Anal is better when she WANTS it!

I did not think it was that difficult of a task anymore to find ladies who are into it.

it seems that more girls are open to it i agree but tell me, whats the best way to reveal such fetish to a girl?.. directly? or do you let her tell you. i have never been 100% confident revealing anal play/sex desires, cause its like 50% chance she doesnt like it, and you never want to offend a chic that ur into. at least i dont..
 
Honestly, most relationships will reach a point where I would hope you could be open to them about that type of stuff. Anal sex is hardly even taboo by today's standards. It is well on its way to becoming completely mainstream. If I get too in-depth the sociology major in me is going to come out and I will start lecturing about social changes and how society taboos are broken over time so I will refrain lol.
 
Honestly, most relationships will reach a point where I would hope you could be open to them about that type of stuff. Anal sex is hardly even taboo by today's standards. It is well on its way to becoming completely mainstream. If I get too in-depth the sociology major in me is going to come out and I will start lecturing about social changes and how society taboos are broken over time so I will refrain lol.

Well on its way to becoming completely mainstream, however i still do not think that we are 100% yet. However depending on where a person was raised and what they have been exposed to, it can be an extreme, kinky left sided fetish. Trust me, i come from a smaller than major metropolitan area which traditionally has been a conservative community, and although i have met some freaks that like anal sex, the good girls, the ones that i look for, aren't really into it..

I agree with you, that YES, the conversation of anal sex is more mainstream. For me it is still so hard to find a sexy, classy good woman, everything that i'm looking for woman that likes to get fucked in her ass twice a week. if there was she'd be mine.. lol jk

That's what makes the story that started this thread, so amazingly hot to me.

:D
 
Ok so yesterday the wife demanded I 'take her arse' during a day of sensual sex. she does enjoy anal stimulation and rimming rather than full penetration, however after using a hitachi wand like device on her pussy and arse for about an hour she just got on all fours and demanded.
An absolute first for the mum of 3, though she was so turned on anything may have been possible. She has already told me today she is going to 'do me' later, oooh!
 
I have found that women, if they have never done it but are interested, respond if properly stimulated.....I wrote of this experience.....

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After dating for a few weeks, it was clear to me that she was a woman that craved being controlled - but didn't think of herself that way. She responded to light physical control by becoming tremendously excited, but was very assertive when it came to discussions about anal sex. She had never experienced it before and stated that she had no interest in it at all. However, caresses of her ass cheeks, and light fingering of her ass opening caused her to get very excited as well.

One evening, I decided to be bolder and flat-out state that I was intent on teaching her to LOVE anal sex...and that her first lesson was going to be right now. Her response was to state back to me, that she wasn't interested and that she didn't want to try it. It appeared we were at an impasse. Then I stated what she really desired to hear.

"OK, let's make a deal....let me take the first steps using only my finger, and if it doesn't thrill you, I will not do it anymore. And I mean THRILL you. if you do not cum because of my finger in your ass, then I'll stop fingering you and not bring up anal sex again - deal?"

She was OK with that and allowed the experiment to begin. Her mind was made up - she wasn't going to enjoy it, and she was only humoring me. That was the challenge placed in front of me. So, it was time to start the process. And that start began with her mind.

It was clear to me that she needed to learn that pleasure could cum from the sensation, instead of worrying about possible pain. Therefore, based on her submissive mental tendencies, my task was to make her crave anal sex.....and to not allow any pain at all to occur for her at any time. I felt that if I did both of those tasks, she would LOVE anal.

I licked her pussy to start off with. She needed to be rewarded for her decision. I made sure to talk to her as I licked her to give her verbal encouragement as well as the mental image while I was tonguing her. I wanted her cumming a lot before I got started on her ass. My tongue was gentle and slow as I slid it around her slit and clit area. I made sure to slowly build-up her desire and make her first orgasm an explosive one to start with. My tongue flicking occasionally up and over the top of her clit continued the build-up I started with the long, slow, gentle tongue strokes I used sliding thru her slit. It wasn't long before she came hard the first time.

I then lubed up my finger and placed it at her ass entrance. I did not push at all, but merely placed a consistent pressure against it while holding my finger still. Then I started licking her clit again and talking to her.

"You know I am gonna make you cum on my tongue again, right baby? You know you will scream for me soon - don't you...you know that..." And with that, I'd start tonguing her pussy like before....all the while having some constant, but slight amount of pressure on her ass with my lubed finger.

"Baby, I will not push my finger inside you....that isn't how my finger will make it into your ass...you know how my finger will start going in? When you ass tells me it WANTS my finger....you will crave my finger soon baby...very soon...and you'll know because all by itself, without you trying at all, your ass will open up for my finger....and it will relax and let my finger go alll the way in...as deep as it can go...you ass WANTS my finger in it deeply baby...you'll see...."

And then I licked her clit fast and firm...I wanted to make her cum again quickly...and she did....and as she came, her ass started opening ever-so-slightly for my finger. I was true to my word and did not push in further at all...I just keep the same slight pressure stay on my finger and waited....

"You see? No pain baby...none at all...your ass opened as you came...it is wanting my finger now...but I am not pushing...your ass will invite me deeper....feel that? feel how your ass is loosening up for me? That is what I wanted...just like that...no pain at all is there...none at all..."

And as I spoke, my finger slowly entered deeper and deeper into her ass...because she was loosening up...I did not push at all at any time...and she was starting to notice that not only was I right about there being no pain at all, I was also right that it was turning her on as it slide deeper...and she told me so.

"God Jeff, it actually feels good to me...I NEVER thought it would feel like this...no pain at all...and I cannot believe it went in without you pushing at all...amazing."

When the finger was all the way in, I let it rest there so she could get acclimated to the feeling. Then it was time to get started on her cumming with my finger in her ass. I started that by inserting a finger from my other hand into her pussy...deep....so that she would experience pleasure with a finger in her ass.....

With my finger in her ass kept still, but fully inserted, I merely touched my finger in her pussy to the finger tip in her ass...thru her membrane...and let the pussy finger slide back and forth so she could feel that. She LOVED that sensation. So, I just kept the rythym going and slowly sped up faster and faster in her pussy...until she came...not hard, but she came. As she was cumming, I told her a few things (my habit of getting conversation as a woman cums....part of the mental aspect I am trying for)..

"Oh yes baby, that's what I want...cum for me now...that's it...that's what I wanted....feel my finger in your ass baby? Feel it? it isn't moving...but it is fully in your ass and you came...you like the feeling of cumming with my finger in your ass don't you...tell me baby...you like it don't you..."

"Yes....I liiiikkkeeee..ittt...." she throated out as she was cumming....her emotional excitement in her voice as she tried to talk thrilled me.....

Then it was time to get her to cum from motion in her ass....so once she had calmed down a bit, I told her I would keep my finger in her pussy still...and that it was now time to move my finger....only she would be doing the movement. I would keep my finger in her pussy as deep as I could...but that I would keep my finger in her ass at the same location and SHE would move her ass as she wanted...if she wanted it to start sliding out, she should move that way...and if she wanted it deeper, just work it in....

And so she did...it was awkward at first as we figured out how she needed to move, but we both got the hang of it. It was important that SHE be the one that motioned and not me. That way, she had total control over the sensations. As she moved about, I asked her about any discomfort...and she always replied that there was none. She kept saying how amazing it was to her, but she was enjoying it actually.

Once she had done a few strokes in all the way and back out, I asked if she was ready for me to take over now. She agreed. And with that, she got her first finger ass-fucking. I made sure to keep my finger in her pussy in deep and pressed against her membrane, and then slide my finger in her ass back and forth fast and deep...rubbing finger tips as I did...and all of a sudden, for the first time in her life....she came from motion in her ass. it surprised both of us because it happened so quickly and unexpectedly, but she came.

Afterwards, I told her that so far, I had met my side of the bargain...would she meet hers? And she said yes...she would let my fuck her ass...and so......I stopped...and didn't touch her ass again for a few weeks....and simply talked nasty to her about it...and built up the sexual tension associated with it. After a few weeks, she started asking me if I was going to try and fuck her ass...and I never answered....and didn't do it....and she kept asking day after day...without the answer she expected.

Then, one day, she just plain asked me for it. So, being a gentleman, I agreed....provided she properly "prepared for me." I explained that I would know....for certain...that she wanted my cock in her ass if she arrived at my house having already lubed up her ass....then I'd know without a word what she wanted my cock for...until then, I wouldn't touch her ass....

That evening she came over....and she told me that she had prepared for me. I got hard immediately at her saying that...and told her it was time to learn to enjoy my cock in her ass......I also told her that the first lesson would be very similar to the last lesson....and I was true to my word....

I started by placing the head of my cock at her ass opening instead of my finger...and merely put pressure there...slight pressure at that...and kept my cock still...then I put a finger in her pussy and started rubbing her g-spot....telling her again, that I would not move my cock...but that her ass would automatically open for me...because it craved my cock...wanted it in her ass....and her body would let her know when for the first time....

As she came on my finger, her ass opened up a bit for me...and I kept still...until my head popped inside her...I didn't push at all...and asked her if it felt OK...she said there was no pain at all...that it felt, "different" but not bad...and definitely did not hurt....so I kept still and kept the slight pressure on her ass....

Over time, about 3 or 4 minutes, her ass opened up more and more...and my cock shaft gradually slipped deeper and deeper into her ass....my talking to her as it was happening causing her to moan out loud numerous times as she felt it occurring.

"Feel that baby? feel my cock sliding in? You love that already don't you...you love that...I can tell by your breathing changes...I can hear in your voice the excitement of the feeling in your ass...you love this baby....oh yes..it is getting deep in your ass now, isn't it?"

When it was all the way in, I kept still...and like before, gave her ass time to get acclimated to the size difference in her ass....and then told her it was up to her to move back and forth.

She was tentative at first, but gradually moved further and faster, testing if it was painful. it was not. She was amazed again...and once she had done a few strokes in and out deeply, I asked if it was time for her first ass fucking.

She said yes....and I fucked her ass long and deep. And she came. And she came again. And then a third time. On the fourth time, I slapped her ass hard while she came and she let out a scream as she came.....

Then I told her, "This will be your favorite baby...you know that now don't you...that this will be your favorite way to cum...you know that right baby?"

And she replied, "yes."
 
Any sexual experience is better if both people are really in to it. But, yes, there is something great about a woman looking at you and saying, "I want you to fuck me in the ass now!"
 
I have found that women, if they have never done it but are interested, respond if properly stimulated.....I wrote of this experience.....

===================

After dating for a few weeks, it was clear to me that she was a woman that craved being controlled - but didn't think of herself that way. She responded to light physical control by becoming tremendously excited, but was very assertive when it came to discussions about anal sex. She had never experienced it before and stated that she had no interest in it at all. However, caresses of her ass cheeks, and light fingering of her ass opening caused her to get very excited as well.

One evening, I decided to be bolder and flat-out state that I was intent on teaching her to LOVE anal sex...and that her first lesson was going to be right now. Her response was to state back to me, that she wasn't interested and that she didn't want to try it. It appeared we were at an impasse. Then I stated what she really desired to hear.

"OK, let's make a deal....let me take the first steps using only my finger, and if it doesn't thrill you, I will not do it anymore. And I mean THRILL you. if you do not cum because of my finger in your ass, then I'll stop fingering you and not bring up anal sex again - deal?"

She was OK with that and allowed the experiment to begin. Her mind was made up - she wasn't going to enjoy it, and she was only humoring me. That was the challenge placed in front of me. So, it was time to start the process. And that start began with her mind.

It was clear to me that she needed to learn that pleasure could cum from the sensation, instead of worrying about possible pain. Therefore, based on her submissive mental tendencies, my task was to make her crave anal sex.....and to not allow any pain at all to occur for her at any time. I felt that if I did both of those tasks, she would LOVE anal.

I licked her pussy to start off with. She needed to be rewarded for her decision. I made sure to talk to her as I licked her to give her verbal encouragement as well as the mental image while I was tonguing her. I wanted her cumming a lot before I got started on her ass. My tongue was gentle and slow as I slid it around her slit and clit area. I made sure to slowly build-up her desire and make her first orgasm an explosive one to start with. My tongue flicking occasionally up and over the top of her clit continued the build-up I started with the long, slow, gentle tongue strokes I used sliding thru her slit. It wasn't long before she came hard the first time.

I then lubed up my finger and placed it at her ass entrance. I did not push at all, but merely placed a consistent pressure against it while holding my finger still. Then I started licking her clit again and talking to her.

"You know I am gonna make you cum on my tongue again, right baby? You know you will scream for me soon - don't you...you know that..." And with that, I'd start tonguing her pussy like before....all the while having some constant, but slight amount of pressure on her ass with my lubed finger.

"Baby, I will not push my finger inside you....that isn't how my finger will make it into your ass...you know how my finger will start going in? When you ass tells me it WANTS my finger....you will crave my finger soon baby...very soon...and you'll know because all by itself, without you trying at all, your ass will open up for my finger....and it will relax and let my finger go alll the way in...as deep as it can go...you ass WANTS my finger in it deeply baby...you'll see...."

And then I licked her clit fast and firm...I wanted to make her cum again quickly...and she did....and as she came, her ass started opening ever-so-slightly for my finger. I was true to my word and did not push in further at all...I just keep the same slight pressure stay on my finger and waited....

"You see? No pain baby...none at all...your ass opened as you came...it is wanting my finger now...but I am not pushing...your ass will invite me deeper....feel that? feel how your ass is loosening up for me? That is what I wanted...just like that...no pain at all is there...none at all..."

And as I spoke, my finger slowly entered deeper and deeper into her ass...because she was loosening up...I did not push at all at any time...and she was starting to notice that not only was I right about there being no pain at all, I was also right that it was turning her on as it slide deeper...and she told me so.

"God Jeff, it actually feels good to me...I NEVER thought it would feel like this...no pain at all...and I cannot believe it went in without you pushing at all...amazing."

When the finger was all the way in, I let it rest there so she could get acclimated to the feeling. Then it was time to get started on her cumming with my finger in her ass. I started that by inserting a finger from my other hand into her pussy...deep....so that she would experience pleasure with a finger in her ass.....

With my finger in her ass kept still, but fully inserted, I merely touched my finger in her pussy to the finger tip in her ass...thru her membrane...and let the pussy finger slide back and forth so she could feel that. She LOVED that sensation. So, I just kept the rythym going and slowly sped up faster and faster in her pussy...until she came...not hard, but she came. As she was cumming, I told her a few things (my habit of getting conversation as a woman cums....part of the mental aspect I am trying for)..

"Oh yes baby, that's what I want...cum for me now...that's it...that's what I wanted....feel my finger in your ass baby? Feel it? it isn't moving...but it is fully in your ass and you came...you like the feeling of cumming with my finger in your ass don't you...tell me baby...you like it don't you..."

"Yes....I liiiikkkeeee..ittt...." she throated out as she was cumming....her emotional excitement in her voice as she tried to talk thrilled me.....

Then it was time to get her to cum from motion in her ass....so once she had calmed down a bit, I told her I would keep my finger in her pussy still...and that it was now time to move my finger....only she would be doing the movement. I would keep my finger in her pussy as deep as I could...but that I would keep my finger in her ass at the same location and SHE would move her ass as she wanted...if she wanted it to start sliding out, she should move that way...and if she wanted it deeper, just work it in....

And so she did...it was awkward at first as we figured out how she needed to move, but we both got the hang of it. It was important that SHE be the one that motioned and not me. That way, she had total control over the sensations. As she moved about, I asked her about any discomfort...and she always replied that there was none. She kept saying how amazing it was to her, but she was enjoying it actually.

Once she had done a few strokes in all the way and back out, I asked if she was ready for me to take over now. She agreed. And with that, she got her first finger ass-fucking. I made sure to keep my finger in her pussy in deep and pressed against her membrane, and then slide my finger in her ass back and forth fast and deep...rubbing finger tips as I did...and all of a sudden, for the first time in her life....she came from motion in her ass. it surprised both of us because it happened so quickly and unexpectedly, but she came.

Afterwards, I told her that so far, I had met my side of the bargain...would she meet hers? And she said yes...she would let my fuck her ass...and so......I stopped...and didn't touch her ass again for a few weeks....and simply talked nasty to her about it...and built up the sexual tension associated with it. After a few weeks, she started asking me if I was going to try and fuck her ass...and I never answered....and didn't do it....and she kept asking day after day...without the answer she expected.

Then, one day, she just plain asked me for it. So, being a gentleman, I agreed....provided she properly "prepared for me." I explained that I would know....for certain...that she wanted my cock in her ass if she arrived at my house having already lubed up her ass....then I'd know without a word what she wanted my cock for...until then, I wouldn't touch her ass....

That evening she came over....and she told me that she had prepared for me. I got hard immediately at her saying that...and told her it was time to learn to enjoy my cock in her ass......I also told her that the first lesson would be very similar to the last lesson....and I was true to my word....

I started by placing the head of my cock at her ass opening instead of my finger...and merely put pressure there...slight pressure at that...and kept my cock still...then I put a finger in her pussy and started rubbing her g-spot....telling her again, that I would not move my cock...but that her ass would automatically open for me...because it craved my cock...wanted it in her ass....and her body would let her know when for the first time....

As she came on my finger, her ass opened up a bit for me...and I kept still...until my head popped inside her...I didn't push at all...and asked her if it felt OK...she said there was no pain at all...that it felt, "different" but not bad...and definitely did not hurt....so I kept still and kept the slight pressure on her ass....

Over time, about 3 or 4 minutes, her ass opened up more and more...and my cock shaft gradually slipped deeper and deeper into her ass....my talking to her as it was happening causing her to moan out loud numerous times as she felt it occurring.

"Feel that baby? feel my cock sliding in? You love that already don't you...you love that...I can tell by your breathing changes...I can hear in your voice the excitement of the feeling in your ass...you love this baby....oh yes..it is getting deep in your ass now, isn't it?"

When it was all the way in, I kept still...and like before, gave her ass time to get acclimated to the size difference in her ass....and then told her it was up to her to move back and forth.

She was tentative at first, but gradually moved further and faster, testing if it was painful. it was not. She was amazed again...and once she had done a few strokes in and out deeply, I asked if it was time for her first ass fucking.

She said yes....and I fucked her ass long and deep. And she came. And she came again. And then a third time. On the fourth time, I slapped her ass hard while she came and she let out a scream as she came.....

Then I told her, "This will be your favorite baby...you know that now don't you...that this will be your favorite way to cum...you know that right baby?"

And she replied, "yes."
Jeff - Wow. wow. wow. wow. wow. Did I say wow yet? That was fantastic. Thank you for posting that! If more men took it slowly and non threatening like that, all of the ladies would be waggling their asses for some more :)
 
When it comes to sex anal is my preference. Why it's not so much a taboo now days it still has the whole "it's for him" thing attached to it, while in my own opinion I get far more enjoyment from it then he does.

I've always been interested in it, and made it clear near the start of my relationship that it's something I wanted to do. Of course, like most men, he was more than happy about it. While I'm not saying you need to say "I like anal" as soon as you meet, it's defiantly better if you find out your partner's preference sooner than later.

I'm very passionate about anal, to the point of convincing every couple I know to at least try it (for some it's now a regular thing). The sheer pleasure of anal, especially the sensation of a man orgasming back there, is something I feel every woman should experience at least once.
 
When it comes to sex anal is my preference. Why it's not so much a taboo now days it still has the whole "it's for him" thing attached to it, while in my own opinion I get far more enjoyment from it then he does.

I've always been interested in it, and made it clear near the start of my relationship that it's something I wanted to do. Of course, like most men, he was more than happy about it. While I'm not saying you need to say "I like anal" as soon as you meet, it's defiantly better if you find out your partner's preference sooner than later.

I'm very passionate about anal, to the point of convincing every couple I know to at least try it (for some it's now a regular thing). The sheer pleasure of anal, especially the sensation of a man orgasming back there, is something I feel every woman should experience at least once.


Wonderful, your just about perfect I think! :D thanks for sharing.
 
When it comes to sex anal is my preference. Why it's not so much a taboo now days it still has the whole "it's for him" thing attached to it, while in my own opinion I get far more enjoyment from it then he does.

I've always been interested in it, and made it clear near the start of my relationship that it's something I wanted to do. Of course, like most men, he was more than happy about it. While I'm not saying you need to say "I like anal" as soon as you meet, it's defiantly better if you find out your partner's preference sooner than later.

I'm very passionate about anal, to the point of convincing every couple I know to at least try it (for some it's now a regular thing). The sheer pleasure of anal, especially the sensation of a man orgasming back there, is something I feel every woman should experience at least once.

Thank you for commenting on my thread. You are so sexy. Also i read your "Girls guide to Anal." How come i cant find a girl like you to date. your man is so lucky. =)

oh.. and great pics btw
 
Thankies

In my own experience sexually free women stand out a mile away. You just have to look for the crazy look.
 
Had a mind blowing sexual experience with a beautiful woman Saturday night, who didnt know i was into anal play and as we were having sex she fingered and pleasured her own ass as i fucked her hard from behind! I was so turned on, that i removed her finger, inserted my own until she climaxed HARD!!

During the middle of the night we were naked and i woke up the greatest sexual surprise of my whole life, she had my cock in her hand and was already positioning it right at her back door, i pushed forward oh so slightly and she moaned with delight as i entered. I fucked her for 35-40 mins right there from the side until i came, bursting my whole load into her ass..

Greatest sexual experience i probably have EVER had.

Cant wait to see her again!

My first time being with a woman who liked anal as much as i do.. usually im having to convince the girl to do it, and she isnt really into it.. just wants to please me.

Getting so hard just thinking about it..


Sounds perfect, a long deep hard anal fuck is just bliss in my opinion.
 
i can do that

I'm a woman who very much wants to try anal. In fact, nothing turns me on more than watching/reading about anal sex. I just need to find someone to help me realize this fantasy. ::heavy sigh::

i would be very happy to help you with that......:rose:
 
Anal is one of those things that many women might find rough at first but if you stick with it, do it proper will make them loving it in time. It's all about technique, how you do it and preparation.

Nothing hotter knowing you can take a woman as you wish.
 
The title could have been better for this thread..makes it sound like you do anal even they aren't overly interested. That's probably why you've had prickly responses.

As for how to broach it.. It really isn't as complicated as people try to make it. I've asked my partner upfront if he was interested in back door action for himself (after we had tried anal) and all he can say is yes or no. As long as it is presented as curiosity I can't imagine there being too bad a response. It does help to know your sexual parter is open to suggestions. - how do you know that? Communication

There is no reason for anal to be a painful experience. It takes time and patience but you start small and work your way up to penis. Pain usually occurs when one partner is being impatient. Even though I have experienced anal for a decade (on and off) I can still make the mistake of trying to have penile anal after a long break without a few days of stretching. Pain is a quick reminder of size limitations without the work being done.
 
The title could have been better for this thread..makes it sound like you do anal even they aren't overly interested. That's probably why you've had prickly responses.

As for how to broach it.. It really isn't as complicated as people try to make it. I've asked my partner upfront if he was interested in back door action for himself (after we had tried anal) and all he can say is yes or no. As long as it is presented as curiosity I can't imagine there being too bad a response. It does help to know your sexual parter is open to suggestions. - how do you know that? Communication

There is no reason for anal to be a painful experience. It takes time and patience but you start small and work your way up to penis. Pain usually occurs when one partner is being impatient. Even though I have experienced anal for a decade (on and off) I can still make the mistake of trying to have penile anal after a long break without a few days of stretching. Pain is a quick reminder of size limitations without the work being done.

@Beth.. although the Title may seem "un-inviting" its true honesty. See. anal play with girls for me is almost non-negotiable. It is my only true, strong fetish. Im honest with every girl im sexually involved with. that i have to have it.

I had never experienced sex with a female, that asked ME for it. NEVER. until this night. Quite a shocker indeed. I think grammatically, the title probably should have read "anal is better when SHE wants it." true indeed, however that was my only point. Kind of like my ex. She would "let" me finger her ass during sex, or while i ate her, but she only did it to appease me. and although i find that to be sweet and considerate and all of those good things, i always think in the back of my mind that she resents me for it. Whether that being the case or not thats how i felt. My dream girl fingers her own ass during sex because she like it. Not because i like it. Does that make sense?

BL
xoxo
 
To be honest....

I love anal but I don't think my boyfriend is into it.
Oh well, a girl can dream.

I'm not really into it either... if my partner wants it then I will but I would much rather feel her sweet pussy wrapped around my cock. :D
 
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