Advice for a newbie

[Nomorevanilla]

He enjoyed the hell out of it, I got left hanging. Ah well. I'm not gonna lie, I do want to cheat with this guy. But apparently it doesnt matter because be hasnt gotten back with me. He dangled the idea out in front of me, got me excited, then pulled it back.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

He enjoyed the hell out of it, I got left hanging. Ah well. I'm not gonna lie, I do want to cheat with this guy. But apparently it doesnt matter because be hasnt gotten back with me. He dangled the idea out in front of me, got me excited, then pulled it back.

just be careful as I wouldn't be surprised if he does it again.

 

[paulthewetcd]

I need some opinions on what's going on. So here's the situation. A coworker approached me about joining him in his BDSM lifestyle as his new pet (I am married). We had a long, hot conversation about my sexual interests. I was so hot after that conversation, it was hard to pay attention at work. He told me to think about it over the holidays, as he was going to be away from work for a month. When he returned, I told him I needed a followup to our conversation. He was pleased I was interested.

So after a few more flirty conversations he said if I was serious, send him a pic of my cleavage that had a note with something written on it to prove I want to be trained. So I did. I didnt hear anythig from him for two days so I emailed him to see if he liked it. He said he did, and that we need to hang out. Now it's been two weeks and I have heard nothing!! We do not work in the same building very often, so I dont see him very much. Does it sound like a mind game, making me wait, or has he lost interest?

I want excitement. Tired of being a roomate. The only place I ever get a compliment is at work.

As this thread unfolds, I can't help but wonder about a few things:
* The coworker is toying with you. Move on to someone who respects you and your needs. Don't you think you deserve more than he is giving you?
* How are you behaving at work, to have caught his attention? Maybe it was chance or a small signal, but make sure you are not sending big attention getting messages (sexual or otherwise) around your worksite.
* Your husband deserves transparency, respect, and honesty, because he is your husband. And you deserve the same in return. After the two of you have that, you can decide what to do with your libidos and your marriage. (Yes, I am married, and yes my wife knows I am on Lit, and yes, we did discuss this thread.)
Good Luck!

 

[Primalex]

Your husband deserves transparency, respect, and honesty, because he is your husband.

People are honest to get rid of their own burden, it's never about the other person. Maybe he deserves to not having to deal with her shit?

 

[Nomorevanilla]

He has done a lot to me to cause pain that Id rather not discuss here. And this isnt for revenge, its something I feel I need. I opened this thread, not for marriage advice, but to ask about this person not responding to my communication after he opened the door to it. I wanted to know if that was a common thing to happen to someone wanting to be a sub (the waiting.)

I still love my husband but I dont want to file for divorce and have the reason be "he doesnt spank me enough." I love him VERY much even after all he has done. For a long time he substituted intimacy with me for porn. He would rather get his rocks off online than enjoy me. And perhaps Id rather get mine off with someone else. Same damn difference.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

I think a lot of people throw out a lot of hooks to see if they can get one bite. Sometimes they get that bite and they don't have a clue what to do with it so they let it go (and no, i have no clue why I made them about fishing) . Maybe that is what this guy has done?

To me, if you are interested in someone, you follow up within a few days at the most. If I go on a date with someone and i want to see them again, I likely will be in touch within a day if not sooner. If they don't reply within a few days, they are obviously not interested and i move on.

 

[Nomorevanilla]

I think I've moved on. Ran into him yesterday and he didnt say a word about anything, but there were others around. I thought maybe running into me would spark a reply but it didnt. It's a shame, he's a hottie. Guess it's back to my vibrator.

 

[Primalex]

I think I've moved on. Ran into him yesterday and he didnt say a word about anything, but there were others around. I thought maybe running into me would spark a reply but it didnt. It's a shame, he's a hottie. Guess it's back to my vibrator.

Send him a picture of the vibrator in your pussy and the text:"You are missing out."