Anti fetish

[sunandshadow]

I'm kind of surprised no one has jumped in to defend their favorites. I know there is no shortage of bdsm and incest stories here so someone likes them. Wonder why?

I said I don't have any interest in bdsm, but I don't have any problem with other people liking that. I've read that some people's nervous systems are more likely to confuse pain with pleasure and produce intoxicating blends of brain chemicals from the combination of the two. I've read about why some people find humiliation arousing, and why some people find dominance or submission particularly satisfying. I could probably fake an understanding of it enough to write a good bdsm story. I just wanted to express that I feel awkward to not be involved in the most popular kink.

On the other hand I like incest and to a lesser extant bestiality, but I didn't figure there was any point trying to describe it's appeal to people who find it off-putting at a visceral level. If someone was puzzled and wanted an explanation of the psychological appeal incest or beast has to some people, I could write several paragraphs about symbolism and mythology and biology. But I didn't sense an interest in that level of discussion. And if someone was particularly curious about why people like something, googling could probably turn up multiple explanations.

 

[jenniferbaby]

Fair enough. Just looking to understand not attack. What makes it hot for you? Like incest, I love my mom but never had any kind of Oedipal thing for her. I've always tried to avoid coming into contact with scat. Why does someone seek it out. The same goes for pain, abuse, etc. Yet people seem to love these things. Maybe I'm just stirring things up. Sorry if I offend. Really do what you find fun. No inhibitions, no judgements, no condemnation, just a little head scratching.

No offense taken. There can be a particular fun energy exchanged when explaining a fetish to someone who may not understand it, especially when they decide to convert to said fetish. And even if they don't, it's still fun.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm kind of surprised no one has jumped in to defend their favorites. I know there is no shortage of bdsm and incest stories here so someone likes them. Wonder why?

Because there is no shortage- on THIS forum-- of threads supporting those fetishes except of course, for the two that lit has requested be kept off.

Oddly enough, I'm down with one of those-- bestiality.

 

[KoPilot]

Thought I throw another one in, pony play. What is this about? And the dressing as a baby. I'm not judging those who like it. To each his own. I just don't find anything remotely arrousing about them. I'm kind of surprised no one has jumped in to defend their favorites. I know there is no shortage of bdsm and incest stories here so someone likes them. Wonder why?

Eh, there's little point. Fetishes are very personal, and I've come to understand very well that if you don't like or understand it on a sexual level (intellectually speaking, anyone can understand and accept just about anything), then it just ain't gonna happen. No reason to throw a fit; that's just how things are. ;B

PS- Can you imagine how messy this thread would be if it turned into 10 different arguments happening all at once?

 

[philos]

Guess you're right. Just stick to what turns you off but seems to turn others on.

 

[SissyKatie]

One really strong turn off for me, and a fetish I can not comprehend in the slightest, is the whole smoking thing. A beautiful face can suddenly be turned to trash by a cigarette.

I love school girl outfits, but add a tie and I no longer want to look.

And to echo some of the people earlier in this thread, any hint of incest 'daddy' type stuff can make me want to retch.

 

[EnglishEm]

Verbal humiliation is something I don't understand. I can't fathom how someone could be turned on by being told they are ugly, fat or have a tiny dick *scratches head*.

Neither do I like heavy BDSM, incest and scat.

 

[stayathomemom]

Anti-turn on

Well I am open to lots of things. I have even been in the shower with someone else and we peed. But the whole scat thing just turns me off. I can be very close to finishing and if I saw anything with scat I would not be able to finish.

 

[infinity706]

I'm not really sure. I enjoy pretty much every fetish.

 

[cromsgirl]

Medical

I don't get turned on in the slightest by any kind of doctor/medical stuff. I never have. I could understand if I had developed this indifference over the last 8 years because of my job (vet tech), but even before that I didn't get turned on by it. Maybe because mom wore scrubs since I was 14.

 

[LettersFromTatyana]

Ropes, yawn.

I don't get turned on in the slightest by any kind of doctor/medical stuff. I never have. I could understand if I had developed this indifference over the last 8 years because of my job (vet tech), but even before that I didn't get turned on by it. Maybe because mom wore scrubs since I was 14.

I find this sort of thing--remembering a specific incident that turns you off--quite interesting. It seems like with kinks/fetishes/whatever, people (including me ) always search for the mundane or innocent moment or situation in life that turned them on to a fetish, when chances are, to another person, that very same thing would turn them off.

For example, I dislike rope bondage. It reminds me of days spent in a boathouse at summer camp, when we couldn't go out sailing due to storms. Instead, we'd be handed pieces of rope and asked to memorize dozens of knots. For many summers on end, I sat cross-legged on a wooden floor learning knots and ties for hours, staring at the weathered old displays on the walls.

For some people, I'm sure this would've started a lifelong obsession. For me, it made rope bondage one of the few things I have absolutely no interest in; bring on the leather, metal, zip ties, etc., but ropes bore the hell out of me.

Oh well. At least I'm awesome to have around when it's time to move or tie the Christmas tree to the car.

 

[Nyx91]

One really strong turn off for me, and a fetish I can not comprehend in the slightest, is the whole smoking thing. A beautiful face can suddenly be turned to trash by a cigarette.

I hate smoking too. I don't think it's sexy. I understand why people think it is, but cigarettes suck.
I like giving/receiving pain, but not the whole to-do with BDSM. All of those tools and ties and things; I don't get it.
I guess I like it; just not that much.

The whole incest "daddy" bit is weird to me too, but otherwise I'm pretty open-minded and would try anything once.

 

[WrongVerb]

Not sure this quite qualifies as a fetish, but I'm not the least bit turned on by going to strip clubs, nor by the idea of patronizing a prostitute. For me, part of my sexual arousal has to do with ego, and the idea of paying a woman to pay attention to me sexually, that just deflates my ego (and other parts of me too).

I'm also not into scat, nor being in any sort of submissive role (there's that ego thing again). But honestly, just about anything else goes.

 

[EnglishEm]

Not sure this quite qualifies as a fetish, but I'm not the least bit turned on by going to strip clubs, nor by the idea of patronizing a prostitute. For me, part of my sexual arousal has to do with ego, and the idea of paying a woman to pay attention to me sexually, that just deflates my ego (and other parts of me too).

I can totally relate to this. Knowing a man was having sex with me because he was being paid (or because he felt obligated) would be a massive turn off for me.

I want the man in my bed to WANT to be there!

 

[sarel101]

infantilism and the furry/plushy scenes do nothing for me

 

[Corbal]

Food and sex. Can't do it. It's food...nourishment. Sex is food for the mind and soul. Not to mention food turns into scat.

 

[AlmostAlice]

Other than the usual scat and watersports, fisting and double penetration (as in, more than one cock in one hole) is a big turn-off for me. It looks distinctly uncomfortable and not at all fun.

 

[jefffury45]

I hear what everyone is sayin here, but it's amazing the talent that is on Lit. i pick a story about something that totally turns me off normally, read it and am like WOW that was kind of hot! Knowing full well it flys in the face of everything I would do in reality, but I guess that's what observing from a distance is all about. Or maybe I'm just naturally very horny. muhahaha. Still can't do much with the poop and animal stuff tho.

 

[2toneSocks]

I think the one fetish that gives me the absolute chills is needle play. I understand its done in a professional and sterile way (i hope), its just the thought of sticking needles into skin for pleasure. I dunno but when I go to the doctors for a flu shot Im not exactally turned on...if anything im crying like a wuss.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I hear what everyone is sayin here, but it's amazing the talent that is on Lit. i pick a story about something that totally turns me off normally, read it and am like WOW that was kind of hot! Knowing full well it flys in the face of everything I would do in reality, but I guess that's what observing from a distance is all about. Or maybe I'm just naturally very horny. muhahaha. Still can't do much with the poop and animal stuff tho.

That is the mark of a good writer, and I have, a few times, gotten comments to the effect that, although the reader can't get into my kinks, she could, after reading my story, understand why I get off.

No animals on lit, But I'm doing some animal play stories-- humans who pretend to be puppies, horses, and pigs-- and in fact, scat is a small part of animal play... Cause animals, can't yanno, flush a toilet.

 

[hoodooman]

other people's links

other people's kinks look silly...i know people do navel gazing as to why they like a kink and to examine the protocol, dogma and politics of the thing..

Literotica is all about gaining insights to the question that begins with "ewwww" and ends with "who would ever want to do that?"

Then Lenny and Squiggy enter and say "hello".

sexual passion is easy to talk about but getting a good grip on someone else' favorite kink of the moment, is like trying to catch a teflon ball coated with lube...it's hard to grasp...

I want a woman to call me bitch and cunt and to obsess about fucking me with a strap-on or watching me suck her mans cock....I've experienced it before and liked it...a lot...a whole lot

if that leaves you cold...tough shit, what do I care?

 

[mmarfox]

I think the big one that comes to mind right away is incest. I don't really care for it. I grew up with two older brothers and no sisters, and I'm definitely not gay. The thought of incest just doesn't do anything for me.

Also, anything having to do with scat and or blood makes me immediate soft.

And canning; whipping or hitting someone till their skin breaks or they develop massive welts is not appealing to me.

 

[LindsayRae]

I do not understand men who crave to "have their small cock made fun of". I'm not sure how an adult school yard bully can be hot.

I also do not understand any fetish that purposely tries to make a person unhealthy. Ie: BBW and smoking.

I don't condemn those people, but I do not understand them.

Only "fetishists" I'd condem are pedophiles.

 

[mmarfox]

Not sure this quite qualifies as a fetish, but I'm not the least bit turned on by going to strip clubs, nor by the idea of patronizing a prostitute. For me, part of my sexual arousal has to do with ego, and the idea of paying a woman to pay attention to me sexually, that just deflates my ego (and other parts of me too).

Great point. I never thought of it that way.

 

[acre1]

Food and sex. Can't do it. It's food...nourishment. Sex is food for the mind and soul. Not to mention food turns into scat.

i agree! a food fetish is strange...maybe in the moment something like whipped cream might work? but it would feet a little awkward to me, and a little silly! hearing the can make the noise, and it would never turn out looking as good as it did in Varsity Blue's.