Am I a total freak?

[skittles_lm]

You're not the only pain slut who can't get enough hunny! Just be careful with the choking- it's really dangerous. Like every time it happens you can go into cardiac arrest dangerous. Otherwise, get your rocks off however it makes you both happy! Good luck.

 

[Netzach]

If weird means being in a small percentile yes, you are weird.

I add to that though, so?

Is that really so awful?

 

[the captians wench]

If weird means being in a small percentile yes, you are weird.

I add to that though, so?

Is that really so awful?

I was so proud the first time I scared a potiential date because I was too much of a freak

Tho I was even prouder when I atracted one for the same reason.

 

[Byakuya]

I was so proud the first time I scared a potiential date because I was too much of a freak

Tho I was even prouder when I atracted one for the same reason.

lol, I've scared my wife because I'm too much of a freak. like one time when I mentioned I'd like her to pour hot wax on me, she was like "WHAT!?!?"

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... Is this totaly weird? I need some other imput because for once I am at a total loss! ...

Yup, totally weird!

Welcome to The Club! Dues are $25.00/year, payable to Evil_Geoff, PM me for my paypal account... *WEG*

Hey... I can hope you get off on financial pain too, can't I??? *LOL*

 

[Toa_lin]

Yup, totally weird!

Welcome to The Club! Dues are $25.00/year, payable to Evil_Geoff, PM me for my paypal account... *WEG*

Hey... I can hope you get off on financial pain too, can't I??? *LOL*

Hehehe, and don't 4get your "legal fees" which are $10 a year, payable to TL's account

 

[Etoile]

finding it a bit strange how you could beat someone you love. Slap & tickle yes beating no, but thats just me.
What concerns me more is the trust thing. How easy would it be for someone to take advantage of your 'kink,' if you are being beaten by a guy that enjoys beating you, cause thats what HE gets off on.
If a guy beats you cause thats what you want, that's OK?

For me, whether I enjoy the beating personally is irrelevant. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. But my real enjoyment derives from knowing my top is enjoying what they are doing. If my top enjoys beating me, then I am glad to take it, and I enjoy providing that service.

Now, it happens that I do enjoy many forms of violent, rough sex. But that's beside the point.

 

[marieR19]

Gotta raise my hand as another who craves the more violent side. And not having much experience or access to it, I used to be very self-destructive about it... Hurting myself to get the violence thrill, even daring my friend to hit me (yeah, that was stupid, I know)...

Like others have said, it's about trust, and my ex-gf/current-friend has warned me about that so many times. She knows how deep my fantasies go in this respect, but she always warns me to not get with someone that would hurt me for real just because I think it's what I want.


Heather

 

[Master_n_Mentor]

Okay so I have always been into the whole being tied up and whipped thing. Here lately though I have become increasingly more violent. Well I should say that I have had my man become increasingly more violent, I beg him to slap me and bite me. I beg him to whip me or spank me harder. I also beg him to put his hands around my throat. It's gotten to the point where I am constantly bruised up and almost have bald spots from him pulling my hair out. My friends say that I am too dependant on the violence to get off, but that's the thing. I get off without the violence, but getting slapped or whatever makes my orgasm stronger and more intense. Is this totaly weird? I need some other imput because for once I am at a total loss! I love being his bitch, but I am starting to wonder if I am alone in loving to be "beaten".

This has been a great thread so far, and I'm going to keep track of the input into it. I wish to concentrate on the following statement:

I get off without the violence, but getting slapped or whatever makes my orgasm stronger and more intense. Is this totaly weird?

First of all let me say you are completely normal, and I'm going to guess very experienced with BDSM scenes.

What is the pleasure in pain? Well, you will probably notice that all Dom's tend to "warm up" their submissives before the blows begin to increase in intensity. There are two things at work here, that our wonderful body and brain provide for such intense play.

First there is the adrenaline that feeds our body's energy state. The more we are at risk (the approach of "Fight or Flight" at the subconscious level) the more adrenaline our body is fed. The same thing goes for exercise. It too bring it out, but for a submissive it tends to be more in the Fight-or-Flight reaction.

Then comes the body's natural sedatives. The endorphines that are released when we are flogged, or spanked. The first blow hurts, but you know that the pain will be converted into pleasure. The change is the amount of endorphins that are released into your body by the glands controlled by your brain.

The more pain tolerance we have, or the more pain tolerant we become, the less adrenaline and the less endorphins that are released. Thus, the need for more pain, more reasons for your subconsious to believe you are in danger and drive all the emotions to the limits you enjoy. Your conscious mind is fully aware that you are in the presense of someone you trust and the physical portion of the scene does not frighten you. But your subconscious is what you are trying to fool into giving you the thrills at the moment when you reach orgasm so that the intensity is hightened.

Having said all that, please take the advise of those before me who said to be careful. Because in that search for intense feelings and emotions, you can cross the line from pain to harm. Harm is long term and sometimes forever, pain is simply temporary.

Play safe, sane and concensual, and if you're going to those extremes make sure neither has alcohol and that you are in full control of your senses.

Be Well

 

[Jaydoes]

this is the problem with all forms of edge play...

The problem with edge play of whatever kind is that once you get accustomed to a certain level of play, it takes going a little further to get the same thrill that you used to get...then a little further...and etc...
My suggestion for subs into this sort of thing is make sure that you do it with an experienced dom. I've known of a couple subs who ended up in the hospital from an experiment gone wrong.
But I'm with everyone else....its okay to be weird...we're all weird in one way or another...so get your rocks off however you like...just post some pics of it so we can enjoy it too, eh? hehe

 

[Etoile]

Thank goodness none of my edge play has landed me in the hospital. Those ball bearings were damn unpleasant, but they were pretty safe.

 

[the captians wench]

Thank goodness none of my edge play has landed me in the hospital. Those ball bearings were damn unpleasant, but they were pretty safe.

Okay I need more info here please? *bats eyes all pretty like*

 

[DaddyDom_In_206]

Yup, you're totally weird...

...and I'd like to find a girl just like you.

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Happy Birthday sexy_dancer

May your day be as bright as all the hope we have for your happiness.Sorry to hijack but hey it's her birthday today and she gets all the spankings she wants. This has been a great thread and it really does speak to the razors edge you have to walk when go down this path.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Thank goodness none of my edge play has landed me in the hospital. Those ball bearings were damn unpleasant, but they were pretty safe.

Ohhhh, c'mon Etoile! Ball-bearings? ? ?

Dish, girl, dish!

 

[Etoile]

Ohhhh, c'mon Etoile! Ball-bearings? ? ?

Dish, girl, dish!

ROFL! Let's just say it involved an extremely unpleasant panty-less walk down 8th Avenue...

 

[Snoozebutton2]

ROFL! Let's just say it involved an extremely unpleasant panty-less walk down 8th Avenue...

You know your av lends itself to that story. lol

 

[sexy_dancer]

Back in Action

Well here I am again. Back and as horny as ever. I still love to be beaten and all is well and good. I am glad that you all love my thread so much!!! All my love to you all!

XOXOX

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Well here I am again. Back and as horny as ever. I still love to be beaten and all is well and good. I am glad that you all love my thread so much!!! All my love to you all!

XOXOX

Good to see you back. Look forward to hearing of more of your journeys into pain.

 

[Lick_My_Kitty]

First off, no, you're not a freak ^.^ I
Don't think that you are, I mean, different strokes for different folkes no?

Secondly, I enjoy having that happen sometimes to me as well, pain does seem to trigger certain things that make an orgasm stronger and the sensation more intense.

Third, if it's bothering you that you are being too demanding on being beaten, talk to him about saying no once and a while to your requests or try to wean yourself from it, just a little at a time.

Honestly, I enjoy the same things, though its not a constant for me to ask for it, I still enjoy it if it makes any consolation to you...heh ^.^

 

[b1111]

Yes...

...I will help you in your fetish, kinky girls...PM...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

...I will help you in your fetish, kinky girls...PM...

, oh and did i mention ?

 

[Quixotica]

Enjoy it while ya got it!

Getting your rocks off through mutual, consensual play is not as weird as trying to reach the same high by doing it to yourself. S&M is worse than crack but it's really not a one player sport.

Does anyone else out there get cravings for physical pain but then get the DT's when you can't satisfy them?

Hi, my name is Quixotica and I am a pain slut.

*sigh*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Getting your rocks off through mutual, consensual play is not as weird as trying to reach the same high by doing it to yourself. S&M is worse than crack but it's really not a one player sport.

Does anyone else out there get cravings for physical pain but then get the DT's when you can't satisfy them?

Hi, my name is Quixotica and I am a pain slut.

*sigh*

*waves from the audience* Hi Quixotica!

My name is Geoff and I'm a sadist! It's been 2 weeks since my last scene...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

finding it a bit strange how you could beat someone you love. Slap & tickle yes beating no, but thats just me.
What concerns me more is the trust thing. How easy would it be for someone to take advantage of your 'kink,' if you are being beaten by a guy that enjoys beating you, cause thats what HE gets off on.
If a guy beats you cause thats what you want, that's OK?
You can be sure that your not alone in your feelings.
I guess having this relationship and making it work would involve a lot of love & trust. Hope you have lots of both.
Did that make sense?

O love my rose, and I LOVE beating her... I just made a new flogger to use on her... Of course she loves how I beat her so its a symbiotic relationship.