normal jean
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LeBroz said:.
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You mean something like my post on the Lit Blog thread? Figured it was a safe place to ID the dynamic duo (one of whom seems to have gone on hiatus). I know I sometimes leave less than stellar comments like you've described but I can tell you {and I'm sure you've experienced this} that some folks don't take kindly to anything less than gushing comments. Even got a nasty-gram today — probably from a less-than-disinterested third party. Speaking of which, there's today's curiosity! with its continued odd capitalizations. The reaction there should be — interesting. Have a good evening.
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Because feedback from readers is important in helping you understand if you were successful in saying what you thought you said. Poetry (hell, writing) is about communication, and the comments, at their best, help you understand where you were effective and where you weren't.FifthFlower said:The last poem I submitted, I disabled comments and voting. I figured, why should I waste someone's time? The number of views is what is most interesting to me.
After reading this thread, I'm now a little paranoid about leaving a comment, of any sort, even a bland one.
So, why do people want comments anyway?
Tzara said:Because feedback from readers is important in helping you understand if you were successful in saying what you thought you said. Poetry (hell, writing) is about communication, and the comments, at their best, help you understand where you were effective and where you weren't.
Not all comments are equally useful, of course. You get a comment from someone you think is an idiot, you aren't going to value that as much as one from someone you think highly of.
Yeah, I know. Self-referential. It's a problem.
Hey. Why writing isn't easy.
FifthFlower said:The last poem I submitted, I disabled comments and voting. I figured, why should I waste someone's time? The number of views is what is most interesting to me.
After reading this thread, I'm now a little paranoid about leaving a comment, of any sort, even a bland one.
So, why do people want comments anyway?
vampiredust said:I got a pointless comment on my last poem. It sounded like this person hadn't read the poem at all.
That annoys me
I don't mind if all people say is 'I like it' or 'I don't like it'
Constructive criticism is better because then I know what to improve upon.
I understand what you are saying. I like the opportunity to be able to tell a poet off, as well as to offer praise. I do participate in workshopping sites where the comments, given and received, are brutally "honest". So, the actual process of online critiquing/workshopping is familiar to me.LeBroz said:And for FifthFlower, my usual reaction upon seeing a poem with comments/voting disabled is to bypass the piece (I may scan it quickly, but that would be rare). Why? Well, I feel that if the poet is not interested in what I have to say, why should I be interested in what they have to say? And I don't view a comment sent via email as the same thing. Just a quirky thing I've developed in this Internet age.
FifthFlower said:I understand what you are saying. I like the opportunity to be able to tell a poet off, as well as to offer praise. I do participate in workshopping sites where the comments, given and received, are brutally "honest". So, the actual process of online critiquing/workshopping is familiar to me.
On the other hand, on Literotica, I'm ambivalent about setting on comments as well as commenting. Why? Well, I don't see Literotica as a workshopping site as much as an entertainment site. And I like it because of that. I don't want people to waste their time because they think they have to say something and I don't want to make people like normal jean angry if I don't comment appropriately.
LeBroz said:I know exactly what you mean. I think that's what so bugged maria that she pulled her poems. I didn't go quite that far but I finally deleted the comments from the dynamic duo. Some poems they got but most they missed the point. I wouldn't want some later reader to see those comments and maybe get misled. And for me, that's a pretty drastic course of action; I've left comments in place that are, in a couple of cases, rather harsh.
Personally, while I like gushing comments, I also appreciate comments with constructive criticism; they provide serious food for thought.
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vampiredust said:I got a pointless comment on my last poem. It sounded like this person hadn't read the poem at all.
That annoys me
I don't mind if all people say is 'I like it' or 'I don't like it'
Constructive criticism is better because then I know what to improve upon.
normal jean said:NO NO NO!! that is NOT why I pulled my poems, Leon, OMG! what a pitiful reason that would be to pull my poetry.
I't was something much more personal and you know it, Leon. Im more than a little disappointed
normal jean said:Yeah, I turned off my PC's, am deleting my work because of many reasons and the biggest one is there is very little constructive crit here anymore, just a battle to see who gets the most PC's on the portal.
FifthFlower said:The last poem I submitted, I disabled comments and voting. I figured, why should I waste someone's time? The number of views is what is most interesting to me.
After reading this thread, I'm now a little paranoid about leaving a comment, of any sort, even a bland one.
So, why do people want comments anyway?
LeBroz said:I'm so sorry, you're quite right. I grossly oversimplified. From your explanation on an earlier post you make it clear that it involves many factors:
Besides, it is grossly unfair on my part to relate my actions to yours or to put an interpretive spin on what you so clearly stated. Again, I oversimplified what you said while explaining my own actions and for that I apologize.
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normal jean said:
Leon
maybe some people need a personal reason for what I did with Marias work?
My heart is aching, okay. I have been in love with a man for years, thought I could trust him, told him everything in the world about me. Things my own family doesnt know, things I didnt want to admit to myself.
After 4 years, he told me he loved me . He told me 3 times in the last 3 years. Now he is gone. He didn't trust me when he knew everything there was to know about me. The last time we broke up, I did the breaking because he wouldnt/ couldnt share his life and soul with me.
That was in Nov. 2004. I changed my Yahoo screenname, my AIM. Changed everything to make it easy on ME to get away from the memory of HIM.
In 7-05, I got a FB email from LIt. It was him. This was 7-11-05. Told me he missed me, and all sorts of BS.
Then he does the same thing to me, doesnt trust me, lies to me, and on and on.
Point is, he found me through Marias page. I know, I didnt have to respond, but silly me, I needed that love, I thought it was love, I needed his strength, I thought it was strength. Thing is, he helped me , he was there for me when my husband was beating me on a regular basis. He helped me when I had NO ONE in the world to talk to. He helped me gain some self esteem by telling me everyday that I did NOT deserve to be treated less than dog shit. I still love him, but I dont want his form of abuse anymore either.
I told you I deleted my Yahoo name?
look up http://profiles.yahoo.com/maria2394.
see the date that profile was made? He claimed my yahoo ID after the wait time was over, he has it now. not me, he did that the day before he emailed me and now he says HE didnt do that. What I cannot forgive is that he treated me like I am stupid. I cant take that from anyone anymore Maybe it bothers me so much because I tend to feel that way about myself.
Hell, cant you guys feel the bitterness and pain? at least you are all honest with me and I supose thats the real reason I stay, I feel ike the idiot little sister of a bunch pf people I admire. I keep hoping to learn something to help me get out of my fucked up self. But It doesnt come and I dont know where else to look. I'M tired of pain, period.
Fifth flower, I'm not mad. Please dont label me, you dont know me.
Leon, youve been a good patient friend, thank you.
Sorry I offended so many of yyu, it wont happen again. Im trying to learn how to be demure and quite and accept that I will always be a doormat, but something in me is rebelling and refuses to be like I was when I first came here.
IM about to fucking give up and end the whole miserable process.
fuck it
normal jean said:Hell, cant you guys feel the bitterness and pain? at least you are all honest with me and I supose thats the real reason I stay, I feel ike the idiot little sister of a bunch pf people I admire. I keep hoping to learn something to help me get out of my fucked up self. But It doesnt come and I dont know where else to look. I'M tired of pain, period.
normal jean said:But of those 15 comments, 9 of them stated they didnt or did like the Miracle grow line. No one really told me why they didnt like, it maybe they didnt have time, maybe they didnt KNOW exactly why they didnt like it. Hell, I never really thought it fit but I couldnt put my finger on exactly why it didnt work in that poem.
LeBroz said:You make some excellent points.
I came across an old feedback thread that someone {de sade?} started back in '03 and got upset when he really got feedback. It's no different with the PC's ~ some folk just want their precarious egos stroked.
As I mention in my post above, when I sent positive constructive criticism on that poem (curiosity!), the poet deleted it. I had pointed out the problems with the random capitalizations, a word she corrected but still misspelled (splender should be splendor). She then went and added a qualifying note on her bio page: "Just a note I love feedback about my poems, I appreciate your opinions, however, I am not great at grammar, punctuation,also I use capital letters in the wrong places, I also make spelling errors I KNOW I AM HUMAN AND NOT LOOKING FOR PERFECTION if you leave a comment please just ignore my human errors and tell me what you thought of the piece."
This poet put in writing what some poets do in practice. They ignore constructive criticism and refuse to correct fundamental errors ~ minor details like grammer and spelling. I view that as an insult to my intelligence (hell, to anyone's intelligence!) and normally won't read their future submissions.
And for FifthFlower, my usual reaction upon seeing a poem with comments/voting disabled is to bypass the piece (I may scan it quickly, but that would be rare). Why? Well, I feel that if the poet is not interested in what I have to say, why should I be interested in what they have to say? And I don't view a comment sent via email as the same thing. Just a quirky thing I've developed in this Internet age.
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If you are looking for a different sort of critique than you are getting here, you might try Eratosphere. They have a non-metrical forum. I believe you have to critique 10-20 others before you are permitted to post a poem yourself.normal jean said:I am looking for understanding of what I write. Not just blind praise or blatant non constructive crit.
FifthFlower said:If you are looking for a different sort of critique than you are getting here, you might try Eratosphere. They have a non-metrical forum. I believe you have to critique 10-20 others before you are permitted to post a poem yourself.
The critiques on your poem will range from the ludicrous to the occasionally useful one. You have to wade through the useless comments, politely, with an open mind, thanking even those who offer you "moronic" advice. I find that very difficult to do myself, and so prefer the friendlier environment of Literotica.