It would depend more on way it is used. Even the most common, the most acceptable sexual acts can be a key component of bondage if the dominant person uses it to control the subservient one.
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It would depend more on way it is used. Even the most common, the most acceptable sexual acts can be a key component of bondage if the dominant person uses it to control the subservient one.
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Actually, most herpes is transmitted without an active lesion. Shedding can occur at any time, with or without a lesion. Most people are smart and don't do anything as soon as they feel the prodrome, so it doesn't spread while lesions are coming or active - it spreads when they're not active, and the person doesn't even know they're shedding.
I would like to try it
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Yes, it is key. I could not imagine having a female who would not offer all of herself to Me.
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I'm curious. How does that make it "key"? I mean, yes it's part of the "all" that you expect to be offered to you.
Er, not meant as a critcism, just trying to understand why it is so important that it becomes "key". As a counter example, I'm pretty sure you can have anal sex without it having anything at all to do with BDSM, so I'm struggling a bit to understand why there is so much importance attached to this.
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Once again, I could not imagine having a female who would not offer all of herself to Me.
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Heh the capital M always gives me a giggle. A friendly tip-- you don't need it around here. You'll get respect or not, based on the content of your posts.
Anal sex is a component of sex, period... vanilla, BDSM, top or bottom. I like playing with butts.
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So true!
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I think what FungiUg is saying is: "Would you fuck her in the butt a lot, or does she just have to let you in case you want to?"
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So on the flipside, I wouldn't want to submit to a man who had no interest in taking my ass. I enjoy anal and because I'm maso as well as sub, I enjoy the pain too. G has a strap on that she's used in the past and while it's not the same as an actual penis, sometimes I really need that itch scratched and she needs to penetrate me and cause me pain. I would go so far as to say that pain in central to my enjoyment of anal. Too much lube and gentleness would leave me frustrated and unsatisfied. Yes, there are risks to painful anal but they're my risks to take. I also like not knowing whether she will cause enough pain to arouse me or go all out and have me begging for mercy. For me, it's a big power thing.
So there are variations. Anal doesn't have to be painful and not all subs are into pain. Not all painwhores are submissive. It all depends on what a person's wants and needs are, what the two people involved stand to gain from the experience.
So there are variations. Anal doesn't have to be painful and not all subs are into pain. Not all painwhores are submissive. It all depends on what a person's wants and needs are, what the two people involved stand to gain from the experience.
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Rye?
Where I come from, 90% of bread is made from wheat.
Cullinary as well as sexual preferences vary with geography to a degree. But they vary more according to the needs of those involved.
Where I come from, 90% of bread is made from wheat.
Cullinary as well as sexual preferences vary with geography to a degree. But they vary more according to the needs of those involved.
When I first tried anal sex it was before I discovered my true station in life at the feet of Lady Claire and after a bit of initial discomfort, I found the sensations of being stretched and filled in that taboo manner to be quite pleasurable. Though, when turned over to Sir Kenneth or Sir William, anal sex is considered a part of a bondage session, I have trouble believing it.
Anally yours, Jena
Anally yours, Jena
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I guess I don't understand where this thread is going or coming from. I don't need a key to get anal sex. That back door is always open to me.
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There's no OR in these two options. I'd fuck her in the butt a lot and I'd do it any time I want. Then, I guess that means she would have to let me.
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with bondage added, she hasn't got a choice.
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I don't understand. Again, maybe I'm missing where this thread is going, but it seems you are saying that bondage and anal sex cause you confusion in some way. I enjoy taking someone's ass 10 times more, when she's bound and helpless. Are you saying she would enjoy it more, if she wasn't bound?
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This is true, in a pure environment, but the forum environment isn't always pure.
But, I agree with your thought process. Do unto others...
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Just because we agree on bondage doesn't mean I'm going to try vanilla ice cream with pepper on it. OK...I might.It's always better bound.
To coin a phrase,
Anything vanilla is yummier with the peppermill of kink has been ground over it.
(try black pepper on vanilla ice cream, honestly)
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Just borrowing your keys, okay?I guess I don't understand where this thread is going or coming from. I don't need a key to get anal sex. That back door is always open to me.
So why does that make anal sex key? That's only one part of "all" in my books. Sure, if you want all of a woman, then having something excluded would rankle. But so would any other part of a woman's body being excluded.
For me, I could generalise and say that sex is key to my style of D/s play, as that's the largest part of my motivation around control. I like anal sex to be a part of that, sure. But I like penetration with toys, oral sex, vaginal sex, aural sex, etc to all be a part of it.
So I'm looking hard for that key, and other than borrowing one from DVS I don't get why anal is a key.
Okay, for assumption's sake, let's assume a woman finds anal play squicky for some reason, and that her submission makes her offer a part of herself she finds degrading and by doing so it pushes her really hard into sub-space. So for that individual woman, anal sex may be a key to her submission. That might work.
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OK, but be sure to fill her up with gas.
The act of anal sex has been a taboo for many people, over the years. I've had to coax women into trying it, because some would be reluctant. It hasn't always been considered a part of sex in the vanilla world, or at least not one that was talked about in mixed company. So, I could see how some people would see anal sex as one of the last frontiers in sex.
But in the BDSM world, it's always been there. Only in the last 10 years or so, anal sex has become more and more just another sexual act for the vanilla crowd, or at least those vanillas who like to live on the edge without considering themselves too kinky. So, BDSM has benefited from this awareness or "crossing over". And I'm not complaining...not at all.
Not so long ago, I happened to mention anal sex as a kink of mine, in a thread. Someone then started bashing me about that, saying anal sex wasn't a kink. In fact, she said it was pretty vanilla. This is how much anal sex as evolved. I think she thought I meant the basic act of anal sex.
I guess what I'm saying is, I can understand when someone says anal sex is key, if they are of the mindset that anal sex was the last frontier...the last act the vanilla world finally started saying they participate in. But those of us in the BDSM area take anal sex a step or two further than just sex. Just like we've taken vaginal sex further. For those of us who considered ourselves BDSMers, anal sex was just a part of the fun.
Sure, some of us have taken the ball and ran with it. I enjoy anal sex so much, I could do without vaginal sex completely. I've got more kinky ideas to keep a woman involved in sexual acts without ever touching her clit. But, because I want her to have an orgasm every now and then, I am forced to include her clit and vagina in my fun. We all must conform to live in the greater society.
Anal sex as key, if of the mindset it's the last frontier in the vanilla mind? I can see that. But, anal sex as key, if of the BDSM mindset? That's a bit of a stretch. I agree that anal sex MUST be included in any sexual encounter I participate in, or I wont enjoy it nearly as much. But that's just me.
I don't see anal sex as the key to anything in the broader sense. It does come in quite handy in my sexual mind...the part it plays combined with bondage, lewd positions, mental images I create to seduce and torment the timid, fuel the desire within the willing, and ultimately enhance the sensations and complete what I call BDSM as a whole. But, I still come across women who are very deep into BDSM in other areas, but consider anal sex totally off limits, for whatever reason. Ha, it's their loss.
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Maybe he uses her butt to try to open doors?
Sudden mental image of picking up a cute girl and squishing her butt against the door handle... yum!
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Agreed. On the other hand, "greek" has been practiced for thousands of years (after all, Sodomy is named after a story in the old testament.) I suspect you could claim the same for cunnilinguis though, and I tend to practice that even more than anal sex. Maybe one day I'll get it right?
I think one or two of us have noticed that about you.
Damn, I wish I could introduce you to my lover. She gets the most intense orgasms from anal sex, and will beg me for it at times. Life is good! I think she'd miss the other bits not getting played with though, especially nipple torture.
Yeah. That's what I am struggling with to try and wrap my head around why it would even be considered "key".
I've run into women who have kissing as a hard limit, or cock sucking as a hard limit, or wearing skirts as a hard limit... y'get all sorts.
What I meant was that having my anus penetrated is so commonplace and without pain I don't feel dominated by the activity, bound or unbound. Of course, if I am "forced" to surrender my anus to a Master (or a Mistress with a dildo) there is a feeling of being used or abused, but I find it difficult to "believe" I am being dominated.
Doubting Jena
