Women Help/Advice Needed

[KinkyVinyl]

I'm 42 and speaking from experience ... I have been in 'happy' relationships but found different kinds of excitement online. It happens. But, whether you cheat in real life or you 'cheat' over the internet, it all boils down to the same. If your mind is being occupied by another, you are cheating and that's not good. Not necessarily because it's morally wrong (coz I'm not a judge) but you're going to end up wrapping yourself up in lies and deceit which will cause stress & inevitably people getting hurt. You may be one of the lucky ones and not get found out, that's down to you & whether you're willing to take the risk and/or cause your SO hurt. I think I can safely say, I learnt my lesson .... but you can't put an old head on young shoulders

I am very happy now though

 

[Meghan32]

wow

Steps have already been taken to employ the "one thing led to another" or "all of a sudden / next thing you know my penis fell into her vagina" defense.





Kevin, it looks as though you are looking for a way to have your bit o' cupcake on the side and keep cake at home. Many here will not support this idea. Some will, but many won't.

"Old friend", "both attached", "Only be a random hook up for sex", "temptation"...blah, blah, blah. This isn't a job opportunity that has landed in your lap while you are currently employed. It involves real lives, with real people who have ideas and feelings and values as to what a "relationship" is.

If your idea of relationship differs from your partner's, cut her loose and go and explore your old friend, and her friends too if you want.

To save you the time and trouble of starting another thread about whether or not your girl's ideas / feelings / relationship beliefs and values agree with your actions or intentions, I will offer you this:

If what you are doing or thinking about doing would hurt or upset the other in your relationship should you tell her or she find out, then her ideas and yours differ.

And before you explain how distance and being careful and discretion are all in play here, and she would never find out, I would put to you that you would know. And if you truly respected, loved and cared for this person, such a betrayal really should not be an option.
If it wouldn't bother you at all, go back to my suggestion above and let her go. She deserves to be with someone who would be bothered by even the idea of this, and you can go forth and piston your peni into any old friend that'll have you.

Emerson,
Bravo! Very nicely stated. I agree. And bonus points with free sprinkles for the usage of the word "peni".
M

 

[CeasarBoobage]

Hi

I am wondering if the women of the forum can offer me some advice.

I am current in a relationship but have been flirting and receiving pics from an old friend.

We are both attached but I think there could be scope for some adult fun with no commitment.

She is very open about her sex life and boasts about her sex drive, doesnt mind me complementing her on her looks and assets but I dont get the feeling she would want to meet, although when it has been mentioned she has said she would see if she could get away for the night.

Is she just having some flirty fun or is there intention there to take it further.

Thanks in advance

Honestly I think she is just after some flirting. Many times a person in a relationship can feel like they hit a rut and miss the 'spark' of newness. She wants to be admired, to be complimented, and to hear nice things.

This seems to basically be all foreplay, but the consummation is that tricky last step that seals the deal of physical cheating. Right now all you have is the 'emotional cheating' that is not quite as bad.

I have seen this happen - all one person wants is the excitement and danger, so they find someone they trust enough to play and keep it quiet. Once one party tries going too far it gets weird and it's done.

If you really want to flirt a bit, that's one thing. Keep your junk in your pants though, I don't see a real hookup working well. Think of your SO and how you would feel if she was in your position. Don't do anything that would lead to a breakup if you found out.

 

[CeasarBoobage]

Edit: Double post