Adivce on: GF wants rougher sex?

[HottieB4U]

I agree.

I think I like things rougher than my husband. He's too afraid to hurt me. Plus, he's not really a Domme. He's too sensitive for that.

Still, from time to time, I like to have him tie me up, gag me, and fuck me damn hard. He's into it. But he rarely initiates it.

HB

Just set a safety word and do whatever takes your fancy.
Of course when you become more trusting/accustomed to what each other want, gags and things tend to stop safety words so you'll also need to be able to tell through body language.

Tears don't mean stop, I normally cry a little during rough spankings.

Saying, "Are you ok?" or "Am I hurting you?" in a kind way kills rough play...

 

[Netzach]

y'know I'm a Domme and I rarely initiate it myself.

Maybe it's the girl in me, but I still feel the need to be seduced. I've drifted apart in relationships when a slave or bottom wants to just be extant and therefore that should be enough to turn me on and make me want to use him and make hot firey SM happen on telepathic vibes alone, or by asking for it like you ask someone to borrow 500 bucks - not by doing the things that make me want to do him. It reall does take two to tango, and if they're tangoing fairly they're usually too busy gettin' busy to wonder if they're doing it right.

It's the opposite of the problem in this thread, but I'd advise the OP to make sure that he's not just jumping however high, however often, because that happens. A lot.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

Just set a safety word and do whatever takes your fancy.
Of course when you become more trusting/accustomed to what each other want, gags and things tend to stop safety words so you'll also need to be able to tell through body language.

Tears don't mean stop, I normally cry a little during rough spankings.

Saying, "Are you ok?" or "Am I hurting you?" in a kind way kills rough play...

I love to hear crying from my girl when I spank her

 

[LadyVamp138]

Pain with pleasure

If she wants her nipples pinched, pinch them. The best way to truly figure out if it is pain or pleasure, throw in a safe word. Having her beg for it first also gets her in the mood too.