Advice: Orgasm Denial - Teasing Her Until She Can't Take It....

[Stella_Omega]

Wow, I guess I'm in the minority here. I think being teased for hours sounds incredibly hot.

Yes, it sure does! But in my experience, in practice it just doesn't work. I wish it did.

 

[kellieanne]

Hi there people....

I wanted to post here to get some opinions.... I should probably first explain that I'm a guy and love the idea of orgasm denial, (both having it done to me and the idea of getting a woman stupidly horny with plenty of foreplay - followed by slowly licking her clit & pussy to edge of orgasm, only to pull away before she can cum) - it never fails to get me extremely turned-on!

I've never actually had it done to me, but have done it to a lady on a few occassions. I usually like to have her tied to the bed, and sometime for her to be blindfolded.

Both the women I've tried this on really did seem to love it, although they hadn't really tried any BDSM previously.

My first question therefore is: Obviously all women (and indeed people) are different, but is this something that you feel that most women would enjoy? Or would this just plain annoy some/a-lot of women?

Another question I have is; Is there such a thing as too much denial? I just adore doing it over & over - and to be perfectly honest also enjoy a laughing a little when she's in a state where she begins to beg me etc.

I also enjoy (after having teased her for ages taking her close over & over), followed by telling her that I'll let her 'come this time babes', only this is often a lie, as I like her to think she's going to orgasm 'this time', only for me to deny her again.

I always let her cum - eventually, but love taking hours end before making her cum for me.

I'd love to hear from any ladies here that love having this done to them, even if it drives them mad. It'd also be great to hear what drives them particularly wild, in terms of what there partner does to them. Indeed, any guys who enjoy doing this - I'd also love to find out what you do that drives her crazy.


For instance, I often enjoy licking and sucking her clit until she gets real real close, only to change to tongue-fucking her pussy - or perhaps licking across her ass, as this seems to particularly maker her really really desperate to cum... Although, doing this (or playing with her nipples) can cause her to orgasm - so tend to do this very gently, then stopping for a minute or two - until she settles down so I can begin again - very slowly.

Any tips or advice would be much appreciated - thanks...[/QUOTE



I enjoy being denied exactly as you described oh boy i beg

 

[AllTorment]

It's a delicate process; every partner is different and even the ones that enjoy being teased for hours can turn on you if you're taking it too far when they're not in the right place. I had a partner who loved it but even then if I judged it wrong I got a slap in the face and the cold shoulder for days. It ran contrary the begging, squirming mess that I'd intended to create.

If you're going to do it well it's about communication and gauging where she is not just physically but emotionally. When it's right, it's fucking amazing though. I can vouch for the benefits of being the one on the other end of the denial too... it seems to invigorate every sensation I have.

 

[Loverskitten]

I have to ask....
It is hard (not impossible but hard) for me to orgasm, most guys have this as a goal when with me.
The whole idea of orgasm denial is so foreign to me. I am a control freak, and often not relaxed enough too. But statements like this "My sir made me happy and permitted me to cum" are so strange to me.

Am I weird?

 

[GracefullyYours]

I always let her cum - eventually, but love taking hours end before making her cum for me.

This just pisses me off.

 

[cmky]

Am I weird?

I don't think so...not from my rather limited perspective.
I'm just the opposite...I orgasm too quickly. If I was a guy, it would be a serious problem methinks. My roomie/gf is somewhat like you. Getting her to O is a 20min affair, and my fingers and/or mouth are cramping by then. After that, she's good to go, but that first one...dang.
Me, on the other hand, once you're down there, 2 minutes tops, 3 if I'm really trying to hold it (and why on Earth would I want to do that??), after that, about 1 minute, then 30 seconds, then it's just one orgasmic blur.

We didn't think of it like this, when I first started experimenting with sex, my bf was a quick cummer. I solved the problem by slapping him *hard* in the face. That snapped him out of it and bought me a couple more minutes.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have to ask....
It is hard (not impossible but hard) for me to orgasm, most guys have this as a goal when with me.
The whole idea of orgasm denial is so foreign to me. I am a control freak, and often not relaxed enough too. But statements like this "My sir made me happy and permitted me to cum" are so strange to me.

Am I weird?

Nope. Nor are they weird. Just wired a little differently than you.

I solved the problem by slapping him *hard* in the face.

I'm going to be laughing all day about this on, thank you SOOO much!

 

[StrayKat]

I have to ask....
It is hard (not impossible but hard) for me to orgasm, most guys have this as a goal when with me.
The whole idea of orgasm denial is so foreign to me. I am a control freak, and often not relaxed enough too. But statements like this "My sir made me happy and permitted me to cum" are so strange to me.

Am I weird?

Not at all.
I am quite in the same boat especially when I know he/she is really set on it. Its like my body is saying "you want me to cum so you can feel like a winner? eh I am so NOT giving you the pleasure". Once they get to know me a bit better and learn what I like its less and less of a problem.

I only knew one guy that could make me orgasm in less than 2 minutes regularly.
He was sweet and dedicated and never saw my orgasms as some kind of trophy or ego strokers. Wish I could have kept him

 

[LibraStud]

In my experience a little anal play with my tongue while she sits on my face will bring most women to a huge orgasm in no time! It is so naughty and we both love it!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

In my experience a little anal play with my tongue while she sits on my face will bring most women to a huge orgasm in no time! It is so naughty and we both love it!

So, you've had *most women* sit on your face then?

 

[Cattypuss]

In my experience a little anal play with my tongue while she sits on my face will bring most women to a huge orgasm in no time! It is so naughty and we both love it!

And while you're sticking your tongue up her ass, how are you stimulating her clit? With your prehensile adam's apple?

 

[satindesire]

And while you're sticking your tongue up her ass, how are you stimulating her clit? With your prehensile adam's apple?

Pffft, didn't you know that MOST WOMEN can come with just a tongue in their ass? Come on now, certainly you can't be calling into question the basis of physiology, biology, anatomy and psychology and saying this guy is just posting out of his ass? Which, incidentally, can sprout flowers every time he eats chicken!

 

[ownedsubgal]

And while you're sticking your tongue up her ass, how are you stimulating her clit? With your prehensile adam's apple?

clitoral stimulation is not required for all women to orgasm. and in my case specifically, clitoral stimulation of ANY kind, even very indirect, is guaranteed to instantly disconnect any warm fuzzy feelings.

now with that said, the idea that most women/men/dogs/baboons/martians can reach orgasm simply from having a tongue up their bum, is, to put it kindly, retarded.

 

[Loverskitten]

clitoral stimulation is not required for all women to orgasm.

Yes! In fact I often wake mid/post orgasm. Which is probably weird too, but I have VERY nice dreams. What's that quote about the brain being the most important sex organ?

 

[JackVettriano]

Wet Dreams

Yes! In fact I often wake mid/post orgasm. Which is probably weird too, but I have VERY nice dreams. What's that quote about the brain being the most important sex organ?

Speaking from a guys point of view. If I am away on ops or detachment and I haven't had a proper orgasm for weeks I will start to get very real dreams and the longer I go the more perverted the dreams. Eventually if I don't get some action I will have a wet dream and wake in a sticky mess. It can be very embarrassing when sharing a room. But I do love orgasm denial, or just holding myself back because when I do cum it lasts longer and is stronger. But then it takes me longer to get going again.

 

[Loverskitten]

Speaking from a guys point of view. If I am away on ops or detachment and I haven't had a proper orgasm for weeks I will start to get very real dreams and the longer I go the more perverted the dreams. Eventually if I don't get some action I will have a wet dream and wake in a sticky mess. It can be very embarrassing when sharing a room. But I do love orgasm denial, or just holding myself back because when I do cum it lasts longer and is stronger. But then it takes me longer to get going again.

Yes I know it's quite common with men, but women? You certainly don't hear about it.

And I haven't found a correlation between the dreams and sexual activity at the time. It happens when I'm active and when I'm not. However, this never happened until I was in my 30's.

 

[seela]

Yes I know it's quite common with men, but women? You certainly don't hear about it.

And I haven't found a correlation between the dreams and sexual activity at the time. It happens when I'm active and when I'm not. However, this never happened until I was in my 30's.

I orgasm in my sleep, have for at least ten years. Actually the dream orgasms are the only orgasms that I generally do enjoy.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

This is today's random lovepost for controlling orgasms. The release... Triggering the release... There is so little that I love as much as playing, and teasing, and keeping it at arm's length, and finally... permitting.

That's all.

 

[subish2009]

LOVE it. Hits all my masochist buttons. But yeah, I'm grateful that achieving orgasm is not something with which I struggle...maybe that's a key component to happy teasing... I can certainly see what a bassackwards idea it would be for someone for whom that's a challenge!

And yeah...I orgasm in my sleep, too, and it ABSOLUTELY is directly related to how frequently I'm doing it when awake. More than a week and it's pretty much guaranteed. Ever since puberty. I dig it.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

LOVE it. Hits all my masochist buttons. But yeah, I'm grateful that achieving orgasm is not something with which I struggle...maybe that's a key component to happy teasing... I can certainly see what a bassackwards idea it would be for someone for whom that's a challenge!

And yeah...I orgasm in my sleep, too, and it ABSOLUTELY is directly related to how frequently I'm doing it when awake. More than a week and it's pretty much guaranteed. Ever since puberty. I dig it.

Subish, subish subish! Hello there...

I know it would be bassackwards under such circumstances. I'm not completely insensitive. But such a beautiful bassackwardness.

Hmmm... Maybe y'all's sleep number beds are set to "O."

 

[LibraStud]

One fun way to deny orgasm is to plant the idea at the beginning of the day. If she knows she is going to have fun after she comes home and relaxes with me, she is calling me all day long, telling me how hot she is. Especially if I have her wear her butt plug all day for me. She thinks of hot sex all day long. A very nice way to deny for a short period of time. What do you think?

 

[subish2009]

Subish, subish subish! Hello there...

I know it would be bassackwards under such circumstances. I'm not completely insensitive. But such a beautiful bassackwardness.

Hmmm... Maybe y'all's sleep number beds are set to "O."

Hi, sweetie.

I know. That kind of suffering is so pretty.

I have this chronic fear/fantasy that I'm going to spontaneously cum while asleep on a plane...

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Hi, sweetie.

I know. That kind of suffering is so pretty.

I have this chronic fear/fantasy that I'm going to spontaneously cum while asleep on a plane...

In the event of an in-flight surge in dopamine, oxygen masks will drop from the ceiling.

Ignore them, and continue to come.

Also, pass your empty cans, used vibrators and wrappers to the center aisle.

 

[the captians wench]

Yes I know it's quite common with men, but women? You certainly don't hear about it.

And I haven't found a correlation between the dreams and sexual activity at the time. It happens when I'm active and when I'm not. However, this never happened until I was in my 30's.

Add me to the list of sleep orgasmers.

And mine seems totally random, but then if I'm not hot and horny I'm probably very ill.

Jounar likes to hear the details of my dreams when I have them. But then he also likes to hear details of any encounter I have, asleep or awake.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Add me to the list of sleep orgasmers.

And mine seems totally random, but then if I'm not hot and horny I'm probably very ill.

I see wenchie, and an old-fashioned vibrating bed; cue AC/DC.