Advice: Orgasm Denial - Teasing Her Until She Can't Take It....

[TarevaChine]

Yes I know it's quite common with men, but women? You certainly don't hear about it.

And I haven't found a correlation between the dreams and sexual activity at the time. It happens when I'm active and when I'm not. However, this never happened until I was in my 30's.

I haven't found a correlation with mine either. I wonder if it has to do with your other post about "control issues". I am a "control freak" too and everything happens in my dreams because I don't have control then.

Since it brings pleasure, I don't think about the reasons why I do this. The only time it has been an issue is when I have been travelling for work and staying in a hotel and have woken myself up because of being too vocal. It makes me wonder who the hell else heard me.

 

[StrayKat]

I haven't found a correlation with mine either. I wonder if it has to do with your other post about "control issues". I am a "control freak" too and everything happens in my dreams because I don't have control then.

That is interesting theory but sadly not true for me. I have control issues as well but I never have orgasms in my sleep.

 

[subish2009]

That is interesting theory but sadly not true for me. I have control issues as well but I never have orgasms in my sleep.

I always felt, for me, like it was just my body's way of getting that energy out. If no one is letting me do it while awake, then my body figures it better get shiz done on its own, D or no D.

I love them because I don't get punished for cumming without permission.

 

[geekmaster24]

This right here is my primary kink. I love this. I came into this lifestyle loving it and I still do. I do not force it on all my subs but I like to introduce it to them in some sort of fashion. Whether it be by a situation like the OP wrote or a long term deal. I've denied a girl orgasm for two months one time.

The idea of holding the power while she begged for release is amazing...

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've denied a girl orgasm for two months one time.

From what I understand about orgasms, you may only have been successful in doing that during your sessions if she had been orgasming elsewhere.

Keep a man locked down for too long and he loses his sex drive. Keep a woman locked down for too long and she loses her sex drive. Try to keep a woman locked down when she doesn't want to be, and she'll cum from squeezing her thighs together. Stealth mode.

 

[geekmaster24]

From what I understand about orgasms, you may only have been successful in doing that during your sessions if she had been orgasming elsewhere.

Keep a man locked down for too long and he loses his sex drive. Keep a woman locked down for too long and she loses her sex drive. Try to keep a woman locked down when she doesn't want to be, and she'll cum from squeezing her thighs together. Stealth mode.

I wouldn't put it past anyone woman to not be able to do anything.

 

[confusedtears]

Personally if a man kept coming back to my clit again and again I would lose all ability to come after 4 or 5 times and then just get pissed off.

Perhaps you could tease her everywhere but? Like feet, inner thighs, nipples tummy etc... Take FOREVER to get to her clit (by which point I would be howling) and then go to town when she's really begging you. Xx

 

[secretlover1]

I love the idea of edging a guy IF he was into it.
If it was the other way round the word "hours" puts me off. A little teasing is nice but to deny beyond comfort and enjoyment is a pointless exercise!

 

[LibraStud]

I want to do this soon. I want to experience her pulling back, obeying me, wiggling her hips to calm down, begging me to let her finish.

 

[ponysslave]

I would go absolutely NUTS for a guy that would tie me up and deny me for atleast an hour! Depending on the lover, getting me over the edge can be quick and easy or long and drawn out.....I've even faked it after a while with some when I knew I wasn't really going to get off so I could go do it myself ; )

There was one time that a guy tried denial with me that was really great, he would get me to that edge then slap me in the face and drag his finger nails over my legs and play with my nipples for a while. After I settled down, he would keep me tied and fuck my mouth until he got to the edge, then he would turn his attention back to me and cycle through like that for an hour or more. By the time he gave his permission I was thrashing around, writhing, and begging for it so violently that my voice was going hoarse lol!

As for teasing, I LOVE having my nipples played with for long periods of time, progressing to fingering and then some ass play and FINIALLY his mouth which ALWAYS gets me into trouble because sometimes he would make it my responsibility to remain still and relaxed while he played with me. This is UTTER TORTURE because everytime I would tense up, wiggle, or buck he would add an extra cycle into my denial or spanking depending on how long it took to get myself back under control and how powerfully I disobeyed him......now THAT was really good : )

That sounds wonderful. I enjoy denial, especially when mixed with nipple torture & spanking.

 

[SashaGaga999]

Another question I have is; Is there such a thing as too much denial? I just adore doing it over & over - and to be perfectly honest also enjoy a laughing a little when she's in a state where she begins to beg me etc."

Not for me...i like being driven to that point...of begging...

 

[abella117]

I personally think that orgasm denial should be outlawed. Its cruel and inhumane.
What sadistic bastard thought up this?? And besides I would constantly fail, over and over and over again, and I would forever be punished for my constant failures

 

[Notsogentleman]

I personally think that orgasm denial should be outlawed. Its cruel and inhumane.
What sadistic bastard thought up this?? And besides I would constantly fail, over and over and over again, and I would forever be punished for my constant failures

Yes, what a horrible, horrible cycle to be trapped in.

 

[DirtyWeeBitch]

Everything in moderation...

I would personally hate this if you kept it up for a long period of time. It's okay if you just deny it twice (bring me close twice without allowing orgasm) then let me cum the third time, but I'd bite you if you kept it up. And not in a kinky way.

I had a boyfriend who used to do it a few times, then he'd let me cum and that was alright til he realised he could force orgasm too (and he'd make me have up to 30 a night) and then that became the new thing which just left me exhausted all the time, and not in a good way.

Basically, as the saying goes, everything in moderation. Don't deny it too many times, don't overdo the letting her cum.

Good luck.

Jen x

 

[DirtyWeeBitch]

Hi there people....

I wanted to post here to get some opinions.... I should probably first explain that I'm a guy and love the idea of orgasm denial, (both having it done to me and the idea of getting a woman stupidly horny with plenty of foreplay - followed by slowly licking her clit & pussy to edge of orgasm, only to pull away before she can cum) - it never fails to get me extremely turned-on!

I've never actually had it done to me, but have done it to a lady on a few occassions. I usually like to have her tied to the bed, and sometime for her to be blindfolded.

Both the women I've tried this on really did seem to love it, although they hadn't really tried any BDSM previously.

My first question therefore is: Obviously all women (and indeed people) are different, but is this something that you feel that most women would enjoy? Or would this just plain annoy some/a-lot of women?

Another question I have is; Is there such a thing as too much denial? I just adore doing it over & over - and to be perfectly honest also enjoy a laughing a little when she's in a state where she begins to beg me etc.

I also enjoy (after having teased her for ages taking her close over & over), followed by telling her that I'll let her 'come this time babes', only this is often a lie, as I like her to think she's going to orgasm 'this time', only for me to deny her again.

I always let her cum - eventually, but love taking hours end before making her cum for me.

I'd love to hear from any ladies here that love having this done to them, even if it drives them mad. It'd also be great to hear what drives them particularly wild, in terms of what there partner does to them. Indeed, any guys who enjoy doing this - I'd also love to find out what you do that drives her crazy.


For instance, I often enjoy licking and sucking her clit until she gets real real close, only to change to tongue-fucking her pussy - or perhaps licking across her ass, as this seems to particularly maker her really really desperate to cum... Although, doing this (or playing with her nipples) can cause her to orgasm - so tend to do this very gently, then stopping for a minute or two - until she settles down so I can begin again - very slowly.

Any tips or advice would be much appreciated - thanks...

I would personally hate this if you kept it up for a long period of time. It's okay if you just deny it twice (bring me close twice without allowing orgasm) then let me cum the third time, but I'd bite you if you kept it up. And not in a kinky way.

I had a boyfriend who used to do it a few times, then he'd let me cum and that was alright til he realised he could force orgasm too (and he'd make me have up to 30 a night) and then that became the new thing which just left me exhausted all the time, and not in a good way.

Basically, as the saying goes, everything in moderation. Don't deny it too many times, don't overdo the letting her cum.

Good luck.

Jen x

 

[LibraStud]

It is amazing how different we all are, and yet, we are also the same in many ways. I find denial, when used in moderation, an absolutely wonderful way to heighten the pleasure of my partner. All of the women I have been with encourage me to play this way. They want me to control them, tell them when they are permitted to finish. I get warm writing about it.

 

[katiejust4u]

I can say that being brought right to the edge and not being allowed to cum then being spanked is very much a turn on, I have never cum from the spanking but I sure do get dripping wet and even more desperate.

 

[sweetsong35]

honestly my Dom gets great pleasure from denying my orgasms initially. I enjoy it too during the initial phase but once i've been allowed my first, i want more and then the intensity increases to the point we both cum at the same time. It varies each time but i will say i love his control over my orgasms. The spankings are like a reward should i attempt to cum without his permission.

 

[sweetsong35]

honestly my Dom gets great pleasure from denying my orgasms initially. I enjoy it too during the initial phase but once i've been allowed my first, i want more and then the intensity increases to the point we both cum at the same time. It varies each time but i will say i love his control over my orgasms. The spankings are like a reward should i attempt to cum without his permission.

 

[jallenworley]

Release

I, being a guy, loved being teased and denied. With a woman, I find it's better to make her cum and cum and cum. Giving her orgasm after orgasm is more of a "pleasure torture" than teasing and denial.

 

[DVS]

Orgasm denial isn't just watching to see when someone is about to cum and stopping before they do. Well, it is, but because everybody is different, it's not the same. And like we've seen in this thread, some people enjoy it and some don't. Some people get bored, some get pissed and some just get.

I enjoy denying a woman's orgasm, but there is a trick to it. I stop short of saying it's an art, because I don't want to say I'm a god or something. But, there is a lot involved in this. Knowing a person's personality, knowing their nooks and crannies, and of course watching to see if they are pissed that you didn't allow them to cum or just getting pissed off.

And some women don't enjoy it. They want to get down to business. But, even they can sometimes enjoy it for a few minutes. But it must be done correctly, and it varies for every woman. So, watch your "victim" and know when the time is right to give denial a try and also when it's time to orgasm.

 

[VulnerableSubmissive]

Yes! Denial is wonderful since I'm more driven by anticipation. As long as the focus is still on my body, clit, nipples, etc.

No spanking (or any pain)needed as that sends focus off the build up.

 

[WanderingGator]

The best advice, from a woman, I ever got on this issue was this... Most can stand 2 teases but you better be prepared to get her across that finish line the third time... Three strikes and you might find yourself "OUT"!!!

 

[night&day]

Bullshit!

Never knew a woman that wanted to be brought close to an orgasm and then denied it! I found that women love to be brought to orgasm as many times as I can help them reach it. Usually after a number, they might ask me to stop and let them catch their breath, but I never met one that wanted to be denied one! I would never even think about denying a woman sexual relief, and I enjoy them getting off even more than me getting off myself!

 

[mellowyellows]

This is one of my favorite sexual activities.