❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Paul_Chance]

I'd basically be Florence Welch on tour for a day. A singer, songwriter, and dancer bringing an audience together through the power of music, lyrics, and movement.

Good choice!

 

[EvaLane]

Stripper and naked waiter at a bachelorette party.

You took my answer!!

Oh wait…

Stripper and naked waitress at a BACHELOR party! Duhhhhhh

 

[Wriggle]

You took my answer!!

Oh wait…

Stripper and naked waiter at a BACHELOR party! Duhhhhhh

It's the 21st century - maybe we could do a double act.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I wonder which is better tips? Bachelor party or Bachelorette party?

 

[Wand3rlust]

I am either going to be PLP's personal stylist and make her try on all her sexy shit in front of me all day or...

I am going to be the gunner on a helicopter hunting hogs in Texas for pest control...

Guns or boobs bro... Guns or boobs...

If there's a contest, you need to have a word with yourself.

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

If there's a contest, you need to have a word with yourself.

Are you implying I should talk to myself more often than I already do?

 

[Wand3rlust]

Are you implying I should talk to myself more often than I already do?

Could that be possible?..

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

Could that be possible?..

Yes... I just need to find more boobs to look at that leave to awe stricken to speak

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'd basically be Florence Welch on tour for a day. A singer, songwriter, and dancer bringing an audience together through the power of music, lyrics, and movement.

Maybe the perfect answer.

I am either going to be PLP's personal stylist and make her try on all her sexy shit in front of me all day or...

I am going to be the gunner on a helicopter hunting hogs in Texas for pest control...

Guns or boobs bro... Guns or boobs...

Choose wisely!

 

[Apisto42]

01.28.25

Occupational Fantasy

Alright this was a little thought experiment I was asked last week and I'm passing it on to you all.

If you could have any job for ONE day, what job would you want?
Caveats -
* You are really good at this job, need no training, and enjoy it
* You cannot take anything with you after your 24 hrs is up. No cashing out as CEO.
* You will only have the only the one day so for some jobs you will only have the work with no pay off or the pay off without experiencing the work. (i.e. if you choose author - you can write or you can publish but not both)

What are you doing?

Coral reef photographer in the South Pacific.

 

[seela]

01.20.26

Love Letters

Have you written one? Received one? Do you think love letters are an outdated form of affection or do you think we should write more love letters?
Do you keep them even if the relationship has ended? Reread them? Would it bother you if a current partner kept love notes from an ex? Would it bother your current partner if you kept some?

I’ve never written a love letter that I can remember anyway. It’s possible I have done so in some young puppy love stage, but I’m not sure.

Back in the days when I was still creative and wrote things, I did write stories and poems which I suppose could be considered love letters in a way. I never intended to show them anybody, though.

I’ve never received a love letter, either. I have received a couple really lovely messages and I have screen capped them to save for posteriority. I wouldn’t count them as love letters by a long shot, though.

My partner has received a love letter from someone else and has saved it. I’ve read it (by his and hers permission, actually) and it was quite lovely. It played into a certain kink I have, which was an added bonus, but most of all it made me see my partner in a different light and that outside perspective made me appreciate certain aspects of him even more.

01.28.25

Occupational Fantasy

Alright this was a little thought experiment I was asked last week and I'm passing it on to you all.

If you could have any job for ONE day, what job would you want?
Caveats -
* You are really good at this job, need no training, and enjoy it
* You cannot take anything with you after your 24 hrs is up. No cashing out as CEO.
* You will only have the only the one day so for some jobs you will only have the work with no pay off or the pay off without experiencing the work. (i.e. if you choose author - you can write or you can publish but not both)

What are you doing?

I’m either an awesome polyglot linguist that solves tricky problems or someone who’s guaranteed to see a platypus in the wild, so a platypus field researcher or something. In my fantasy the weather is really good and not too hot on the platypus spotting day too.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

I wrote a letter once.

I have written so many letters, mostly in the form of emails. I type much faster than I can handwrite, and, I can send it and still have a copy, because while I type really fast and have basically no editor inside of me, I still reread everything I write once it is too late.

I do sometimes catch typos and little errors and if editing is possible, like on a forum, I try to fix it before people notice, but those first 10 minutes or so, it can be rough.

I wrote quite a few letters to my lady loves over the years, especially when discussing topics that were matters of the heart, or critical to our relationship.

I found it was easier to write things that were difficult to say in person, without having to worry about being interrupted, distracted, shouted down.

And the person reading, if they continue reading, is either skimming or paying attention, and the odds are, they will pay better attention while reading and also, be able to re-read anything I say that they didn't quite absorb the first time.

Long talks generally involve a dialogue, and I try to maintain that as the first, best form of communication, but when something is hard to say or badly needs to be said and understood, I write a letter for clarity and to remain focused.

I lose my place and get distracted if I have a lot to say and someone starts talking because I may talk a lot but I listen even better than I write.

And my listening requires me to empty my mind and accept what I'm being told and consider it.

So whatever I had to say vanishes like candle smoke in the wind. It's just gone. I lose my place.

Sometimes I can't have a heart to heart talk with the risk of my half of the conversation vanishing like that.

I always read what she writes back in full. Listening is the art of taking turns not talking, and paying attention.

I always listen. I'm too good a listener sometimes. I don't argue, and sometimes, I don't wait until she's done talking to tell her why I disagree or to argue my position.

I generally wait overnight, sleep on it, think on what she has to say, and then if I badly feel my position needs to be considered, we have a talk, or I write.

Example- I'm being yelled at for something that I couldn't possibly reasonably be expected to know.

I listen, so, right away, stop yelling, I'm listening.
I try to consider her point of view, what if I'm wrong.
I get upset I'm being mistreated, but she's also upset, so I am there for her.
I wait.
I think on it. I still believe I'm being mistreated.
I sleep on it.
I think on it more, I'm upset that my being mistreated wasn't obvious to her.
I think on what I want to say.
She's calm, it's passed, I ask her if we can talk.

I explain why it was not needed to hurt me like that. I expect her to listen, since I am talking calmly and rationally and I listened yesterday when she was yelling at me.
I explain my two positions I need her to hear.
1. It was not reasonable to expect me to know the thing she got angry about. Her feelings are valid, but if I've been judged to do something wrong, it must be reasonable to feel that way. Please reconsider.

2. Even if there were a valid reason to be upset with me, see how I listened. Yelling is not needed. I grew up in an abusive household, I don't deserve to be yelled at in a threatening manner. That needs to stop, please. It's not needed and it hurts me, to a large degree. I will never do that to you and I am asking respectfully for reciprocal treatment. I deserve to be treated kindly as your beloved, and I treat you with that respect, ALWAYS.

Those are my two positions.

I was heard, and we moved on, and I don't get yelled at anymore.

But sometimes, a conversation like that needs to be a letter.

I prefer to write long, romantic letters. Those are fun.

I've also written long, just for her eyes only, erotic stories involving what I'd like to do to her.
I wrote many of those when I was with Sharon, between 10 and 20 years ago, and many of those when I was with Aja, before that. They were very sexual women and greatly enjoyed my erotica, and then, acting it all out.

Those are fun letters.

Good communication is important for both stressful and really exciting or romantic topics. It doesn't have to be all bad.

But, and here's the point of why I'm replying-

I feel you on not getting a response back.

Nope, I’ve never written a true love letter and I’ve never received one either.
Or maybe I have and it’s just gone unanswered, unnoticed, and un-relevant

Oh no....

I'm so sorry to hear that.

I feel if the person I care about has taken the time to write down a message for me, that is the most important message I will ever read in my entire life, until the next time she writes me a message.

I once wrote my ex, my wife now separated, a message asking about our love and romantic life, asking if we could try to relight the spark.... and I got nothing from her for over a year.

I felt like I stopped mattering to her entirely.

It was the worst feeling and it was confirmed a year later when she finally said our romance was over, because she couldn't feel romance, or sexual feelings, and I was, at best, a friend or a roomate.

She was, I thought, the love of my life.

And then she was gone, we never had a discussion as to why.

Just, love love love and romance, got married, and then one day, it all stopped from her.

Forever.

No idea why. It's something I will never know.

It hurts, really badly.

You deserve to be answered.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

01.28.25

Occupational Fantasy

Alright this was a little thought experiment I was asked last week and I'm passing it on to you all.

If you could have any job for ONE day, what job would you want?
Caveats -
* You are really good at this job, need no training, and enjoy it
* You cannot take anything with you after your 24 hrs is up. No cashing out as CEO.
* You will only have the only the one day so for some jobs you will only have the work with no pay off or the pay off without experiencing the work. (i.e. if you choose author - you can write or you can publish but not both)

What are you doing?

Therapist, teacher, tutor, guidance counselor, judge, social worker.

INFJ-T shit.

But I came excruciatingly close to being a social worker, got a contract and everything, did months of training, passed the police background check. Never started, boss suddenly stopped responding to correspondence, never gave me a single shift, even after the contract was signed.

Baffling and unprofessional.

I had an abusive childhood, I would have LOVED to be there for kids going through similar shit. They need to know there's a reason to live.

I sure didn't have one.

 

[LostHorizon]

01.28.25

Occupational Fantasy

Alright this was a little thought experiment I was asked last week and I'm passing it on to you all.

If you could have any job for ONE day, what job would you want?
Caveats -
* You are really good at this job, need no training, and enjoy it
* You cannot take anything with you after your 24 hrs is up. No cashing out as CEO.
* You will only have the only the one day so for some jobs you will only have the work with no pay off or the pay off without experiencing the work. (i.e. if you choose author - you can write or you can publish but not both)

What are you doing?

I love observing nature and animals in their habitat. I learn so much from them, so much about how to live my own life. There are many valuable lessons to be drawn from nature and watching animals just be themselves.

I think the ideal job is filming wild animals for the nature shows. Just being a quiet observer capturing the unfiltered brutal beauty of animals, how they hunt or avoid being hunted, how they court, raise their children and even in some cases help each other.

There are so many lessons in their stories. What a great way to spend a day.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

 

[Apisto42]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

Pardon me my good fellow, but I’m about to shit myself. Toodles!

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

Only ask open ended questions. Such as “what do you think about the new rabbit vib?”

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

You look familiar, were you in the federal penitentiary system from 2005-2009?

If you’re doing some common activity (school, work function, rock climbing, grand theft auto, crack, etc) reference that. Ask an open ended question.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

One uppers - you’ve got a neat story and then they go “yeah, but listen to this shit.” And it’s way better than your own anecdote.

 

[Photog1rl]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

In person-I am pretty bad at this. I often listen way longer than I want to. If it’s my mom, I just hang up when I’m done listening to her. For others I’ll say something like “oh it’s been great chatting but I’ve really got to go so I can use the restroom.” I’d rather pretend to pee then make them feel bad.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation?

In person I start to use open ended questions if I want to continue the conversation. I will sometimes take it as a hint they are not too interested in a conversation though and sometimes just let it fizzle out.

Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I ask about something I know they have an interest in and make sure I have a few questions to initiate and engage so that hopefully there is enough to get things started until they flow naturally.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

People that give me nothing to work with or don’t share the talking space or talk over me. I consciously don’t talk the entire time, although I could, but I want to hear what others have to say and I want to have someone that wants to hear my side too. The folks that give nothing make me feel insecure and like they are not interested in the conversation and I’m less likely to continue to engage.

 

[cheekygirl75]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

I’ll try to find some excuse to get away. If I’m a captive audience & can’t physically go anywhere, it’s harder. Maybe say I have a headache and need to close my eyes? Or just tune out

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

Oh, this is one of my biggest pet peeves!!! And I hate to generalize, but I find men do this a lot. Many don’t tend to ask reciprocal questions. If I’m just getting to know someone, I’ll give them a couple of chances and try to throw in something “respondable”. If it continues to happen, I’ll often let the conversation fizzle, assuming they’re just not interested.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I’m terrible at this, but will try to find something we have in common, maybe, or comment on something around us. Or there’s always the generic questions of where they’re from or, yes, the weather. I used to ask about work, but some people get weird about that, so I’ve mostly stopped that, at least until we’ve talked a couple of times.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

All of what @Photog1rl said! I couldn’t have said it better.

People that give me nothing to work with or don’t share the talking space or talk over me. I consciously don’t talk the entire time, although I could, but I want to hear what others have to say and I want to have someone that wants to hear my side too. The folks that give nothing make me feel insecure and like they are not interested in the conversation and I’m less likely to continue to engage.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

I think this is generally easier as a a guy. I have no problem just walking out of the room if I need to end a conversation.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

Depends on the situation. If their lack of engagement feels like disinterest, I’ll let the conversation die . If, like say my wife, who is terminally shy, I’m fine juts yammering on until she feels like she has something to add. The key is paying attention to the cues.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I rarely start a conversation unless I have an opener. A shared interest or comment that I think I got at least a couple follow-up questions on.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves.

In person, not taking my cues that I’m done and making me be rude and walk away. That’s on you buddy.

Online? Very few. I’m pretty casual and will let conversations ebb and flow as interest or attention or new information or time allow.

 

[Azuldrgon]

First off if it's okay.

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

*reaches into pocket and grabs my phone like a message just popped up while it was on silent. Smile, let them know you have to take it and walk away.*

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

I'd say move on honestly. Some folks are of few words. Some have different things on their minds. If you gave them an honest chance to chime in and it didn't take, then don't try to force it.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

Hopefully, you have an interesting greeting where you introduce yourself and go from there. I think once the weather topic shows up, it's time to thank them for their time and move on.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

People who don't listen. People who try to bully you into agreement. People who waste your time when there are others you'd like to check in with. Conversation, like any other message media, is meant to be two ways. Talk, then listen before responding. Just my two cents.

 

[Wriggle]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

Good luck with that - I'm the incessant talker.
They deal with me by just not replying or just responding with mmmm.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

I don't - I will drift away.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I usually follow on something specific they said along the way and expand from there.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

Dead enders - the one word answers.
Them wanting you to do all the attention giving.

 

[Photog1rl]

Them wanting you to do all the attention giving.

Ouch! You didn’t have to call me out like that!

All of what @Photog1rl said! I couldn’t have said it better.

birds of a feather and all that.

People who try to bully you into agreement.

This!!! We don’t have to agree on things.

 

[seela]

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

Living where I do, this is rarely a problem for me. I’ve been in a situation like that a few times in my life though, and I had no clue how to get out of the situation, so I’ll read the answers here intently in case the situation arises again in the future!

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

I don’t really bother talking to people who don’t seem to want to talk to me. Luckily being quiet is not an issue in this neck of the woods. Ah, comfortable silence.

Online, I give maybe one or two chances with open ended questions and if they seem like they don’t care or their answer to the questions is very limited, I move on.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I almost exclusively start conversations with people at work and they’re not necessarily the people I’d like to talk to. I always talk about something general work related with them. In every other context the conversations are started by someone else.

I wouldn’t even know how to approach someone I really want to talk to. I don’t know how to do that on Lit, so I for sure wouldn’t be able to do it in real life.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

Conversations that feel like interviews. They ask a question, I answer, they ask another question on a different topic… The conversation never even begins because they never grab onto anything I say or never elaborate if I ask a general ”how about you” after I’ve answered a question they asked.

One uppers - you’ve got a neat story and then they go “yeah, but listen to this shit.” And it’s way better than your own anecdote.

Come to think of it, this always happens when talking about dreams. I tell a funny dream I had, it reminds the other person of their dream and it’s always funnier/better/more interesting than my meager night time escapades. I hate it when that happens.

People that give me nothing to work with or don’t share the talking space or talk over me. I consciously don’t talk the entire time, although I could, but I want to hear what others have to say and I want to have someone that wants to hear my side too. The folks that give nothing make me feel insecure and like they are not interested in the conversation and I’m less likely to continue to engage.

Yes to allllll of this! (Except the bolded bit, because I for sure couldn’t talk the entire time.)

I’ll try to find some excuse to get away. If I’m a captive audience & can’t physically go anywhere, it’s harder. Maybe say I have a headache and need to close my eyes? Or just tune out

The bolded bit is my nightmare. It’s insanely horrible when you’re stuck on a plane next to a person who won’t stop yapping for 8 hours, like happened one time. The person even waited for me at the luggage pick up afterwards and gave me their phone number in case I ever happen to come to St Louis and want to hang by their pool. And her job? She looks for and imports wives to American men. That whole thing was so weird.

Depends on the situation. If their lack of engagement feels like disinterest, I’ll let the conversation die . If, like say my wife, who is terminally shy, I’m fine juts yammering on until she feels like she has something to add. The key is paying attention to the cues.

What kind of cues are there that someone is shy and reserved rather than just wants you to shut up? I’m not sure which way I come across, so I’m curious.

People who try to bully you into agreement.

Yup, this is awful. A lot of people don’t seem to know it’s entirely possible to disagree on something and still agree on something else. The world won’t come to an end.

Them wanting you to do all the attention giving.

Oh yes. I used to work with someone like that for one summer when I was still studying.

 

[Wriggle]

Plus regarding this....

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I think you have to bite the bullet and just send the message... You regret the things you wished you had done and didn't because you were scared.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

What kind of cues are there that someone is shy and reserved rather than just wants you to shut up? I’m not sure which way I come across, so I’m curious.

In real life? It’s pretty easy to pick up on body language if you’re paying attention.

On threads? It’s mostly a do they react or ignore my posts. If I speak to them to they laugh or thumb. Do they ever reply? If I reply to someone on thread two or three times and get nothing, no likes no replies I assume they’re not amused by me and move on. If I get something I’ll continue to engage when a thought occurs to me until I have a reason to PM them or they PM me or they stop engaging.

Once in PM’s? I don’t know but I rarely initiate them so if I’m in one it’s usually because someone seemed interested in talking to me