Anal sex

[SimonBrooke]

Anal sex is useful in a D/s relationship to this degree: as a dominant, you need to find safe-ish edges - areas that are on the extreme limits of or outside your sub's comfort zone, but not actually dangerous to her and not far enough outside her comfort zone to completely gross her out. Anal often fits that bill, in the early stages.

Afterwards, of course, you have to find other safe-ish edges!

 

[subsarah1989]

sad but true

Anal sex is useful in a D/s relationship to this degree: as a dominant, you need to find safe-ish edges - areas that are on the extreme limits of or outside your sub's comfort zone, but not actually dangerous to her and not far enough outside her comfort zone to completely gross her out. Anal often fits that bill, in the early stages.

Afterwards, of course, you have to find other safe-ish edges!

this really sums it up well. basically it is not much D/s, many (most?) couples engage in it these days....but that doesn't mean it isn't great and can be incorporated into D/s

 

[subish2009]

this really sums it up well. basically it is not much D/s, many (most?) couples engage in it these days....but that doesn't mean it isn't great and can be incorporated into D/s

I don't think there's anything sad about it, though... I don't give extra points for how extreme you are. I give extra points for how far outside your comfort zone you go in the spirit of a good time. What's extreme for you might not be for me and vice versa, but this isn't a competition. Anal's hot. 'Nuff said.

 

[Bill3250]

Through the generosity of Lady Claire, I am allowed to play with two of her lovely females (Kay and Jena) both of whom enjoy anal sex, but taking them anally is symbolic of the power I have been permitted to exert. This symbolism is important because as a previous poster wrote anal sex has been mainstreamed and enjoyed by many not in a bondage relationship.

Bill

 

[subsarah1989]

sufficient

I don't know, the overpowering arousal that's generated from the act itself, knowing that m has given herself so compeltely, opening her ass for Me, never any lube other than her own pussy juices and My saliva... generally propels Me towards and increasingly and incredibly harder and wilder fuck. Knowing that she cums wildly while I pummel her ass, accompanied by squeezing her tits, pulling her nipples and grabbing her hair, invariably leads Me to a mindblowing orgasm.

So, if there is devotion and careful consideration somewhere in there, so be it, I just think of it more along the lines of raw anal lust!

saliva and "pussy juices" can be great but not always enough

 

[BabyxGirl]

saliva and "pussy juices" can be great but not always enough

Saliva and "pussy juices" are never enough to ease Sir Williams cock into my anus, but the burning pain of such an assault do wonderful things for my masochistic-self. Sir William rarely attacks me in this manner, but uses a liberal supply of lube because it is needed for HIS comfort.

Sir William is Lady Claire's husband and I am.....

Jena, Lady Claire's naughty little slut

 

[skinnysinner]

I don't think there's anything sad about it, though... I don't give extra points for how extreme you are. I give extra points for how far outside your comfort zone you go in the spirit of a good time. What's extreme for you might not be for me and vice versa, but this isn't a competition. Anal's hot. 'Nuff said.

Agreed, its about 'shared' control, just far enough for the dom to feel empowered, the sub to feel taken beyond where they would choose to go. That, for some might be him underneath and doing it with the lights on and eyes open, for others its torture. Either way its still fine and dandy for those doing it. Also agree, anal's hot for either partner!

 

[Etoile]

Saliva should never be used if the person has oral herpes. Because anal herpes is crueler than any punishment any Dom could think up.

 

[freeki123]

i agree...just another way 2 have sex...personally though im just doing fingers so far...but working on it

 

[SirLeo]

Ok=
-Saliva is fine for us, we have been together for 20 years
-We have trained m to be able to relax and open up, so yes saliva and pussy juice is enough for us, we like the friction
-whatever works for each is a good rule, so is being patient and communicating

If you both enjoy it, for what ever your reasons, who cares what others think.

Go Nike on it.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Anal sex is useful in a D/s relationship to this degree: as a dominant, you need to find safe-ish edges - areas that are on the extreme limits of or outside your sub's comfort zone, but not actually dangerous to her and not far enough outside her comfort zone to completely gross her out. Anal often fits that bill, in the early stages.

Afterwards, of course, you have to find other safe-ish edges!

I can see it's value in those circumstances.

For me, it was more about establishing that next level of trust, than pushing my boundaries and establishing relationship positions. I was more than willing to try, it wasn't on my no list, but it was on my 'I haven't had good experiences so we have to talk about this and how to go about it properly' list.

At the time, I trusted him well enough to try, and that trust and intimacy grew from there as he was indeed careful with me.

 

[subsarah1989]

Ok=
-Saliva is fine for us, we have been together for 20 years
-We have trained m to be able to relax and open up, so yes saliva and pussy juice is enough for us, we like the friction
-whatever works for each is a good rule, so is being patient and communicating

If you both enjoy it, for what ever your reasons, who cares what others think.

Go Nike on it.

it's hot when a man spits on it from time to time to keep it lubed

 

[SirLeo]

it's hot when a man spits on it from time to time to keep it lubed

Even hotter to have a second around subbie to spit on it or lick it!

 

[Marquis]

This thread makes me realize how necessary an acronym change is in order.

I propose we know refer to what we do as BDSMA

You can guess what the "A" stands for.

 

[subsarah1989]

This thread makes me realize how necessary an acronym change is in order.

I propose we know refer to what we do as BDSMA

You can guess what the "A" stands for.

by that rational this thread is solved

 

[DVS]

This thread makes me realize how necessary an acronym change is in order.

I propose we know refer to what we do as BDSMA

You can guess what the "A" stands for.

Then, if that's the case, I'd have to use something like BDSMA

 

[dicky911]

of course it is - of the D/S - it is the purest form of submission, to take the entire penis into the anus - and to rejoice in this complete penetration

 

[Etoile]

of course it is - of the D/S - it is the purest form of submission, to take the entire penis into the anus - and to rejoice in this complete penetration

The ENTIRE penis? What if I only want her to take HALF my penis? Is that less pure?

 

[Marquis]

My sub REALLY loves anal sex.

This is almost weird for me, I'm so used to pressuring girls into it....

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

My sub REALLY loves anal sex.

This is almost weird for me, I'm so used to pressuring girls into it....

And how does that make you feel?

 

[Marquis]

And how does that make you feel?

Blessed.

 

[WriterDom]

Is anal sex a key component of a Master/slave relationship?

One would hope!

 

[FungiUg]

The ENTIRE penis? What if I only want her to take HALF my penis? Is that less pure?

Woot! I knew you had one!

Is anal sex a key component of a Master/slave relationship?

Well, let's see. Suppose the "Master" isn't into anal? Is it possible to be a "Master" and not be into anal sex? If so, then how can anal sex be "a key component"?

Me, I'd say it's another tool in the toolbox.

 

[radepor]

No

It would be to me.

But not, necessarily, to someone else.

Is anal sex a key component of a Master/slave relationship?

 

[SirLeo]

Saliva should never be used if the person has oral herpes. Because anal herpes is crueler than any punishment any Dom could think up.

Um, I would think and hope that if a person has an active oral herpes lesion, sexual play is the last thing on their mind while its active.