A question.

[Homburg]

Me too, which is why I leave it to Master to decide when my anticipatory service is appreciated/required or not. I suppose it could be TFTB to imagine that I know what's best for him and act unilaterally without asking him first.

In a day to day context, I pay far more attention to Master's mood than anything else. I don't carry a rolled up list around of 'pre agreed service that I may carry out without his express permission' because it changes so much according to how he feels. Some days when he's down he wants attention, food cooked, maybe a massage or to snuggle with me in front of a movie. Other days he wants me to stay the fuck out of sight and everything else becomes moot.

I have no idea to what degree our dynamic fits into the TFTB spectrum of things because I'm very service oriented and would rather perform a task and have him say 'you didn't have to do that' than for him to feel neglected or that I'm some kind of terrified minion without a mind of my own, who he has to directly command if he wants anything done.

Fortunately, he agrees with all this for the most part. He is a man after all, a human being and he understands that, although I might not act as he wishes all the time, I'm always genuinely doing my best and everything is well intentioned.

This is good stuff. I approve.

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Girl, just enjoy yourself and don't worry about what a bunch of fucktards on an Internet forum think (and that includes me, too). People spend way too much time over-analyzing and talking about "this is submissive and this isn't" and not nearly enough time just doing what they do and enjoying it. And, too, I've noticed that the people who are always the quickest to stand up and holler "Topping from the bottom!" are usually the ones whose kink experiences consist solely of telling ol' so-and-so in the chat room to smack her own ass with a hairbrush.

A-fucking-men.

Enjoy yourself, period. Sure, there are creative and contraintuitive ways of enjoying yourself, but one way that will never work is to let other people you don't know define your enjoyment for you.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

Topping from the bottom, as a concept, is incredibly confusing to me.

Ask itw - she's a pro at it.

 

[BiBunny]

A-fucking-men.

Enjoy yourself, period. Sure, there are creative and contraintuitive ways of enjoying yourself, but one way that will never work is to let other people you don't know define your enjoyment for you.

Yep, yep, yep.

I think people, particularly inexperienced Doms, jump on the "Topping from the bottom" bandwagon simply because they don't have the experience to know what the hell is going on and lack the balls to admit it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with inexperience, but you have to desire to learn. Blaming the sub for one's own shortcomings is the mark of a coward and a moron. I could go on and on, but I'll refrain.

 

[00Syd]

Sound advice from everyone! I will keep it all in mind. Thanks

 

[VelvetDarkness]

This is good stuff. I approve.

Aww...