Annie's Room

[SweetAnnie40]

I get asked from time to time how a sissy man can find an understanding woman to share their fetish with. I'll say up front that I have no magic solution there but I can just give you my perspective.

Most of the women I've known well enough to discuss our sex lives naturally see sex as something that is really there for someone they are in love with, someone they are committed to. (At least at their current stage in life... they were more sexual earlier in life). That is their frame of reference, that all sexual acts are evidence of a love relationship, heavy emotional component.

A few of the women had a view similar to my own where sex is something does not always need to be burdened with carrying that heavy emotional weight. Sexual intimacy can be emotional and generate emotions but it can also just be fun or pleasurable. I think I've told the story of my male platonic friend years ago who was having a terrible day, his life seemed to be cratering. I gave him a "one time only" blowjob and sort of snapped him out of his funk. He still had issues but had a better perspective. I had fun, he certainly had fun. I did it because I cared about him as a friend so in some way it was a "love act" but it was also very casual.

I'll admit I've had encounters that were very physical and very little emotional component. Not a lot but I'm okay with them. I'm not ashamed of them. We had fun.

So if I take my viewpoint into a committed relationship, I can see sexual interactions where we just have fun, share pleasure, where we aren't really focusing on the loving intimacy. Now, that's gotten my hubby and I into trouble so we're trying to sort that out, but I think there is room in a relationship for love-sex and just-fun-sex.

What's my point? Well, if you can identify a partner who understands that there is love-sex and there is fun-sex, you're most of the way toward finding someone who could accept your kinks.

Someone with (what I would consider) an evolved understand of gender and gender roles, someone who's image of their relationship with you is less founded in you as a purely masculine persona, would also give me high hopes they would understand and support you.

So it's really spending time with people who have open views on sexuality and gender roles who are much less likely to be scared off when you beg to wear their undies and have them strapon a cock for play time.

 

[Sissy_Trish]

We also need to check the supplements he's been taking to feminize his body. That could be messing with his hormone balances and interfering with his arousal to certain things, maybe?

I had prostate cancer, and one of the treatments to insure success was to take injections of Lupron. It removes the testosterone from your system, by telling the body the levels are fine...... well forget about sex......I had absolutely no sex drive what so ever. Then I found out that the same drug is given to sex offenders to chemically castrate them.......

The injections for me reduced the size of the cancer by 40% and softened it so the radiation would be even more effective at killing the cancer. I also was seeded with the radioactive seeds too. If every thing works as planed this summer will mark the 5 year point ....and a mile post I can say I'm cured. last year my sex drive started to slowly come back, it took almost 2 years for the Lupron's effects to leave.... The only up size for me besides saving my life, I now have A cup breasts..the Dr's did warn me about that.....I was kind of looking forward to it to tell you the truth.

So yes Annie the stuff he is taking is really change his drive and mood and some other things including ED....go lightly on him or have him get off the stuff and see a SR Dr. if that's the way to go....implants would not effect libido or mood swings....On the lupron you also got Hot Flashes...and mood swings.. It was crazy because my wife was going through menopause too.....

 

[BiiCuz]

Thank you, dear.

(Cute avatar... ever put your little thing in chastity in your panties? )

yes Ma'am I do.......

 

[SweetAnnie40]

I had prostate cancer, and one of the treatments to insure success was to take injections of Lupron. It removes the testosterone from your system, by telling the body the levels are fine...... well forget about sex......I had absolutely no sex drive what so ever. Then I found out that the same drug is given to sex offenders to chemically castrate them.......

The injections for me reduced the size of the cancer by 40% and softened it so the radiation would be even more effective at killing the cancer. I also was seeded with the radioactive seeds too. If every thing works as planed this summer will mark the 5 year point ....and a mile post I can say I'm cured. last year my sex drive started to slowly come back, it took almost 2 years for the Lupron's effects to leave.... The only up size for me besides saving my life, I now have A cup breasts..the Dr's did warn me about that.....I was kind of looking forward to it to tell you the truth.

So yes Annie the stuff he is taking is really change his drive and mood and some other things including ED....go lightly on him or have him get off the stuff and see a SR Dr. if that's the way to go....implants would not effect libido or mood swings....On the lupron you also got Hot Flashes...and mood swings.. It was crazy because my wife was going through menopause too.....

Thank you, sweet thang! Yes, he's backed off most of the supplements he was trying. We'll see if the softness he achieved goes away which I would expect. Never developed breast tissue but it was never heavy duty pharmaceuticals. He's pretty happy with the expensive breast forms we got him though he loses nipple stimulation.

Any further supplement/chemical feminization will have to wait until we've gone through our new therapy approach long enough.

 

[SweetAnnie40]

yes Ma'am I do.......

That would make the better avatar.

 

[Iris_66]

I would just like to say that I love this thread - it is somewhere where people are actually talking, sharing, and helping each other get through their lives.

For me this interaction and conversation is more interesting than the more pictorially biased threads

So thank you Annie, and thank you all for sharing and caring about stuff that isn't easy to talk about

Thank you, sweet thang! Yes, he's backed off most of the supplements he was trying. We'll see if the softness he achieved goes away which I would expect. Never developed breast tissue but it was never heavy duty pharmaceuticals. He's pretty happy with the expensive breast forms we got him though he loses nipple stimulation.

Any further supplement/chemical feminization will have to wait until we've gone through our new therapy approach long enough.

 

[amysboytoy]

Some really insightful stuff there Annie. Thanks for that. Something I needed to hear.

"I get asked from time to time how a sissy man can find an understanding woman to share their fetish with. I'll say up front that I have no magic solution there but I can just give you my perspective.

Most of the women I've known well enough to discuss our sex lives naturally see sex as something that is really there for someone they are in love with, someone they are committed to. (At least at their current stage in life... they were more sexual earlier in life). That is their frame of reference, that all sexual acts are evidence of a love relationship, heavy emotional component.

A few of the women had a view similar to my own where sex is something does not always need to be burdened with carrying that heavy emotional weight. Sexual intimacy can be emotional and generate emotions but it can also just be fun or pleasurable. I think I've told the story of my male platonic friend years ago who was having a terrible day, his life seemed to be cratering. I gave him a "one time only" blowjob and sort of snapped him out of his funk. He still had issues but had a better perspective. I had fun, he certainly had fun. I did it because I cared about him as a friend so in some way it was a "love act" but it was also very casual.

I'll admit I've had encounters that were very physical and very little emotional component. Not a lot but I'm okay with them. I'm not ashamed of them. We had fun.

So if I take my viewpoint into a committed relationship, I can see sexual interactions where we just have fun, share pleasure, where we aren't really focusing on the loving intimacy. Now, that's gotten my hubby and I into trouble so we're trying to sort that out, but I think there is room in a relationship for love-sex and just-fun-sex.

What's my point? Well, if you can identify a partner who understands that there is love-sex and there is fun-sex, you're most of the way toward finding someone who could accept your kinks.

Someone with (what I would consider) an evolved understand of gender and gender roles, someone who's image of their relationship with you is less founded in you as a purely masculine persona, would also give me high hopes they would understand and support you.

So it's really spending time with people who have open views on sexuality and gender roles who are much less likely to be scared off when you beg to wear their undies and have them strapon a cock for play time. "
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[LucyCanyon]

Hi Annie, and thanks, some great helpful observations in here... and I have yet to find the one you describe at the end though am always looking...!

As I have grown older I have changed in my approach I think to sex and partners. I am much more relaxed about sex as a leisure pastime with some people, and a loving thing with one. I can separate the two (my SO cannot though which is why I drift around Lit I guess!).

I have met a few folk from Lit, and one in particular said a number of things that got me thinking. We only meet for social drinks, and she and her partner both love the swinging lifestyle. They do some very different and kinky things with friends at parties and when they invite people over, but there are some boundaries so that sex between them when at home alone is completely different to the recreational leisure activity they both enjoy when out playing. I like that approach and think there is huge merit in it if you can get that balance.

The other thing I have noticed is that I am a lot less hung up on looks and figure and get more stimulation and arousal from a shared mindset. One of the most attractive ans sexy ladies I have met recently would not be a model and in my youth I would (shallowly) never have looked at her as she didn't fit my stereotype 'phworr'.... But, the arousal because of what we share and how she flirts and what aspects of Lucy turns her on means its fantastic to be in her company on the rare times we can get together....

Nuff said, the thread is a great place for sharing and exploring, and we are grateful for the space and the openness

Hugs
Lxx

I get asked from time to time how a sissy man can find an understanding woman to share their fetish with. I'll say up front that I have no magic solution there but I can just give you my perspective.

Most of the women I've known well enough to discuss our sex lives naturally see sex as something that is really there for someone they are in love with, someone they are committed to. (At least at their current stage in life... they were more sexual earlier in life). That is their frame of reference, that all sexual acts are evidence of a love relationship, heavy emotional component.

A few of the women had a view similar to my own where sex is something does not always need to be burdened with carrying that heavy emotional weight. Sexual intimacy can be emotional and generate emotions but it can also just be fun or pleasurable. I think I've told the story of my male platonic friend years ago who was having a terrible day, his life seemed to be cratering. I gave him a "one time only" blowjob and sort of snapped him out of his funk. He still had issues but had a better perspective. I had fun, he certainly had fun. I did it because I cared about him as a friend so in some way it was a "love act" but it was also very casual.

I'll admit I've had encounters that were very physical and very little emotional component. Not a lot but I'm okay with them. I'm not ashamed of them. We had fun.

So if I take my viewpoint into a committed relationship, I can see sexual interactions where we just have fun, share pleasure, where we aren't really focusing on the loving intimacy. Now, that's gotten my hubby and I into trouble so we're trying to sort that out, but I think there is room in a relationship for love-sex and just-fun-sex.

What's my point? Well, if you can identify a partner who understands that there is love-sex and there is fun-sex, you're most of the way toward finding someone who could accept your kinks.

Someone with (what I would consider) an evolved understand of gender and gender roles, someone who's image of their relationship with you is less founded in you as a purely masculine persona, would also give me high hopes they would understand and support you.

So it's really spending time with people who have open views on sexuality and gender roles who are much less likely to be scared off when you beg to wear their undies and have them strapon a cock for play time.

 

[Sissy_Trish]

She has all made us feel like family and working together to make things right and still enjoying new boundaries in life. Life isn't easy, but it sure is manageable when you have friends like the ones that show up to give support to Annie and her Hubbly.....This would make one hell of a Soap Oprah I would tune in every day for sure.

I would just like to say that I love this thread - it is somewhere where people are actually talking, sharing, and helping each other get through their lives.

For me this interaction and conversation is more interesting than the more pictorially biased threads

So thank you Annie, and thank you all for sharing and caring about stuff that isn't easy to talk about

 

[SweetAnnie40]

I'm very happy people have found this a safe and sharing space. There are a thousand threads of people just trying to orgasm in various ways so I think there is space for some reality, some sharing, and some support too.

If you have something you're dealing with as a sissy, a woman drawn to other women, or the like, feel free to share. Our little community might have some suggestions or at least an understanding shoulder (no matter what they prefer to wear).

 

[Sissy_Trish]

Awww your the best Annie

I'm very happy people have found this a safe and sharing space. There are a thousand threads of people just trying to orgasm in various ways so I think there is space for some reality, some sharing, and some support too.

If you have something you're dealing with as a sissy, a woman drawn to other women, or the like, feel free to share. Our little community might have some suggestions or at least an understanding shoulder (no matter what they prefer to wear).

 

[SweetAnnie40]

Happy Easter, girls and gurls! Hubby got his satin sissy "Easter Dress" present on Friday and has been wearing it all weekend. Almost wore out my strap-on with that little slut. Sadly, he has to put on a costume today ("his normal man costume") though it will still cover sexy satiny slutty lingerie. Our son and the son's new girlfriend are coming over for Easter dinner. Looking forward to meeting her.

Have a wonderful day everyone!

 

[Paris54]

Happy Easter Annie!!!

Paris.

 

[Sclovers]

Happy Easter, girls and gurls! Hubby got his satin sissy "Easter Dress" present on Friday and has been wearing it all weekend. Almost wore out my strap-on with that little slut. Sadly, he has to put on a costume today ("his normal man costume") though it will still cover sexy satiny slutty lingerie. Our son and the son's new girlfriend are coming over for Easter dinner. Looking forward to meeting her.

Have a wonderful day everyone!

Happy Easter! Stay naughty!

 

[Iris_66]

Happy Easter, girls and gurls! Hubby got his satin sissy "Easter Dress" present on Friday and has been wearing it all weekend. Almost wore out my strap-on with that little slut. Sadly, he has to put on a costume today ("his normal man costume") though it will still cover sexy satiny slutty lingerie. Our son and the son's new girlfriend are coming over for Easter dinner. Looking forward to meeting her.

Have a wonderful day everyone!

Glad you're having a fun time, and getting to see family

Sounds like Hubby is in a good place too, really happy that you have come through it

 

[Sissy_Trish]

I hope Easter was enjoyable for both of you...after all the events of the day were over and you and Sissy had time to reflect..........with one another.

 

[SweetAnnie40]

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend (and holiday if you recognize it).

The visit by son and his girlfriend was very nice. Lots of work in the kitchen but now that I have a trained sissy he does most of the heavy lifting in there even when he can't wear a satin french maid's outfit or the like. We both know what a slut he is by what he is wearing under his man costume.

Girlfriend is a very pretty, sweet girl. Rather busty! (Sons like to date girls who are like their mothers? Is that a thing?) They seem pretty smitten with each other. Early days but nice to see.

I wouldn't say we're "through it". Sometimes we just need to take a break from trying to solve every hard thing and be okay playing together. I don't think I'll ever get bored of sinking a thick rubber cock into his pantied ass so we have that, lol...

 

[SweetAnnie40]

For all you gentle sissies, who don't like "humiliation sissy" videos, Hubby loves this girl and her series of videos.

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5c3e702e40280

 

[Sissy_Trish]

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend (and holiday if you recognize it).

The visit by son and his girlfriend was very nice. Lots of work in the kitchen but now that I have a trained sissy he does most of the heavy lifting in there even when he can't wear a satin french maid's outfit or the like. We both know what a slut he is by what he is wearing under his man costume.

Girlfriend is a very pretty, sweet girl. Rather busty! (Sons like to date girls who are like their mothers? Is that a thing?) They seem pretty smitten with each other. Early days but nice to see.

I wouldn't say we're "through it". Sometimes we just need to take a break from trying to solve every hard thing and be okay playing together. I don't think I'll ever get bored of sinking a thick rubber cock into his pantied ass so we have that, lol...

I think we all just want to see the two of you happy and together....as life throws everything at you. You can only fix what you control, the rest is just a test of your resolve and commitment to one another.....It's kind of a 2 man/woman/or sissy job...You'll make it, there are plenty here if you need help or just some one to lean on for support or just somebody to listen to you. We're all in your corner.......near the couch....Opps

 

[SweetAnnie40]

I think we all just want to see the two of you happy and together....as life throws everything at you. You can only fix what you control, the rest is just a test of your resolve and commitment to one another.....It's kind of a 2 man/woman/or sissy job...You'll make it, there are plenty here if you need help or just some one to lean on for support or just somebody to listen to you. We're all in your corner.......near the couch....Opps

LOL, that got me to laugh out loud (and it isn't a pretty laugh..) Love ya sweetie

 

[stargame]

For all you gentle sissies, who don't like "humiliation sissy" videos, Hubby loves this girl and her series of videos.

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5c3e702e40280

....swoon

 

[Sissymn]

....swoon

Very nice

 

[Sissy_Trish]

For all you gentle sissies, who don't like "humiliation sissy" videos, Hubby loves this girl and her series of videos.

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5c3e702e40280

Ahhh a redhead, and so very cute and sensual..... this should be a very enlightening series of videos to watch. I might be able to use some of her techniques in some of my productions. Thanks for the heads up with this gem

 

[dacoach44]

Awwww, thanks Annie..

Ahhh a redhead, and so very cute and sensual..... this should be a very enlightening series of videos to watch. I might be able to use some of her techniques in some of my productions. Thanks for the heads up with this gem

A cute redhead; helping sissy to get off by fucking her boipussy. Most all of the sissies I fuck ride me cowgirl, and cum all over my belly. They consider their cock a clit, and try to cum only from anal; or to cum like a girl. Is that what hubs wants? Can you bring sissy to orgasm with your strapon? Its gotta be so fun; to know wifey is in it with you.

 

[SweetAnnie40]

A cute redhead; helping sissy to get off by fucking her boipussy. Most all of the sissies I fuck ride me cowgirl, and cum all over my belly. They consider their cock a clit, and try to cum only from anal; or to cum like a girl. Is that what hubs wants? Can you bring sissy to orgasm with your strapon? Its gotta be so fun; to know wifey is in it with you.

Hubby has gotten quite good at cumming from anal fucking and I've become quite skilled with my many interchangeable cocks.