a question for sadists...

[Brinnie]

ple smack my ass in the casinos all teh time!1

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Since you wandered into ground zero

ple smack my ass in the casinos all teh time!1

i have to ask. What is on your lower lip in your AV?

Ease away slowly folks, it's Expect NO mercy time.

 

[Marquis]

i have to ask. What is on your lower lip in your AV?

Ease away slowly folks, it's Expect NO mercy time.

Go easy, she's only 14.

 

[sunfox]

Go easy, she's only 14.

What kind of a sadist are you? Go easy, indeed. *pfft*

 

[Marquis]

What kind of a sadist are you? Go easy, indeed. *pfft*

You do realize who we're talking about?

 

[Betticus]

I voted yes, in a scene. Almost all human being will at a certain moment in is life lose control. There are many strong emotions which are hard to control and at times impossible. The most dangerous one for me has not to do with sadism but with anger, I do not lose control because of sadism.

I love giving pain and I find it to be sexually stimulating but it has never made me lose control. But I used to have a very uncontrollable anger which has taken me many years to control. It becomes dangerous when I mix the both of them, my sadism can fuel my anger and vice versa if I let it.

In one case I have let it push me beyond that what I find acceptable in a scene. I believe greatly in the control for the dominant partner during a scene, it is in my opinion the PYL that needs to have the judgement to know when to stop and when to push. It has been my experience that pyl’s do not use the safe word when it is wise to do so, because of their need to please their partner. This is the main reason why I feel that PYL’s need to have the judgement when to stop and not rely on the safe word of their partner.

This is what I have done on more than one occasion, not listen to my own judgement but trust the pyl to make me stop when she could not take any more. By now I have learned not to trust solely on safe words, sometimes they are used too soon but mostly pyl will not use them especially if they are trying to court or impress the PYL.

Francisco.

With me it's only with men usually who are pretending to be dominant but are just casual assholes. Then I have almost no reign in for it. When I feel the rush of power and control something comes over me and some kind of sickness comes out. It's like I drink in the pain and fear, watch the pupils lose focus as they are close to blacking out and only pull it in at the last moment. Kind of riding the edge of a dangerous high. At that moment I can lift a grown man off the ground by his neck and throw him like a doll. I am not quite sure where it comes from or what it is but with women I tease the surrender out of them and make them addicted to me with gentle hands and words but the words are meant to bend and twist their minds. To make them mine. To use their nature against them, disarm them completely and create a symbiotic relationship where I am the only bastion of strength to draw upon. But I'm greedy and jealous so I also make sure that they can easily bend other men and defend themselves against them.

And I feel nothing but love and pride for them as they scythe their way through the fields of assholes and pretenders. When it is too intense I will step in.

 

[Marquis]

With me it's only with men usually who are pretending to be dominant but are just casual assholes. Then I have almost no reign in for it. When I feel the rush of power and control something comes over me and some kind of sickness comes out. It's like I drink in the pain and fear, watch the pupils lose focus as they are close to blacking out and only pull it in at the last moment. Kind of riding the edge of a dangerous high. At that moment I can lift a grown man off the ground by his neck and throw him like a doll. I am not quite sure where it comes from or what it is but with women I tease the surrender out of them and make them addicted to me with gentle hands and words but the words are meant to bend and twist their minds. To make them mine. To use their nature against them, disarm them completely and create a symbiotic relationship where I am the only bastion of strength to draw upon. But I'm greedy and jealous so I also make sure that they can easily bend other men and defend themselves against them.

And I feel nothing but love and pride for them as they scythe their way through the fields of assholes and pretenders. When it is too intense I will step in.

Run into that situation a lot?

 

[dolf]

If I'm at a rowdy party or club, I will grab women by their belts or pinch their asses to try and entice them to come dance with me.

i'm glad we've never bumped into each other at a club

men do that...i hate it! a sharp elbow to the ribs isually solves the problem.
you can guarantee the bouncer will be on my side.

 

[Marquis]

i'm glad we've never bumped into each other at a club

men do that...i hate it! a sharp elbow to the ribs isually solves the problem.
you can guarantee the bouncer will be on my side.

Well hey baby, shake that thing in front of me and you bringing that shit on yourself.

 

[graceanne]

i'm glad we've never bumped into each other at a club

men do that...i hate it! a sharp elbow to the ribs isually solves the problem.
you can guarantee the bouncer will be on my side.

Don't tell me, they still want you after that don't they?

 

[Aeroil]

Well hey baby, shake that thing in front of me and you bringing that shit on yourself.

Somehow, Marquis, I don't follow your line of reasoning .

 

[Mr Wolf]

Like Marquis, I to can say yes to the first three. Thankfully it was in my younger days...like to think I have more self control these days. lol

 

[dolf]

Don't tell me, they still want you after that don't they?

*nods* that'd be when i politely request that they bugger off...failing that i kick them.

marquis hon, i've never understood why every single man in a club will assume i'm dancing purely for him.
my dom could touch me anywhere and anytime he wanted. the rest of the men can *insert expletive* off.

 

[graceanne]

*nods* that'd be when i politely request that they bugger off...failing that i kick them.

marquis hon, i've never understood why every single man in a club will assume i'm dancing purely for him.
my dom could touch me anywhere and anytime he wanted. the rest of the men can *insert expletive* off.

LOL I want to go to a club with you sometime. I'm sure i'd end up laughing my ass off.

 

[Marquis]

Somehow, Marquis, I don't follow your line of reasoning .

It's really quite simple.

We're in a motherfucking nightclub. This is a place where single people come to consume alcohol, get loose and meet other singles. It's usually not hard to tell the single ones from the ones who are just going out because it's someones birthday. The single ones dress like classy hookers and dance in the middle of the dance floor, shaking their breast meat at you. The ones with boyfriends at home wear something a little more casual than what they wore to work, sip soda and play the wallflower (although there are some good subs hiding in this crowd).

I would have to admit that I get a positive response less than 20% of the time I grab a girl's belt, or dare I, her barely clothed cheek of buttock. Do I give a fuck? Hell motherfucking no!

First off, that 20% that backs it up on the kid loves it when I pinch thier ass and they deserve it. They've been staring at thier cellphone all night wondering why the club was full of lames.

For the other 80%, what the fuck are they doing stripteases in the middle of the dancefloor then? This isn't a concert, keep that shit at home.

 

[Aeroil]

It's really quite simple.

We're in a motherfucking nightclub. This is a place where single people come to consume alcohol, get loose and meet other singles. It's usually not hard to tell the single ones from the ones who are just going out because it's someones birthday. The single ones dress like classy hookers and dance in the middle of the dance floor, shaking their breast meat at you. The ones with boyfriends at home wear something a little more casual than what they wore to work, sip soda and play the wallflower (although there are some good subs hiding in this crowd).

I would have to admit that I get a positive response less than 20% of the time I grab a girl's belt, or dare I, her barely clothed cheek of buttock. Do I give a fuck? Hell motherfucking no!

First off, that 20% that backs it up on the kid loves it when I pinch thier ass and they deserve it. They've been staring at thier cellphone all night wondering why the club was full of lames.

For the other 80%, what the fuck are they doing stripteases in the middle of the dancefloor then? This isn't a concert, keep that shit at home.

Me being very chivalrous, I'm not gonna follow that to the extent that I could.
Unless they're wearing signs that say "please grope me" I don't see enough reason to go up to a girl and do that.
I can certainly understand why you do though lol.

 

[graceanne]

It's really quite simple.

We're in a motherfucking nightclub. This is a place where single people come to consume alcohol, get loose and meet other singles. It's usually not hard to tell the single ones from the ones who are just going out because it's someones birthday. The single ones dress like classy hookers and dance in the middle of the dance floor, shaking their breast meat at you. The ones with boyfriends at home wear something a little more casual than what they wore to work, sip soda and play the wallflower (although there are some good subs hiding in this crowd).

I would have to admit that I get a positive response less than 20% of the time I grab a girl's belt, or dare I, her barely clothed cheek of buttock. Do I give a fuck? Hell motherfucking no!

First off, that 20% that backs it up on the kid loves it when I pinch thier ass and they deserve it. They've been staring at thier cellphone all night wondering why the club was full of lames.

For the other 80%, what the fuck are they doing stripteases in the middle of the dancefloor then? This isn't a concert, keep that shit at home.

What about the ones who dress casually and are dancing in the middle of the floor with the scantily dressed chicks?

I go to clubs cause I love to dance. Their's no point otherwise. If I'm gonna do the wallflower thing, I might as well be at home in the comfort of my living room.

 

[Marquis]

marquis hon, i've never understood why every single man in a club will assume i'm dancing purely for him.
my dom could touch me anywhere and anytime he wanted. the rest of the men can *insert expletive* off.

Then why isn't your dom dancing with you?

I would never intentionally run up on another man's bitch, but if I let my girl go to the club looking sexy without me, I would laugh at her if she complained about getting her ass pinched.

 

[Marquis]

What about the ones who dress casually and are dancing in the middle of the floor with the scantily dressed chicks?

I go to clubs cause I love to dance. Their's no point otherwise. If I'm gonna do the wallflower thing, I might as well be at home in the comfort of my living room.

Yeah, but there's dancin' and there's dancin'. And bitches LOVE to pull up right in front of me and practice that cooch pop they saw on MTV. And I'm supposed to do what exactly? Slowly approach her so she can back away from the hot boy and look cool in front of her friends?

Fuck that shit, I grab asses. If she wanted to dance with me that's not gonna put her off.

 

[Aeroil]

Yeah, but there's dancin' and there's dancin'. And bitches LOVE to pull up right in front of me and practice that cooch pop they saw on MTV. And I'm supposed to do what exactly? Slowly approach her so she can back away from the hot boy and look cool in front of her friends?

Fuck that shit, I grab asses. If she wanted to dance with me that's not gonna put her off.

And they say subtlety is lost in romance .
(note: I don't think they actually say that)

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Let me think of an example of each:

I think almost anyone has gone to far in a scene a few times. A forced bi scene got fucked up recently, could've been saved by an earlier withdrawal. It's hard for me to think of a scene where I went way too far, but I'm sure it's in there somewhere, probably a play rape.

I get carried away in 'nilla encounters all the time. I'll try to introduce elements of power exchange into casual hookups, hoping to get a response, and sometimes press issues if they're not rejected clearly.

As far as totally unwilling, this too. I call out to women from my or whatever car I'm in whenever I'm in the mood. If I'm at a rowdy party or club, I will grab women by their belts or pinch their asses to try and entice them to come dance with me.

I'd LIKE a guy to try this with me......Most guys are too chicken, tho.....well, I guess it's not really that, cuz it's hard to know just how far to go with a complete stranger, I wish I could put a stamp on my forehead.....(wants sadist, I'll play coy, but don't stop) heheh

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Btw, I was referring to the casual encounters part......I don't generally mind if a guy grabs my ass at a club, as long as he's hot

 

[babiesmiles]

What about the ones who dress casually and are dancing in the middle of the floor with the scantily dressed chicks?

I go to clubs cause I love to dance. Their's no point otherwise. If I'm gonna do the wallflower thing, I might as well be at home in the comfort of my living room.

I agree with you Graceanne .

I adore to dance , and I love to dance in the way I like more , dressed as I like more ( no matter if one is single or not cause isn't that the issue ) . But I like to dance alone . And if some not clearly even silently welcomed man should grab or pinch me while I 'm dancing or just staying in a club , in my opinion that's just harassment , and the above man should pay lot of attention about the possible consequences such a gesture could have .

One can be submissive or not , single or not , provocative or not , but without a clear signal of go , men ( or women , i'm not making gender discriminations here ) should keep hands well locked in their pockets .

Only my 2 cents ..but ... uh ..i'm ranting now ! soz

 

[naughtygirl69s]

babiessmiles.....I see what you're saying and you're right, it definately can be harrassment, I guess I never really considered that. When I'm a bit tipsy in a club if i see a hot guy and I get any indication he's interested, I might very well go up to him and grab/grope/kiss him without so much as a word. I've never been slapped/turned down or otherwise refused, I guess it's just a vibe you pick up. There are very well people I wouldn't do that to, cuz I don't get a certain vibe from them.

I would think it could go the same way with men, I've had it happen to me a time or two. If it's someone I'm NOT Intersted, I clearly tell them that or don't make eye contact or otherwise avoid them.

I don't think marquis is saying he just pinches any girl's bum he feels like but rather if he gets a certain vibe from someone that they are flirting with him, etc. At least that's the way I read it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yeah, but there's dancin' and there's dancin'. And bitches LOVE to pull up right in front of me and practice that cooch pop they saw on MTV. And I'm supposed to do what exactly? Slowly approach her so she can back away from the hot boy and look cool in front of her friends?

Fuck that shit, I grab asses. If she wanted to dance with me that's not gonna put her off.

LOL, that is what we used to call a cock/prick teaser....they were a plenty, took pride in notching up a number of men they could piss off (while protesting innocence and their rights), and usually when it got down to real hot with anyone, they were usually the ones who like to lay there and do nothing, be worshipped, and basically exhibit little to no real sexual desire unless it got them something in return. Needless to say, I never did fit well in that crowd.

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