Wife sharing, cuck and some angry reviews

[jdolinger]

Most of the negative responses are from insecure men. I understand how the stag and vixen dynamic is totally different than cuckholding. People assume that wife-sharing equals being a cuck, which of course is false. For a lot of the haters, knowing that distinction doesn't matter. So don't waste your time on them.

 

[MalDufleurs]

This is a new development. A LW author here. Most of the time, people dislike my stories for featuring bulls, cucks, and submissive men. Readers tend to prefer swinging or swapping and have a distaste for anything outside of that. They dislike power plays, and whenever a power play is involved, they blame the MMC for not being “man enough” and the MFC for being a loveless bitch.

So, it’s perplexing that you’re facing completely opposite criticisms. I’ve attached some comments below to show just how much hate I get—and how little I care. I hope you can take this as a lesson to ignore the trolls and write whatever you want. View attachment 2578132
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Yikes. I suppose in a way this isn’t surprising. There’s a lot of angry people out there. For me writing about sex is celebratory, explorative and occasionally cathartic, but it’s never angry because, well, that’s a feeling to move on from. But I think I’ve had a lucky life.

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Loving wives seems to attract a wide variety of interest, but also people (men?) who have very narrow tolerance for anything outside of their interests.

It seems to be for everything from monogamous dedicated wives having romantic sex to cheating slut wives getting their comeuppance and every step and combination in between. But those looking for one get very upset and absolutely _have_ to comment when they find a story not to their liking. Heaven forbid someone write something they don't personally enjoy, or the outcome isn't the one they personally want in their projected fantasy.

 

[Smoothdean]

I wish we could separate the cuckold stories out of Loving Wives and into their own category. Random LW seems to be mostly cuckold stories lately.

 

[Ianus4]

I think Lit's category system is primarily to blame here. The LW category attempts to cover at least three, but more likely four, very different reader needs, each of which would require its own category:
1. Cheating
2. Cheating with RAAC
3. Open marriage, hotwife, cuckolding
4. The stories about faithful wives who truly loves their husband only.

Putting these into one category is guaranteed to cause controversy, as cheating can bring back traumatic memories for many people. I think it's unnecessary to call them incel.
It's the same as mixing the Romance and NonCon categories. For some people, NonCon is traumatic, for others it's the mention of cheating or open marriage.

The Interracial category is the same: bwwm, bwam, wmmb etc. love stories are mixed with BBC smut stories, the latter often involving forced cuckolding. The readers of these two are again completely different.

Erotic desires are very different, and in many cases incompatible. Tolerance is important on the part of both authors and readers, but it would be better to treat such conflicting demands in separate categories.

It also doesn't help that the tags are only visible at the end of the story. If they were right under the title, it would save everyone a lot of annoyance.

 

[Sophia69eternally]

Loving wives seems to attract a wide variety of interest, but also people (men?) who have very narrow tolerance for anything outside of their interests.

It seems to be for everything from monogamous dedicated wives having romantic sex to cheating slut wives getting their comeuppance and every step and combination in between. But those looking for one get very upset and absolutely _have_ to comment when they find a story not to their liking. Heaven forbid someone write something they don't personally enjoy, or the outcome isn't the one they personally want in their projected fantasy.

I've noticed in reactions to the few stories I have written that involve the Loving Wives/cheating wives yield a dynamic a wide range of responses The non-anonymous posters will rate them rather highly while anonymous posters will rate them as low as possible and add deranged comments that they hope the wife gets HIV/AIDS and dies a slow and painful death. WTF? I have little doubt these same posters are quite ok with just about every other depraved behavior that passes site guidelines on Literotica, so I always wonder what happened or is happening in their personal relationships with women that leaves them so broken and dysfunctional that a fictional story triggers such a disproportionate and emotional response. The best response to them is studied indifference bordering on catatonia.

 

[CalBishForNow]

I think Lit's category system is primarily to blame here. The LW category attempts to cover at least three, but more likely four, very different reader needs, each of which would require its own category:
1. Cheating
2. Cheating with RAAC
3. Open marriage, hotwife, cuckolding
4. The stories about faithful wives who truly loves their husband only.

I agree, but there's no fix as simple as splitting one category into multiples. One story/series could logically include all four of those, or multiples of them depending on subjective judgments about whether an ending is happy enough, whether the cost of reconciliation was really reasonable or not, etc.

Personally as someone who's mostly writing stories in the 3rd section there, I just keep my expectations lower for ratings in the LW category than in other categories and ignore the crazies.

It also doesn't help that the tags are only visible at the end of the story. If they were right under the title, it would save everyone a lot of annoyance.

Tags are also visible on the first page of a story if you select the right tab in the sidebar. See below.

 

[Ianus4]

I agree, but there's no fix as simple as splitting one category into multiples. One story/series could logically include all four of those, or multiples of them depending on subjective judgments about whether an ending is happy enough, whether the cost of reconciliation was really reasonable or not, etc.

Personally as someone who's mostly writing stories in the 3rd section there, I just keep my expectations lower for ratings in the LW category than in other categories and ignore the crazies.

Of course, all categorization involves compromise, but I think it would be justified here due to the highly diverse audience.

Tags are also visible on the first page of a story if you select the right tab in the sidebar. See below.
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Thank you, one always learns something new.

 

[jdolinger]

I've noticed in reactions to the few stories I have written that involve the Loving Wives/cheating wives yield a dynamic a wide range of responses The non-anonymous posters will rate them rather highly while anonymous posters will rate them as low as possible and add deranged comments that they hope the wife gets HIV/AIDS and dies a slow and painful death. WTF? I have little doubt these same posters are quite ok with just about every other depraved behavior that passes site guidelines on Literotica, so I always wonder what happened or is happening in their personal relationships with women that leaves them so broken and dysfunctional that a fictional story triggers such a disproportionate and emotional response. The best response to them is studied indifference bordering on catatonia.

Insecure people. Non-healed people. That's probably what we're dealing with.

My wife (now ex-wife) cheated on me, but I still find the stories to be incredibly hot. Don't know why, but I do.

Another possibility is that they're offended by the idea of a woman being sexually liberated like that, especially if the husband is just seemingly a non-participant. It would blow their minds to know that it's biologically normal/natural for women to have multiple partners.

 

[Ianus4]

Insecure people. Non-healed people. That's probably what we're dealing with.

My wife (now ex-wife) cheated on me, but I still find the stories to be incredibly hot. Don't know why, but I do.

Another possibility is that they're offended by the idea of a woman being sexually liberated like that, especially if the husband is just seemingly a non-participant. It would blow their minds to know that it's biologically normal/natural for women to have multiple partners.

I think it is unnecessary to judge representatives of either side. Most people go to Lit because something is missing from their (sexual) lives. It could be a partner of a different gender than they have experienced in real life, an unexperienced fetish, a deep connection with their partner, or even trust in another person. Even so-called "strong" personalities are often just a facade.
The biggest problem with the LW section is that it mixes stories favoring monogamy with those favoring open relationships, even though I believe that one of a person's deepest convictions, their fundamental wiring, is related to relationships—even more so than what gender they are attracted to. Despite this, gay and lesbian stories are still placed in separate categories, while LW is a jumble of stories both for and against monogamy. One side constantly feels provoked by the other, and vice versa.
There is also a Group Sex category, which, according to the description, is also for swinger stories - perhaps this is where the voluntary wife-sharing stories should be published, as long as separate categories are not created for different needs. The audience there would probably receive these stories more positively than on LW.