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[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm torn between pouring my heart over my lack of finding a true male sub who understands the need to submit to a woman someone who wishes to be of service to a domme and knows the release of surendering control and power to a women.

Or rant about men who fake it and use bait and switch to find a willing women to literally fuck over, I've been burned a few times and it gets a little discouraging.
Is it just me? Should I put myself out there more get more engaged in the munchs and meet ups in my area? Or is it male subs are just unicorns?
Not looking for any advice or to gain sympathy, I'm sure everyone has their own struggles!

Well looks like I managed to rant about two things! Lol!...

Well if I can't give you advice and I can't give you sympathy, how about we go down to Starbucks for their five dollar Fridays?

Any drink and a pastry for only five bucks! Who's comin'?

 

[msub50some]

I'm torn between pouring my heart over my lack of finding a true male sub who understands the need to submit to a woman someone who wishes to be of service to a domme and knows the release of surendering control and power to a women.

Or rant about men who fake it and use bait and switch to find a willing women to literally fuck over, I've been burned a few times and it gets a little discouraging.
Is it just me? Should I put myself out there more get more engaged in the munchs and meet ups in my area? Or is it male subs are just unicorns?
Not looking for any advice or to gain sympathy, I'm sure everyone has their own struggles!

Well looks like I managed to rant about two things! Lol!...

Well, I hope I'm not one of those men you want to rant about. I have identified as a submissive male for many years now, but I've only had sporadic attempts at truly serving as you describe. I truly don't want to fuck anyone over, but my desire is more for serving during a set 'playtime' rather than a lifestyle arrangement. I try to be up front about that so I'm presenting a 'bait and switch', but sometimes it's hard to manage expectations.

 

[bluekitty69]

Well, I hope I'm not one of those men you want to rant about. I have identified as a submissive male for many years now, but I've only had sporadic attempts at truly serving as you describe. I truly don't want to fuck anyone over, but my desire is more for serving during a set 'playtime' rather than a lifestyle arrangement. I try to be up front about that so I'm presenting a 'bait and switch', but sometimes it's hard to manage expectations.

Oh msub I wasn't ranting about you!...I would never call out anyone specificly on any posts!

My point I was trying to make (probably not very well) is I will be very up front about my expectations and think we are in agreement, then have someone decide he is not a sub and wants to be the one on top or direct the play. So I feel he was useing bait and switch to draw me in then changeing the play. I'm sure it's common its just frustrating is all.

But maybe it's me jumping in to soon! To eager to trust and find someone to "play with"...

 

[bluekitty69]

Well if I can't give you advice and I can't give you sympathy, how about we go down to Starbucks for their five dollar Fridays?

Any drink and a pastry for only five bucks! Who's comin'?

Thanks wild honey! A cuppa and a pastry sounds good!...

 

[msub50some]

Oh msub I wasn't ranting about you!...I would never call out anyone specificly on any posts!

My point I was trying to make (probably not very well) is I will be very up front about my expectations and think we are in agreement, then have someone decide he is not a sub and wants to be the one on top or direct the play. So I feel he was useing bait and switch to draw me in then changeing the play. I'm sure it's common its just frustrating is all.

But maybe it's me jumping in to soon! To eager to trust and find someone to "play with"...

Oh, I didn't think you were calling me out specifically, just that I feared I was 'one of those kind of subs'. I would never be someone who would switch to Dom, but I suppose some could see me as someone trying to 'top from the bottom' though that is never my intent.

 

[msub50some]

Thanks wild honey! A cuppa and a pastry sounds good!...

If you'd let me tag along, I'd buy.

 

[slayergirl69]

Question: Could you do a D/s relationship without sex?
Could you experience power exchange, emotional intimacy, and affection without needing to go further?

At this point right now, I don't think so... Sex is such a big part of our relationship. We're young though, so I guess time will tell...

But we do have exchanges that assert his devotion towards me. I think the biggest aspect is his chivalrous gestures and my way of embracing my power over him. Like I get to say and choose what goes, even though I think I generally have submissive tendencies towards his masculinity- if that makes any sense? lol

 

[cookiecat]

I'm torn between pouring my heart over my lack of finding a true male sub who understands the need to submit to a woman someone who wishes to be of service to a domme and knows the release of surendering control and power to a women.

Or rant about men who fake it and use bait and switch to find a willing women to literally fuck over, I've been burned a few times and it gets a little discouraging.
Is it just me? Should I put myself out there more get more engaged in the munchs and meet ups in my area? Or is it male subs are just unicorns?
Not looking for any advice or to gain sympathy, I'm sure everyone has their own struggles!

Well looks like I managed to rant about two things! Lol!...

What I've seen in the local community is not enough dominant women. Come up for a visit!!

I doubt it's you. Well, maybe it is Just some weird miscommunication. That whole kiss a lot of frogs thing.

I'd say just keep on looking! When I was looking, I tried to meet up at a place I'd never been before so if the person didn't sync up, at least I tried a new place to eat!

 

[cookiecat]

I like this chair.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I like this chair.

I think I would find that floor would cause some major "shrinkage"...

 

[cookiecat]

I think I would find that floor would cause some major "shrinkage"...

This might keep you warmer.

 

[msub50some]

I like this chair.

The chair, bur I like a lot more than the chair.

 

[bluekitty69]

What I've seen in the local community is not enough dominant women. Come up for a visit!!

I doubt it's you. Well, maybe it is Just some weird miscommunication. That whole kiss a lot of frogs thing.

I'd say just keep on looking! When I was looking, I tried to meet up at a place I'd never been before so if the person didn't sync up, at least I tried a new place to eat!

Lol cookie! I could meet up at the mall if it's a bust at least I can get a cinnamon roll!...

 

[cookiecat]

Lol cookie! I could meet up at the mall if it's a bust at least I can get a cinnamon roll!...

mmmmmmmmmm. cinnabon!

midwest? are you near me?? you know, practically to canada. i suppose that's not really midwest. midwestnorth.

 

[bluekitty69]

mmmmmmmmmm. cinnabon!

midwest? are you near me?? you know, practically to canada. i suppose that's not really midwest. midwestnorth.

Canada's just across a bridge for me!...

 

[Emerson40]

This might keep you warmer.

Looks like Deadpool 2 has some interesting plot twists.





Honey!

So this is where your sweet, sexy self is hangin’ out.

I like what you’ve done with the place.

 

[Blue]

This might keep you warmer.

I've seen a lot of weird, abstract and esoteric things on this forum...but death by hyperthermia is new to me.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Looks like Deadpool 2 has some interesting plot twists.





Honey!

So this is where your sweet, sexy self is hangin’ out.

I like what you’ve done with the place.

Hi Em!

I lurk on the HT blurt thread now and then, but mostly I'm here or on the PG.

I've seen a lot of weird, abstract and esoteric things on this forum...but death by hyperthermia is new to me.

Maybe he's trying to lose some weight?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Question: Fetish wear - what appeals to you?

What can you see yourself wearing to an event? How extreme are you willing to get? Do you want other attendees to be able to guess your role by looking at you? Or would you rather keep that information to yourself until you decide to divulge it?

 

[Never]

Question: Could you do a D/s relationship without sex?
Could you experience power exchange, emotional intimacy, and affection without needing to go further?

Sure. I might even find such a thing romantic. Sort of like a lady and her fair knight.

Or, it might mean I could torture them at length without worrying about sex. That would be nice.

 

[Never]

Question: Fetish wear - what appeals to you?

It's difficult for me to think of any fetish wear that I would find attractive or comfortable. Not to mention a lot of fetishwear for women looks very submissive and heteronormative to me.

What can you see yourself wearing to an event?

If I had to dress up for an event, I'd prefer to wear something like this.

At the end of the day, I'm a jeans and t-shirts gal.

How extreme are you willing to get?

Huh...

I'd cosplay as Catwoman, though I'd prefer my girlfriend did that.

Do you want other attendees to be able to guess your role by looking at you? Or would you rather keep that information to yourself until you decide to divulge it?

I wouldn't care one way or another. I expect that if I were to go to a fetish 'event,' I would do so with my pyl and I might have fun dressing them up.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Welcome, Never

I'm a skirt and pretty blouse kind of girl, but yeah, comfort is key. And I generally like the same things whether I'm feeling sub or bossy.

But I do like the thought of picking my submissive partner's clothing, and something to identify us as being a couple.

What's the protocol regarding the wearing of black? I know it seems to be the overwhelmingly popular choice for kinksters, but what if I want to wear pink and gold instead? Am I likely to get the hairy eyeball from anyone?

 

[Never]

If you're going to a club, you check the dress code. If you're going to a party, you ask the host what's appropriate.

There are many occasions where showing up in something pink and gold would be fine, and a few where it would be looked down on.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

If you're going to a club, you check the dress code. If you're going to a party, you ask the host what's appropriate.

There are many occasions where showing up in something pink and gold would be fine, and a few where it would be looked down on.

Ah, of course. How silly of me. So, basically just like any other club or party.

 

[slayergirl69]

I might even find such a thing romantic. Sort of like a lady and her fair knight.

This sums up a lot of our dynamic and I love it, I guess if you don't count teasing as "sex" in the general sense, then this is absolutely us