man , I'm too sub to be mentally able to do that so I can't comment on what it feels like to penetrate another Guy. A Man's orgasm suggests they enjoy it.
I am at the stage now where although I like looking at women's bodies it is more out of envy than lust.

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

I am at the stage now where although I like looking at women's bodies it is more out of envy than lust.

Same with their clothes!

Although, still some lust, and appreciation of their beauty...

 

[SaraSera]

Cis Men do have a prostate, but...so do trans women. And I don't have one, but I much prefer anal sex to vaginal. (Theres an angle that hits *something* in there, I know that much)





Yeah, i think it is the energy. Harder, harsher, more intense.
Different. I dont know that I'd say one over the other is "better", now that I've had both.

Tbf, my wife calls me "push-button start"; it really does not take much to get me to climax, and Im always down for multiples. So my bar is not high as to what "good sex" feels like.

Push button start…. dying.

 

[madein1954]

Sex with a man is much more intense. With a woman I get the felling they have sex, ok the woman I’ve had sex with, because the need to with a man he really wants it!

 

[none2_none2]

Yes, there's the obvious. Sex with a (cis) man involves his dick. Sex with a (cis) woman does not.

But I'm in a more unusual situation and it got me thinking about how sex is different according to the gender of the people involved, even outside the mechanics.

I'm married to a (trans) woman who currently has a vulva and a vagina; has for most of the time I have known her. I've recently gotten involved in a FWB situation with a cis man.

So, anatomically this means that I've had sex with men with penises, women with penises, and women with vulvas.

The sex I would have with my FWB is "anatomically" identically to sex that I've had with my wife, prior to her surgery. It is absolutely not the same feeling. And while I have not had sex with a man with a vulva, as a man(*) with a vulva I can say that I treat sex differently than women do. (Many trans masculine people identify/identified as lesbians/lesbian-adjacent. I do not.)

So if it's not the dick, what IS the difference?

(* wibbly wobbly gender bendy stuff, close enough for purposes of this discussion)

I think for one thing you are forgetting the "mind". I have limited experiences with women, practically none with trans women, and none with trans men. So my knowledge is based on AMAB I guess one could say.

First of all in attraction, I think one of my attractions to men is the male mystique. Men seem so unpredictable, you never know what you are going get. Now, I'd prefer predictable, but the unpredictability keeps you on your toes to try to figure out. Also note, just because a cis man comes with a penis, doesn't mean his penis is his focus. Some men are more oriented by their mouths, some by their nipples, some by their asses, etc.

Then if it is m2m sex, you also have to deal with all the non-sense of dealing with self-image/self-respect. There is all this "I'm not gay as I don't care for guys, just their junk" so just as long as there is no emotional caring in their mind they cannot be gay/bi -- as if there aren't any gay men who are only into getting as much cock as possible -- with no interest in the man its attached to.

Then mainly in the gay world I have noticed a small, but growing niche of guys who want all sorts of genital modifications: nullo, eunuch, vaginoplasty, penectomy, etc who continue to want to be "men", but not so much male. Some consider themselves just a "hole" for men. Some even like to use terms like trans or non-binary for themselves -- though I cannot fathom the connection.

For instance, I assume you were AFAB (assigned female at birth) and thus configured with a vagina. I'm assuming for most trans men, there was a whole area of mental anguish growing up dealing with society that had gender role expectations based on your plumbing that seemed wrong to you. How is that the same as a AMAB (assigned male at birth) who doesn't deal with mental anguish with gender rolls? They are perfectly happy being a man, they simply want some other genital configuration. (One of the things I don't "get" about this niche world is wanting to get rid of their testicles only to have to turn around and take testostrone manually to have the hormones that used to be "freely there from their balls. Perhaps the combo of a vagina with testicles is hard to configure. However, it still seems strange to me...)

Anyway, I digress... If I were having sex with someone one, I not only have to think about what equipment I have, and my emotional make up, but also their equipment and what their emotional make up is.

Now I have been in a relationship with the same man for almost 24 years. He has no desire to change his genital configuration -- same with me. In honesty, my sex life is ruined because my equipment doesn't work. My orientation is that of a top. Not because I'm somehow less "gay" or more manly, or some other better-than-my-male-partner attitude way, but because from my earliest memories, I wanted to be so close to a guy, that I wanted to be inside him. (If I was a creator, I would have made hairy, muscular, manly guys who could be impregnated and also built with a marsupial pouch (like kangaroos have) so that you could be inside your "dad" even after birth.

While I don't have a fetish or craving for cock & balls, I would never want my partner to loose his. I appreciate balls because I found out in my early 20's that I myself am infertile. Now while I have no desire to have a penis inside me, there is comfort and familiarity with experiencing signs of sexual arousal in another man who posses a penis.

 

[CousinB]

I think you’re absolutely correct. It’s the energy with another guy. It’s just different, better… so much better.

I totally agree with you…different energy. I certainly enjoyed sex with a woman but now at 65, I finally realized sex with men is the only way to go for me.

 

[heelsNsqueals]

I totally agree with you…different energy. I certainly enjoyed sex with a woman but now at 65, I finally realized sex with men is the only way to go for me.

Omg I so relate. I had been curious because of various kinks but never intended to follow through with it. Luckily when I was 50 I had a chance meeting with a 30 year old drag queen. Well he saw right through me and put me on my knees. in all my years I could never have imagined the joy and pleasure of being taken by a man - so addictive

 

[cubbyfire04]

Testosterone. Raw primality. I feel like sex with the opposite gender involves a more thoughtful approach to pleasing the partner because our minds are wired differently. With a man, were celebrating voracity and intuitively know what each other wants. Less thinking, more acting on instinct.