❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[EvaLane]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

Well, I drop all pleasantries and become very blunt. I withhold all placating nonsense, I interrupt, I change the subject to something I’d care to talk about.

How strange, they didn’t want me to go on a 10 minute ramble about the Twilight opening scene and found a reason for the conversation to end

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

If it‘s someone I have genuine interest in, I’ll carry on the conversation by asking one (or many) questions without expecting much in return.

I feel like we (people) put a lot of stock into societal norms with people who stick out of that framework like a sore erection thumb. I only connect with people who, while incredibly intelligent and communicative, have their own lives and their own mess in their brains - sometimes they aren’t focused on the fundamental back and forth, they’re just… being while allowing me to spectate.

It’s the genuine insight into who they are that drives the conversation forward rather than the hope they may want insight into me.

(let’s be real, that’s an obvious duh)

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

Oh, I have lots of hot goss to facilitate a conversation, trust me

Hot take - gossip does bring people together, I don’t care if it’s discussing how idiotic Selena Gomez looks actually publicly kissing that dirty man’s toes or about a prolitfic AI catfish, I have the reserves and the floodgates will open.

What isn’t gossip?

Personal and sensitive information that someone has shared with me in confidence.

There’s a big difference and I sorta wish people understood that before casting a blanket statement like “gossip baddddd hurrr durrr women so dramatic”

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

Someone who refuses to indulge in hot goss lmao

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

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Well, I drop all pleasantries and become very blunt. I withhold all placating nonsense, I interrupt, I change the subject to something I’d care to talk about.

How strange, they didn’t want me to go on a 10 minute ramble about the Twilight opening scene and found a reason for the conversation to end

If it‘s someone I have genuine interest in, I’ll carry on the conversation by asking one (or many) questions without expecting much in return.

I feel like we (people) put a lot of stock into societal norms with people who stick out of that framework like a sore erection thumb. I only connect with people who, while incredibly intelligent and communicative, have their own lives and their own mess in their brains - sometimes they aren’t focused on the fundamental back and forth, they’re just… being while allowing me to spectate.

It’s the genuine insight into who they are that drives the conversation forward rather than the hope they may want insight into me.

(let’s be real, that’s an obvious duh)

Oh, I have lots of hot goss to facilitate a conversation, trust me

Hot take - gossip does bring people together, I don’t care if it’s discussing how idiotic Selena Gomez looks actually publicly kissing that dirty man’s toes or about a prolitfic AI catfish, I have the reserves and the floodgates will open.

What isn’t gossip?

Personal and sensitive information that someone has shared with me in confidence.

There’s a big difference and I sorta wish people understood that before casting a blanket statement like “gossip baddddd hurrr durrr women so dramatic”

Someone who refuses to indulge in hot goss lmao

But what if I have no hot goss?!?!

 

[Apisto42]

And her job? She looks for and imports wives to American men. That whole thing was so weird.

Ok, everything else you wrote is great, interesting, I agree with lots of it. And then you just sneak this little nugget in.

WTF?!? That’s a story right there. You were being interviewed and possibly groomed for kidnapping at some point. “Stay at my place, use the pool…”.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

I've gotten very good at simply saying, "Hold up - I'm interested in what you have to say, but I really need you to make your point and move on." (either move on to the next topic, or, hopefully, move on to their next conversation partner).

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

It depends. I have a ton of patience in a work/counseling context. If someone doesn't feel like talking, I'm comfortable just sitting with them, or asking short questions if they just need to come out of their shell a bit (-most- people are happy to talk about themselves when given the chance, if they feel they're safe and won't be judged). But if I'm in a social context and the conversation just isn't happening, then I'll just chalk it up to, "we're not clicking" and leave it at that. Maybe come back around later if we get drunk or high, and see if it works better than sober.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I still don't know. I'm convinced that everyone I try to talk to will think I'm just trying to be creepy. Which... might be true.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

A political diatribe is not a conversation.

 

[EvaLane]

But what if I have no hot goss?!?!

 

[Dribble]

It took me 5 minutes to figure out "hot goss" is short for hot gossip. I thought it was a misspelling for gas...like hot air...so yea...mark me off a list of potentials.

 

[velona]

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

If it’s someone I know really well, generally “OkGottaGoLoveYouBye!!” whenever they come up for air. For others, probably “so sorry to interrupt, I really want to hear about [whatever the current topic is] but I need to run!”

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

Depends how much I want to talk to them? If I want to engage I’ll keep asking questions or throwing out topics. If not, I’m ok with silence

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I don’t love the weather as an ice breaker but I’m ok with something seasonally relevant, like “what’s your favorite first sign of spring?” Or, better yet, asking for an opinion like “I’m planning to bake brownies this weekend and can’t decide if I should include walnuts, what do you think?” (People have feelings about walnuts in brownies!

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

People who give nothing back, just makes me feel like they are uninterested

 

[Whiskeyjack]

If it’s someone I know really well, generally “OkGottaGoLoveYouBye!!” whenever they come up for air. For others, probably “so sorry to interrupt, I really want to hear about [whatever the current topic is] but I need to run!”


Depends how much I want to talk to them? If I want to engage I’ll keep asking questions or throwing out topics. If not, I’m ok with silence

I don’t love the weather as an ice breaker but I’m ok with something seasonally relevant, like “what’s your favorite first sign of spring?” Or, better yet, asking for an opinion like “I’m planning to bake brownies this weekend and can’t decide if I should include walnuts, what do you think?” (People have feelings about walnuts in brownies!


People who give nothing back, just makes me feel like they are uninterested

Whoever first put walnuts in brownies was a malignant psychopath and the world has been worse off ever since.
You're right! People -do- have feelings about walnuts in brownies!

 

[velona]

Whoever first put walnuts in brownies was a malignant psychopath and the world has been worse off ever since.
You're right! People -do- have feelings about walnuts in brownies!

For the record, I agree that walnuts in brownies are an abomination!!

 

[cheekygirl75]

(People have feelings about walnuts in brownies!

I think I'm actually neutral... I wouldn't choose to put them in, but I won't turn down a brownie with them, either!

 

[AlexBailey]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

I’m just gonna freestyle this, not really paying attention to the format….


I was at a hardware store yesterday when a random guy in the aisle was talking to himself as he was picking out parts. When I looked over he started telling me all about his project in technical details with an air that I wouldn’t understand. Funny thing is that I was an early integrator and educator in what he was talking


He gave me lots to respond to, I could have given him useful pointers. I had a lot of the information he was looking for but he wouldn’t shut up long enough or give me an in to respond.

He got a clerk’s attention and spun around to tell him everything he’d just told me, almost like he was on meth.

I tried butting in, asking a few questions that helped him consider some of the details he needed the clerk to understand but he acted like I was interrupting his time with the clerk who only had some basic general knowledge about the subject. I just walked away and headed for the check out line.

I was nearly done at the checkout when the guy got behind me and started telling me all he’d learned from the clerk when the woman at the register asked for my charge account information. I gave her my account number and she verified my business and name.

The guy’s eyes popped. He recognized my name from when I used to host a local radio show on the subject. He asked, “You’re Alex _____? Oh shit! You know all about this stuff. You got a minute?”

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

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[LordofDargaardkeep]

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

It depends on who the person is and how important I deem the topic... if its a dude or a buddy thats just rambling I will say "bro shut the fuck up, we got shit to do"..
If its someone expressing something of importance to them or its someone really important to me I will try to make the time or tell them I will get right back to them.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

If the conversation is dead I just leave it. I am not begging anyone to talk to me .. We are all adults, if we don't vibe we probably shouldn't be talking anyway. If its someone who the conversation generally flows with I will ask them whats going on or tell them we can talk later after we work through whatever bullshit we are dealing with.. Isnt the key to good conversation and being a good conversationalist about being fluid?

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I go straight to what makes me want to talk to them in the beginning.. but I am kind of bold. If I find you or something you said or did interesting I will bring it up.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

Be engaging, be attentive or at least clever enough to make me think you're paying attention. Don't linger or be short if you're not into it

 

[seela]

In real life? It’s pretty easy to pick up on body language if you’re paying attention.

On threads? It’s mostly a do they react or ignore my posts. If I speak to them to they laugh or thumb. Do they ever reply? If I reply to someone on thread two or three times and get nothing, no likes no replies I assume they’re not amused by me and move on. If I get something I’ll continue to engage when a thought occurs to me until I have a reason to PM them or they PM me or they stop engaging.

Once in PM’s? I don’t know but I rarely initiate them so if I’m in one it’s usually because someone seemed interested in talking to me

This was really interesting, thank you! Lots of insight into how Lit, or PG specifically works. I’m pretty sure I come across as “shut the fuck up” even though it’s not really my intention.

Ok, everything else you wrote is great, interesting, I agree with lots of it. And then you just sneak this little nugget in.

WTF?!? That’s a story right there. You were being interviewed and possibly groomed for kidnapping at some point. “Stay at my place, use the pool…”.

Yeah I know, it’s easily one of the craziest things that’s ever happened to me.

I don’t think I’m someone a professional wife dealer would be interested in, so it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize she was asking very specific questions. And I still don’t know what she was up to, maybe she was just being friendly, I don’t know.

Anyway, I went to the bathroom after clearing the border control, and went to the belt to pick up my suitcase only after that. She was there waiting for me and told me she had been worried I had slipped past her because a few suitcases had already come… She hugged me and gave me her card and asked me to be in touch because she’d like to meet me again, either I would come to St Louis or she’d come visit me.

I think I still have her number, though. So if you’re in the market for a wife, lmk.

A political diatribe is not a conversation.

Hear hear!

I don’t love the weather as an ice breaker but I’m ok with something seasonally relevant, like “what’s your favorite first sign of spring?” Or, better yet, asking for an opinion like “I’m planning to bake brownies this weekend and can’t decide if I should include walnuts, what do you think?” (People have feelings about walnuts in brownies!

This is genius, thank you!
(And a hot take re: brownies - I just don’t get them, nuts or no nuts )

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

This was really interesting, thank you! Lots of insight into how Lit, or PG specifically works. I’m pretty sure I come across as “shut the fuck up” even though it’s not really my intention.

Oh man, don’t take me as a typical example. I’m a weirdo (well that or everyone else here is, I tend to lean that way but opinions vary). This is only my recalled experience.

I don’t think I’ve interacted with you enough to get a STFU vibe. Is it coming? Imma wait for it.

 

[morelikeasong]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

On the phone? “Hey, sorry to interrupt but gotta run! It’s been so good catching up”

In person? I stay in it for far longer than I want while trying to come up with an excuse that feels like the right one to bail.

Online? Just don’t answer. Hide under a rock. Create a new identity. Never show my tits again.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

If I really want to keep the conversation going I’ll ask questions or bring up topics that I think will keep it going. Otherwise I’m happy to let it fizzle and then either start back up another time or just let it die.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

In person? Physical proximity and then I’ll figure out something to say. I talk to strangers in the elevator.
Online? Hmm. Think about it a lot. Overthink it. Consider doing it several times before actually doing it. Then settle on sending my boobs? That’s the right answer, I think. Seems to work.

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

When someone gives nothing to the conversation but insists on attempting to continue it. Like saying “hey, what’s up” “nothing really” every single day.

 

[morelikeasong]

Once in PM’s? I don’t know but I rarely initiate them so if I’m in one it’s usually because someone seemed interested in talking to me

And even then, sometimes you tell them not to bother!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

And even then, sometimes you tell them not to bother!

Sometimes I’m a very dumb monkey

 

[Xerxes82]

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

"Sorry, somewhere I need to be. Bye!" And then jist physically be somewhere else.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

I don't. It's clear that person isn't remotely interested in conversing so I let it drop and move on. Could just be they are busy/distracted. But if it happens again and again? They don't care for you and it's better to recognize that.

Particularly frustrating when it's someone you really want to get to know (or worse, are kind of into). It hurts to realize that they just don't find you worth any effort at all, despite you trying. Sometimes repeatedly.

I fell into that trap with someone recently. Made multiple attempts, put myself out there and tried to be open, honest and engaging. Might get one or two good messages back, then everything devolves into one sentence answers with no follow up. Made me feel like a chore rather than a friend. Definitely made clear there was less than zero chance of ever being more than friends.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

Depends. I try to look for commonalities. A discussion about something we both enjoy or are both confused by that is happening publically. Dive in and see the response. A natural place to get to questions about someone.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.09.26

Conversational FAQs (based on some recent non-Lit experiences - real and joke answers acceptable!)

1. How do you end a conversation with someone who will just. not. stop. talking?

In person, I find this very difficult. I like listening to people (well most people) but sometimes I just have to go. I think this is a particularly Southern thing where you say about 15 goodbyes before you actually leave because everyone keeps talking. I don't know how to get away but I've gotten some good ideas here! One thing I do when I know I'm seeing a talker is go ahead a pre-load an excuse. Hey girl, I've got to be somewhere at 2 but tell me about xyz.

2. How do you carry on a conversation with someone who gives you nothing to respond to in the conversation? Do you think about including "respondable" things within your conversation so the other person can find ways to have input?

I think one thing Lit has taught me is that conversations are like dancing. It takes two to tango but not everyone has conversational chemistry. That doesn't even mean I don't like someone but sometimes the topics and frequencies just don't share a rhythm. But sometimes you can talk to someone and just think "what am I suppose to say to that?" If I think that, then my go to is just not to say anything at all. I do always try to include a question or something for someone to respond to if I want to keep talking.

3. How do you start a conversation with someone you'd really like to talk to? Is the weather still a go to or is there a better ice breaker?

I think it best to begin with awkwardness and apologies. Ok not really best but.... Idk what do you want me to say. I am sorry for bothering you and being weird but if you're into it

4. What are your conversational pet peeves?

I do share the one uppers peeve but I don't mind when someone wants to relate to me with experiences of their own. I think that can be a fine line.

I don't want to be expected to agree with everything and I'm ok not agreeing (with a few exceptions).

What I can't stand - and this mostly happens at work - is when someone is ready to talk and so they have no qualms about making me stop what I'm doing to listen and support but then not making time if I need to vent or talk something through. Fuck that.

 

[velona]

conversations are like dancing. It takes two to tango but not everyone has conversational chemistry. That doesn't even mean I don't like someone but sometimes the topics and frequencies just don't share a rhythm

This is so true and beautifully stated!

 

[Apisto42]

Yeah I know, it’s easily one of the craziest things that’s ever happened to me.

I don’t think I’m someone a professional wife dealer would be interested in, so it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize she was asking very specific questions. And I still don’t know what she was up to, maybe she was just being friendly, I don’t know.

Anyway, I went to the bathroom after clearing the border control, and went to the belt to pick up my suitcase only after that. She was there waiting for me and told me she had been worried I had slipped past her because a few suitcases had already come… She hugged me and gave me her card and asked me to be in touch because she’d like to meet me again, either I would come to St Louis or she’d come visit me.

I think I still have her number, though. So if you’re in the market for a wife, lmk.

You know what? While I appreciate the offer, the idea of buying a wife from a weirdo who basically traffics women is not that appealing. I think I’ll have to pass on this opportunity. Plus, I already have a wife. She would not like another wife added to the mix.

 

[Apisto42]

In person, I find this very difficult. I like listening to people (well most people) but sometimes I just have to go. I think this is a particularly Southern thing where you say about 15 goodbyes before you actually leave because everyone keeps talking. I don't know how to get away but I've gotten some good ideas here! One thing I do when I know I'm seeing a talker is go ahead a pre-load an excuse. Hey girl, I've got to be somewhere at 2 but tell me about xyz.


I think one thing Lit has taught me is that conversations are like dancing. It takes two to tango but not everyone has conversational chemistry. That doesn't even mean I don't like someone but sometimes the topics and frequencies just don't share a rhythm. But sometimes you can talk to someone and just think "what am I suppose to say to that?" If I think that, then my go to is just not to say anything at all. I do always try to include a question or something for someone to respond to if I want to keep talking.

I think it best to begin with awkwardness and apologies. Ok not really best but.... Idk what do you want me to say. I am sorry for bothering you and being weird but if you're into it

I do share the one uppers peeve but I don't mind when someone wants to relate to me with experiences of their own. I think that can be a fine line.

I don't want to be expected to agree with everything and I'm ok not agreeing (with a few exceptions).

What I can't stand - and this mostly happens at work - is when someone is ready to talk and so they have no qualms about making me stop what I'm doing to listen and support but then not making time if I need to vent or talk something through. Fuck that.

Emotional vampires. Stake them in the heart. Cut off the head. Burn the body.

 

[seela]

You know what? While I appreciate the offer, the idea of buying a wife from a weirdo who basically traffics women is not that appealing. I think I’ll have to pass on this opportunity. Plus, I already have a wife. She would not like another wife added to the mix.

Well if there ever comes a moment, just reach out!

 

[Dribble]

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