8 things America gets terribly wrong about sex

[Dream59]

Then you should know a few laws and ordinances that aren't enforced. My city does engage in "selective prosecution" when it comes to two specific laws: open container and bicycle helmets. The cops won't ticket children or even teens for having "open" bottles, cans, even cups of soft drinks, but will do so in the park if an adult has a beer AND is loud or obviously drunk. Police won't ticket kids under 14 without helmets when they're riding bikes on the sidewalk, but if they're caught on the road, the parents will receive one.

The only open container laws I am familiar with refer to alcohol in the law so I can not speak to that. But the main difference in the examples you are giving is LE choosing to see it happen. With large businesses selling adult products, with signs out front it is impossible for LE or the proper government to deny that they knew the business was there (business lic.) and what they were selling. I do not agree with not ticketing kids without helmets but there again I have never said LEOs were perfect. Quite the opposite in fact.

 

[RjThoughts]

The only open container laws I am familiar with refer to alcohol in the law so I can not speak to that. But the main difference in the examples you are giving is LE choosing to see it happen. With large businesses selling adult products, with signs out front it is impossible for LE or the proper government to deny that they knew the business was there (business lic.) and what they were selling. I do not agree with not ticketing kids without helmets but there again I have never said LEOs were perfect. Quite the opposite in fact.

Most will stop the kids and ask where their helmets are.

 

[Dream59]

Most will stop the kids and ask where their helmets are.

If they do that and insist on them not riding without the helmet then I am good with that. It accomplishes the intent of the law without causing the parents to incur a financial hit. I pulled a guy over for going 10 MPH over the speed limit. He was flowing with traffic but he is the one I got to first. His car was in bad shape and when I walked up to the car he told me I might as well take him to jail. I was shocked to say the least. He told me he had lost his job and that he could not afford to pay a ticket so I might as well just take him to jail now. I asked him why, if he could not afford a ticket, was he speeding. He told me that he just fucked up and that there was no other reason he could give. Instead of writing him a ticket I wrote him a warning that is put into the system so if he was caught again he would get a ticket and it would be more costly, just incase he was scamming me. Then I let him go as I had accomplished the intent of the law which was slowing him down. So much for the unfeeling Law enforcement Officer.

 

[yossi]

Being an ex LEO I am fairly well versed, though it is impossible to know them all. The laws on sex toys in Alabama was passed about 12-15 years ago and is not worth the paper it is written on. It was just politics. It would be considered unconstitutional and the description of a sex toy would cover 45 pages because anything can be a sex toy.

Less than 20 years ago? I'm shocked. I thought for sure the article referenced laws from at least 100 years ago. Interesting.

I think the whole list is a shame, but in particular the body image issues. The human body is so diverse and body "perfection" is dictated by the society of the times. I wish we'd move into a societal era of appreciating our bodies for what they are and what they can accomplish, rather than focusing on how a body should look. I'll continue to dream.

 

[Dream59]

Less than 20 years ago? I'm shocked. I thought for sure the article referenced laws from at least 100 years ago. Interesting.

I think the whole list is a shame, but in particular the body image issues. The human body is so diverse and body "perfection" is dictated by the society of the times. I wish we'd move into a societal era of appreciating our bodies for what they are and what they can accomplish, rather than focusing on how a body should look. I'll continue to dream.

Yeah Yossi it is a shame. But it was the political climate here at the time. They knew when they passed the law that it was unenforceable, but politics got it passed. I pretty much agree with all of his points. Those points too are a shame.

 

[bronzeage]

Are you a scorpio?

Isn't obvious?

 

[MeekMe]

Being an ex LEO I am fairly well versed, though it is impossible to know them all. The laws on sex toys in Alabama was passed about 12-15 years ago and is not worth the paper it is written on. It was just politics. It would be considered unconstitutional and the description of a sex toy would cover 45 pages because anything can be a sex toy.

The law exists and they were still debating it in 2007. The law has provisions dealing with medical concerns so it makes it hard to enforce. If they want to prosecute anyone they'd have to prove that what they are selling isn't for medical use.

 

[StrayKat]

Isn't obvious?

Yes, actually, it is.

 

[Dream59]

The law exists and they were still debating it in 2007. The law has provisions dealing with medical concerns so it makes it hard to enforce. If they want to prosecute anyone they'd have to prove that what they are selling isn't for medical use.

I know it exists. I live there. I was not too far off that article was written in 2007 and it stated the law was 9 years old so that would make it 17 years old. It is still debated and it is still ignored as it is unenforceable as written.

 

[richard_daily]

What do you expect? The white people here were tainted from the get go by the pilgrams and their puritanical tyranny.

The Germans know how to do get down... it's the backlash from that extreme work ethic. So do Kiwis. They're mostly sluts.

Mmmmm, sluts.

From Alternet:

AlterNet / By Anna Pulley

8 Things America Gets Terribly Wrong About Sex

America does many things well. Sex is not on the list.

June 5, 2014 | We get many things right here in the good ol’ U.S. of A. We were the first to put a man on the moon (Neil Armstrong), the first to achieve flight (the Wright brothers), and we came up with the greatest television phenomenon ever: Shark Week. But when it comes to sex, we are all mixed up. For all of America's cultural pornification—we can’t even sell a router or a chicken sandwich without a bikini-clad model dry-humping it—we still haven’t let go of a lot of the puritanical values our country was founded on. Here are a few of the things our otherwise great nation gets wrong about sex and sexuality.

1. Sexual healthcare is not a priority.

Unless we get pregnant, a raging case of crabs, or need erection pills, it’s pretty rare for Americans to schedule an appointment with a doctor for sexual health reasons, even though the World Health Organization tells us that sexual health is “a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity.” Since Americans barely get any kind of health care at all, and the tiniest amount of sex education in school, it’s not surprising that people only visit doctors for sexual reasons under the most dire of circumstances, and not equally important concerns such as sexual ethics, consent, gender identity, trauma care, and desire. It’s also not surprising that we have the highest STD rates in the industrialized world. A recent report called our rates an “epidemic.” We’re number one!

2. Billions of dollars wasted on abstinence education.

Abstinence-only education—that is, teaching children, primarily girls, that the only way they can preserve their self-worth is to wait until they are married to have sex—has been a popular pastime in the U.S. for roughly the last 20 years, despite the fact that it’s been repeatedly proven not to do a damn thing to prevent teenagers from having sex. In fact, it does the exact opposite by negatively impacting condom use and sexual health.

Some lawmakers are still trying to pass legislation to end federal funding for abstinence-only programs, which mushroomed under George W. Bush, and which Obama later eliminated, only to have Republicans restore them as a concession to social conservatives under Obamacare. Thus far, however, lawmakers have been unsuccessful at ending the insanity. If only conservatives practiced abstinence as much as they preached it....

3. Discrimination against LGBT people is rampant.

In 2014, you can still get fired for being gay, lesbian, or bisexual in 29 states. The number increases to 33 states if you include transgender people. The stigmatization of sexual minorities also leads them not to seek sexual healthcare (and general healthcare) as often as their straight counterparts, leading to poorer health overall, mental health issues and long-term problems. Many don’t even feel comfortable coming out to their doctors, potentially putting them at higher risk for more serious illnesses.

And don’t even get us started on how many Americans believe bisexuality doesn’t exist.

4. We have seriously warped body images.

The only naked bodies we see (unless you are one of the rare breeds who come from a nudist household) are found in porn, and hence, we think of the porn body as the “ideal,” even though very few people’s bodies and genitals look like that without severe modification. A few brave souls are attempting to normalize the diversity of genitalia, Betty Dodson, for instance, but by and large Americans have a lot of shame surrounding their bodies and private parts, leading to such horrors as anal bleaching, labiaplasty, vaginal rejuvenation, and vajazzling, also known as turning one’s vagina into a glittery disco.

5. We’re obsessed with penis size.

We recently watched Unhung Hero on Netflix (it’s not bad!) about our cultural obsession with penis size, and one man’s hilarious and at times depressing attempts to increase his schlong’s length and girth. What with the countless pills, penis pumps, surgical enhancement opportunities, and porn-penis obsessions, it’s obvious that America is hung up (sorry) on the idea that having a monster penis is the only way to be a fully actualized human man. This obsession is generating a lot of money for penis-enhancement companies, but in terms of effectiveness, the “gains” such enhancements produce are often in the realms of insecurity, doubt, loss of sensation, and discomfort.

6. Our popular magazines offer the most bizarre sex advice.

What country besides ours would suggest women fellate a pastry in order to be more sexually satisfied? Thanks to the likes of popular magazines like Cosmopolitan and Men’s Health, Americans are taught the most absurd things about sex, such as the notion that snorting pepper to increase orgasm intensity is a fine idea, presenting your lady with a dick dipped in Nutella will get you an “enthusiastic blow job,” and the smell of toast is an incredible aphrodisiac.

7. Rape culture and the sexual double standard.

Ugh, the fact that we even have a term for it is depressing, but if anything can be gleaned from the recent atrocities of the Santa Barbara massacre and the #yesallwomen campaign, it’s that the way our country views women, sexual violence and female sexuality is seriously skewed. Women are routinely blamed, stigmatized and called names for the sexual harassment and assault they experience.

In addition to the fact that rape culture attempts to normalize sexual violence, the virgin-whore dichotomy also contributes to our warped views on female sexuality. As Ally Sheedy’s character in The Breakfast Club noted about America’s views on female sexuality almost 30 years ago, “If you haven’t, you’re a prude. If you have, you’re a slut. It’s a trap.” Sadly, America's views haven't changed much.

8. Ridiculous anti-sex laws still on the books.

It’s illegal to sell sex toys, a.k.a. “obscene devices” in states such as Alabama, Georgia, Virginia, and Louisiana. If you’re busted for promoting a dildo in Louisiana, you face a fine of up to $5,000. In Alabama, it comes with a fine of $10,000 and a year of “hard labor”!

Lest you think this is just the wacky South, Cleveland has a law against showing underboob, defining “nudity” as a “female breast with less than a full, opaque covering of any portion thereof below the top of the nipple.” Having premarital sex is still considered a “crime” in Massachusetts (comes with a $30 fine and up to a three-month imprisonment), Idaho ($300 fine and up to six months jail time), and Utah (class B misdemeanor). And of course the South doesn’t smile upon unmarried sex either: Mississippi promises a fine up to $500 and six months jail time, North Carolina law says you can’t “cohabit together,” and South Carolina sex packs a whopping fine of up to $500 and up to a year in jail.

Uh-merica!

 

[bronzeage]

What do you expect? The white people here were tainted from the get go by the pilgrams and their puritanical tyranny.

The Germans know how to do get down... it's the backlash from that extreme work ethic. So do Kiwis. They're mostly sluts.

Mmmmm, sluts.

In Louisiana, I can fuck anybody(only live humans, they still get sensitive about livestock, pets, and the dead) I want, with anything I want, just so long as they don't complain too loudly. Some of it maybe a violation of state law, but no one is going to do anything about it.

They've tried to revoke the old criminal code on this stuff, but the legislature can't bring themselves to discuss it on the record, so we have the "Don't ask, don't bother," policy in effect.

 

[richard_daily]

In Louisiana, I can fuck anybody(only live humans, they still get sensitive about livestock, pets, and the dead) I want, with anything I want, just so long as they don't complain too loudly. Some of it maybe a violation of state law, but no one is going to do anything about it.

They've tried to revoke the old criminal code on this stuff, but the legislature can't bring themselves to discuss it on the record, so we have the "Don't ask, don't bother," policy in effect.

Catholic guilt can be some great material to work with in a young woman.

 

[bronzeage]

Catholic guilt can be some great material to work with in a young woman.

Catholic girls were easy. The nuns got real explicit about what not to do, which solved a lot of problems. Which your basic Baptist or Pentecostal girl, you first had to convince her that people actually did that sort of thing.

 

[RjThoughts]

Catholic girls were easy. The nuns got real explicit about what not to do, which solved a lot of problems. Which your basic Baptist or Pentecostal girl, you first had to convince her that people actually did that sort of thing.

NO SHIT! The nuns were telling us boys to not touch ourselves, spilling seed was a sin, but if you did, confess and everything was alright. The girls, from what they told us boys later, explicit isn't a strong enough word!

And...be careful. In some of those bayou parishes, they might like your mouth too well. Deliverance ain't got nuffin on some of them. (Paternal grandfather was from Avoyelles Parish)

 

[richard_daily]

Catholic girls were easy. The nuns got real explicit about what not to do, which solved a lot of problems. Which your basic Baptist or Pentecostal girl, you first had to convince her that people actually did that sort of thing.

They might be easy, but they're still satisfying.

I usually just tell them to close their eyes and think WWJD?

You know that fucker is kinky, watching everyone fornicate all day long.

 

[StrayKat]

They might be easy, but they're still satisfying.

Did you ever meet a Mediterranean Roman Catholic? They are not satisfying, they are so kinky they probably make both heads of an average American male spin. Downright dirty.

 

[RjThoughts]

Did you ever meet a Mediterranean Roman Catholic? They are not satisfying, they are so kinky they probably make both heads of an average American male spin. Downright dirty.

Those of us American Catholics who have some Mediterranean blood are not THAT bad, but are close

 

[bronzeage]

Did you ever meet a Mediterranean Roman Catholic? They are not satisfying, they are so kinky they probably make both heads of an average American male spin. Downright dirty.

Nobody was ever hurt by a spinning head.

What makes you think there's a shortage of Mediterranean Roman Catholic girls around here. We import them.

 

[StrayKat]

Nobody was ever hurt by a spinning head.

What makes you think there's a shortage of Mediterranean Roman Catholic girls around here. We import them.

I dont think they can thrive in foreign climate like they do in their natural habitat

 

[bronzeage]

I dont think they can thrive in foreign climate like they do in their natural habitat

Seriously, you need to spend some time here.

 

[StrayKat]

Seriously, you need to spend some time here.

You know I would if I could. I would love to see what is the world across the pond like.

 

[Garnate]

Anal sex is illegal in Virginia as well but the sex shops are everywhere and I've yet to find a cop say no to anal. Or judges, for that matter. They love that shit. Fucking asses, getting fucked in the ass, fucking her ass with his ass, etc. Ass, ass, sex toys, ass. That's Virginia, in my experience.

 

[cowslinger64]

Anal sex is illegal in Virginia as well but the sex shops are everywhere and I've yet to find a cop say no to anal. Or judges, for that matter. They love that shit. Fucking asses, getting fucked in the ass, fucking her ass with his ass, etc. Ass, ass, sex toys, ass. That's Virginia, in my experience.

OMG.. I got wood. Hope it's legal getting wood seeing you talk about anal!!

 

[RjThoughts]

OMG.. I got wood. Hope it's legal getting wood seeing you talk about anal!!

I'm headed to Virginia Sunday. I know that I can't hold my wife's hand in some parts of the state, let alone get wood

 

[Garnate]

Virginia is one of those outwardly prudish bitches that will jerk your cock while tonguing your ass behind closed doors.