A Question: Do you think that people in a D/s relationship communicate better?

[Inconsequential]

Yes I feel there is more communication in a D/s relationship by ~Necessity~. As a Dom/me it's important to Me to know where the sub's headspace is, if what they are experiencing is right. That doesn't mean I'm going to stop what I'm doing if I hear a whimper or a cry. But I am going to realize the difference between painful stimulation and abuse.
I think communication is part of Safe Sane and Consensual. It's a must and a need for both parties to get what they really want and need from the D/s relationship.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I voted 'other' as well, but largely because of all the reasons JM, Gracie, and Cat stated above. I think that many of us would like to believe we communicate better, but in fact, being in this lifestyle doesn't necessarily make it so. I also think that maybe some of us communicate better about some things, specifically what we want during sex, but that doesn't mean we communicate better about all things. So I don't think it's a yes or no proposition because we're no better or worse than any other flavor in regards to communication.

*shrugs* i've seen it go both ways, some say coming out of a 'nilla relationship into a D/s that it improved their communication (i'm talking a married 'nilla couple who decide to go D/s) i've seen others say that's not the case. for me and my relationship, yes the communication is MUCH better than ANY relationship i've ever been in, as is the trust factor. i've never trusted anyone with my life the way i do Master, and that comes from how communicative we are and yes i do think it has alot to do with the dynamic of our relationship. i'm not denying that we in the lifestyle have our fair share of liars, fakes, idiots, etc....but i think we are talking more in the REAL D/s relationships and not those that are in to 'pretend' and no, i don't think that everyone will agree with me and that's fine too, we are all different, and all believe different things....but i, personally, believe that in OUR relationship, because it is D/s we DO have better communication

 

[Master_n_Mentor]

I posted an Essay on the topic this past week.

I do believe that for Doms and subs alike, communication is the currency of our lifestyle. How can you have "safe", "sane" and "consensual" if you don't openly communicate and discuss it until both have a VERY clearly undestood what they've agreed to do, or have done onto them.

In the years upon years of my vanilla lifestyle I had so many so-called-agreements that were nothing of the kind. What I thought I heard; was not. What she thought I said; was not. What we ended up doing, was not what either of us originally thought we were going to do.

Imagine that same situation (a bit exaggerated to make the point) in a scene. He thinks she wants to be bound and gagged, and she thinks he wants her to be flogged. Hmmm, is that going to be awkward.

Communication, by necessity, in my opinion has to be much better in a BDSM D/s or M/s lifestyle.