Dallass_Drake
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Being a man who has never cheated on a woman (And also as a man who has never married or been involved relationship that could feasibly be classified as serious), you could, if you were somewhat of a despot, dismiss me as being somewhat unqualified to make speculations regarding the perfidious behavior that has found itself becoming the topic of discussion here, but I do think there are a myriad of reasons for it that haven’t really been discussed. My reckoning is that adultery is, at least to a decent percentage of its admirers, a crime of degradation, either imposed on oneself or a loved one. A penchant for degradation could be a caprice that consistently appears for this rogue. This is not only restricted to degrading a partner but also oneself. Any man with a semblance of knowledge would know that adultery is frowned upon in modern society (Although perhaps in a vociferous, boastful way it is applauded by like minded individuals), is it not possible that devaluing oneself in the eyes of many would be an appealing caper for a deviant? After all, when robbed of ones value and standing in society, one could grant himself the freedom to perform more acts of a felonious nature in full knowledge that he has no reputation to sully, that disgraceful idiosyncrasies have become synonymous with his name, therefore what could anyone do to prevent the fulfillment of even the most decadent fantasies? Of course, it is not only this freedom that one could gain from disgracing oneself, indeed some could be searching for imprisonment, the desire to make up for misdeeds if given the opportunity, to be in thrall to a woman not only because of love or sexual desire, but to make amends, to be indebted. The licentious desire to be servant to a woman is fairly commonplace is it not? This could represent just another facet of this caprice.
Opposite to these explanations are desires to inflict feelings of degradation on others, which has been touched upon. ‘tis basic human nature to flaunt one’s dominance over others, and indeed if we could not at times look at others and decide they would be happier living our lives, that we are essentially superior to them, could we ever find true happiness? Indeed, a husband observing his wife struggling, given responsibility for so many different tasks, could become accustomed to living a life of duplicity knowing that maintaining such an insalubrious lifestyle is within his capabilities but not those of his wife, that he is not constrained by a mere declaration of love in the same way and can in fact live doing whatever he pleases. The dismissal of such established institutions as marriage would also appeal presumably to certain salacious minds, for a man could observe his friends lusting after other women but paralyzed into inaction by a commitment to another, by acceding to ones most libidinous wants and needs often, regardless of the presence of a loved one, is to many undoubtedly considered representative of power, if they see someone they’d like to defile, they could go and have a stab at it while other men in a similar situation wouldn’t dare, this allows them a feeling of an elevated status within gender which is important to most.
Furthermore, the man could be so contented by his own charms, so arrogant and egregious, that to him adultery is nothing more than a challenge to a wife. He could, mistakenly of course, be so assured of her utter devotion and imbecilities, that he would imagine a casual affair would serve only to keep her on her toes, encouraging her to battle this mistress by being even more complaisant, alternatively rather than challenge her, it could be utilized to frighten her to achieve the same ultimate result. Without wanting to insult the female sex, I’m sure many men have exploited women as such, forever I am hearing of ladies who have tolerated the most fiendish of lovers, “Treat ‘em rough, you get your muff” etc… The sense of wronging someone during sex is without a doubt to many liable to add some girth, after all this is the basis for so many, somewhat more acceptable peccadillo’s nowadays, bukkake, gang bangs, throat banging etc… all with obsequious women accepting the harshest treatment and acquiescing to the most beastly commands, it is perhaps every lothario’s fantasy to have such a woman, adultery could merely represent to some a means of uncovering such a obedient lass.
Additionally, this man could be terrified of similar betrayal, and indeed if he were conducting his treacherous business covertly that’d be a munificent indication of this. I’ve never personally had a woman cheat on me (Due to lack of relationships), but I’d imagine the most lamentable agony for me would the feeling of inferiority I’d be subject to, that another man has been able to take something precious from me (Perhaps the male rivalry has a certain significance in these matters, because I have often considered, and not solely because my prurient, boyish fondness for lesbians I assure you, that if I did have a steady girlfriend I would be far more understanding and diplomatic if I found she were being sapphotized, and infinitely more obstreperous and pugnacious if ‘twere a man with which she were entwined). The man being discussed here could be cheating to counter those potential feelings, his exploits to be wielded as a weapon he can use in defense, both to save himself some feelings of masculinity or indeed as a revenge on his promiscuous wife. This could be a standard practice of many distrusting men.
Fearing that my post has become excessively indecipherable, I won’t add anything more lest this becomes objectionably pertinacious, but hopefully my points will open up new areas for discussion, although hopefully the perhaps cheerful style I’ve used in my posting won’t suggest I approve of this since I can’t stand to see women exploited as I’ve described. Apololgies also if I've covered aspects previously discussed by time is pressing and I couldn't read all of the contributions
Opposite to these explanations are desires to inflict feelings of degradation on others, which has been touched upon. ‘tis basic human nature to flaunt one’s dominance over others, and indeed if we could not at times look at others and decide they would be happier living our lives, that we are essentially superior to them, could we ever find true happiness? Indeed, a husband observing his wife struggling, given responsibility for so many different tasks, could become accustomed to living a life of duplicity knowing that maintaining such an insalubrious lifestyle is within his capabilities but not those of his wife, that he is not constrained by a mere declaration of love in the same way and can in fact live doing whatever he pleases. The dismissal of such established institutions as marriage would also appeal presumably to certain salacious minds, for a man could observe his friends lusting after other women but paralyzed into inaction by a commitment to another, by acceding to ones most libidinous wants and needs often, regardless of the presence of a loved one, is to many undoubtedly considered representative of power, if they see someone they’d like to defile, they could go and have a stab at it while other men in a similar situation wouldn’t dare, this allows them a feeling of an elevated status within gender which is important to most.
Furthermore, the man could be so contented by his own charms, so arrogant and egregious, that to him adultery is nothing more than a challenge to a wife. He could, mistakenly of course, be so assured of her utter devotion and imbecilities, that he would imagine a casual affair would serve only to keep her on her toes, encouraging her to battle this mistress by being even more complaisant, alternatively rather than challenge her, it could be utilized to frighten her to achieve the same ultimate result. Without wanting to insult the female sex, I’m sure many men have exploited women as such, forever I am hearing of ladies who have tolerated the most fiendish of lovers, “Treat ‘em rough, you get your muff” etc… The sense of wronging someone during sex is without a doubt to many liable to add some girth, after all this is the basis for so many, somewhat more acceptable peccadillo’s nowadays, bukkake, gang bangs, throat banging etc… all with obsequious women accepting the harshest treatment and acquiescing to the most beastly commands, it is perhaps every lothario’s fantasy to have such a woman, adultery could merely represent to some a means of uncovering such a obedient lass.
Additionally, this man could be terrified of similar betrayal, and indeed if he were conducting his treacherous business covertly that’d be a munificent indication of this. I’ve never personally had a woman cheat on me (Due to lack of relationships), but I’d imagine the most lamentable agony for me would the feeling of inferiority I’d be subject to, that another man has been able to take something precious from me (Perhaps the male rivalry has a certain significance in these matters, because I have often considered, and not solely because my prurient, boyish fondness for lesbians I assure you, that if I did have a steady girlfriend I would be far more understanding and diplomatic if I found she were being sapphotized, and infinitely more obstreperous and pugnacious if ‘twere a man with which she were entwined). The man being discussed here could be cheating to counter those potential feelings, his exploits to be wielded as a weapon he can use in defense, both to save himself some feelings of masculinity or indeed as a revenge on his promiscuous wife. This could be a standard practice of many distrusting men.
Fearing that my post has become excessively indecipherable, I won’t add anything more lest this becomes objectionably pertinacious, but hopefully my points will open up new areas for discussion, although hopefully the perhaps cheerful style I’ve used in my posting won’t suggest I approve of this since I can’t stand to see women exploited as I’ve described. Apololgies also if I've covered aspects previously discussed by time is pressing and I couldn't read all of the contributions
