An Open Letter To _____

[Veroe]

Well I half agree with you. She shouldn't be owned by anyone.

I just don't really think calling someone a slut and a fuckdoll are exactly compliments.

That would depend on the person and the tone Aus says it in.
I think its clear that Aus intended that as fun-minded teasing rather than anything intended to hurt Zy. You were just teasing her right Aus?

 

[Ahren]

I know she didn't mean it negatively. I'm just sayin'.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

I meant it in the tone that Zy needed to hear. In a loving, yet, dominant way. Sort of "You know, yes darling?"

Because that's something that she reacts to viscerally, course I am shooting from the hip here. It's possible that she doesn't.

Shit. Eggnog kicking in. Am I making sense?

 

[zydrate]

I think what Ausus said is the most sweetest thing anyone could ever say to me!

hops around, giggling TY Ausus!

 

[Alana_]

Dear B.

You would have loved last night. Loved the games and the laughing..the silly jokes and poking fun. We miss you still, and there's always a place saved for you no matter what we do or where we go.
At one point we didn't think we'd ever be together as a unit and not notice your absence to the point it hurt.....but we're getting there..It's different...but because we know it's what you would want, we go on, and are making the changes we need to. I love you..I don't think I told you enough, but I did, do and always will.
You were my friend as well as my Aunt. There was only one 'B', and only ever will.

Miss you.

Me.

 

[Mephistophelily]

To those who've listened/put up with me/gotten sick of it....

I'm sorry I bitch so much. I'm sorry I do it so often on here. Its making me come off as whiney, complaining, and ungrateful. I'm sorry. That's not what I wanted at all. This is the only place I can air my frustrations anymore without him or those he knows seeing. I'm brave here. I could never say this shit aloud. I'm sorry if I've become too annoying with it to some of you.

I'll stop. I'm sorry.

-She who won't shut the fuck up.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

To Lily,
Bitch, moan, vent.
Anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to read the posts.

Love,
me

 

[BRIGHTWELL]

Just passing through

AH, what warm holiday spirit we all have today. Hope you all have a very sexual holiday. Guys keep the seed off the ground, please!

*Smile*

 

[Veroe]

To those who've listened/put up with me/gotten sick of it....

I'm sorry I bitch so much. I'm sorry I do it so often on here. Its making me come off as whiney, complaining, and ungrateful. I'm sorry. That's not what I wanted at all. This is the only place I can air my frustrations anymore without him or those he knows seeing. I'm brave here. I could never say this shit aloud. I'm sorry if I've become too annoying with it to some of you.

I'll stop. I'm sorry.

-She who won't shut the fuck up.

That's the point of the thread isn't it? To whine and bitch about shit that's happened to you.

Though if you feel you do so too much. I'd suggest mixing it up some, Lily. Write a letter of thanks or praise to one of your cowriters or a freind you have here in the lounge or an anonymous friend you have in the RW to moderate the level of bitchiness you think you have reached.

Maybe doing so will even help brighten up your day so the things that you'd bitch over won't bother you so much...okay chances are slim for that happening but it is possible, right?

 

[Ahren]

To Lily,
Bitch, moan, vent.
Anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to read the posts.

Love,
me

Well, that's not exactly how it works. Intentionally not reading posts is easier said than done.

As far as Lily's post specifically. She's actually right. I was getting a bit annoyed at how most of her posts were bitching lately, but who am I to stop her from ranting? Everyone does it.

I personally just don't understand why she doesn't just talk to her friends... If she ranted to me in IMs it wouldn't annoy me at all. I guess what annoys me is that so many posts in this thread are so vague that no one can understand them, but people avoid being more specific because it would be too personal.

So reading them just becomes annoying. What did they mean? Who are they talking about? In PMs or IMs, chances are they would be less cryptic.

So maybe it's not so much being annoyed at bitching as being annoyed that I can't really offer help or comfort or advice when I don't know what people are talking about.

This post didn't make a whole lot of sense but hopefully you know what I mean.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

Well, that's not exactly how it works. Intentionally not reading posts is easier said than done.

As far as Lily's post specifically. She's actually right. I was getting a bit annoyed at how most of her posts were bitching lately, but who am I to stop her from ranting? Everyone does it.

I personally just don't understand why she doesn't just talk to her friends... If she ranted to me in IMs it wouldn't annoy me at all. I guess what annoys me is that so many posts in this thread are so vague that no one can understand them, but people avoid being more specific because it would be too personal.

So reading them just becomes annoying. What did they mean? Who are they talking about? In PMs or IMs, chances are they would be less cryptic.

So maybe it's not so much being annoyed at bitching as being annoyed that I can't really offer help or comfort or advice when I don't know what people are talking about.

This post didn't make a whole lot of sense but hopefully you know what I mean.

In other words, give us more information Lily, so we can help, IF we can help. Some of us are pretty smart, and we might be able to come up with a solution that you haven't thought of yet.

I think that's what Ahren is trying to say. And stands as further proof that he actually has a heart... awww.



Dear Ahren,

Hot new AV, and we promise not to tell a soul that you have a heart.

Kisses,
Aus.


Got it people?! Mums the word on this one!

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Well, that's not exactly how it works. Intentionally not reading posts is easier said than done.

As far as Lily's post specifically. She's actually right. I was getting a bit annoyed at how most of her posts were bitching lately, but who am I to stop her from ranting? Everyone does it.

I personally just don't understand why she doesn't just talk to her friends... If she ranted to me in IMs it wouldn't annoy me at all. I guess what annoys me is that so many posts in this thread are so vague that no one can understand them, but people avoid being more specific because it would be too personal.

So reading them just becomes annoying. What did they mean? Who are they talking about? In PMs or IMs, chances are they would be less cryptic.

So maybe it's not so much being annoyed at bitching as being annoyed that I can't really offer help or comfort or advice when I don't know what people are talking about.

This post didn't make a whole lot of sense but hopefully you know what I mean.

It does make sense.
All of it, actually.
My point was, though, that this is a single thread. If, for example, someone found a significant number of posts annoying, they wouldn't have to come into the thread. The same way i no long go to the general board.
I'm not going to comment on anything other than that because I don't think its appropriate (though, an argument could be made that Lily posting all this opens the door to more direct comments, I am simply choosing not to go through that door).

I'm just a little tired of people saying what others should and shouldn't post, ESPECIALLY when those posts are limited to certain threads.
my two cents.

 

[Mephistophelily]

I've been having problems with mr.
At least, I think we are. He's seemingly oblivious to it.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

I usually just post vaguely to get things off my chest when I'm upset. When I'm really bothered I suppose I tend to go off a bit too much... It helps me clear out my thoughts. I need to find a better method for it.

As to why I'm so upset? My husband. I went to a counselor a few months ago over suicidal dreams and thoughts. Between those and some other issues, she told me it sounds like I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship, but I'm too stupid to leave and would rather be dead to get out of it. I never went back. But everything she said stuck with me... And I see it all more and more. He hurts me so much sometimes and is blind to it.

When I rant... It's everything that's hurt me. But I can't show I'm hurt around him. So I cry in the shower, I hide it away on here.

The thing in the gift thread? He got me lingerie. Horribly skimpy camo print that he said he can't wait for me to be able to wear... Between that and constantly reminding me that I looked better when I was 20 lbs lighter, I feel like shit.

I'm sorry I get so vague, Ahren. I was just afraid that if I said anything you'd deem me pathetic and stupid. So there... Yeah. That's why I do it. At least, why I did. I'm not doing it anymore. The attempts to clear my head are simply pissing others off and making friends get annoyed with me.

I'm not posting this for sympathy or boo hoo hoo look at me- Ahren asked why I've been this way. Well there you go.

I really am sorry to have done it so much this year.
I'll try harder to stop it. Being concerned on your own happiness too much is a terribly selfish thing and I should stop complaining. The kids are mostly happy... He doesn't hit me... Why the hell should I be so upset? Especially on here. This is my place to be happy and I've been letting this seep into it. I can't keep doing that.
So there you go.
And I'm done. My last big venting.

Can we get back to the happier things now?

Nope.

Sorry sugar, I don't know you all that well, but I do read what you write. And I think that you deserve to use this space to bitch as much, and often as you need to. We all do it.

It's said that a survivor needs to leave an abusive relationship on average of seven times before she can commit to it fully. This is that time that sucks, where you get ready to leave, where you prepare and separate. And it sucks.

Seven times.

Are you ready?

 

[Ahren]

I know I'm a jerk sometimes but do I really give off the impression that I'd call people pathetic for serious real-life problems?

 

[Nina327]

I know I'm a jerk sometimes but do I really give off the impression that I'd call people pathetic for serious real-life problems?

you give off the impression that .. you might and that puts people on edge regarding you.

 

[Nina327]

"Those that mind
dont matter
Those that matter
Dont mind"

 

[Mephistophelily]

I know I'm a jerk sometimes but do I really give off the impression that I'd call people pathetic for serious real-life problems?

No...Its just I already had one rl friend stop talking to me for trying to say anything to her.
I don't want to lose my online friends too because of me not knowing when to shut up.

 

[Nina327]

No...Its just I already had one rl friend stop talking to me for trying to say anything to her.
I don't want to lose my online friends too because of me not knowing when to shut up.

This may hurt but... you won't lose real friends, online or off, talking about anyof this. You will however find out who really cares.

 

[Ahren]

What she said.

 

[Apollion]

Dear Wonderful Ladies and Gentlemen of Lit,

I hope you guys had a great Christmas or whatever you celebrate this time of year.

-Apollo

 

[Mephistophelily]

This thread, actually, is the reason I was afraid to be more specific on things. One of the earlier posts here.
But.
Please, can we move off from this? Like I said, I want to get away from posting like that, and this is just sticking there. Now I apologize for even apologizing.

 

[monique_minx]

*Reads entire page quietly and then this post...*

This thread, actually, is the reason I was afraid to be more specific on things. One of the earlier posts here.
But.
Please, can we move off from this? Like I said, I want to get away from posting like that, and this is just sticking there. Now I apologize for even apologizing.

I quite literally feel a 'slap her, she's french' moment coming on here. You're sorry for being sorry?!

In what universe does that make sense?!

Why don't you make a 'Lily bitch's' type of thread and just emotionally pour it out there?
I even have a diary online here, on my computer and a little notebook for half the crap on my brain (yes, I think too much. Yes, I have serious mental problems for needing that many diaries and yes, Ahren, I did it for you so shut up and act cute).

That way, no one gets annoyed because they can't 'accidentally' read it and certain friends who want to hear and help you out can read and give you advice there. Your bitchiness is then sectioned to one unmistakable thread.

That's my two cents Lily, you probably didn't want it but you got it anyway!

 

[Ahren]

Did what for me?

 

[monique_minx]

Did what for me?

Picked on myself before you could