Anyone ever get tired of vanilla?

[SecretSucker]

Yyaawwwwwnnnn.........

 

[SecretSucker]

Figure out how to bring up the words swinger , swinging.

Plant the seed , figure it out.

Let it be her idea , she googled AFF ,

Talk about what’s a good user name for yawl to use….joking hint hint.


It has to be her idea , curiosities are a feline pheromone, small talk is the garden to plant the seeds.


That and you have to be one slick mother fucker to pull it off. Once it’s done they will learn that woman have all the power swinging , they make the rules , no means no and swingers aren’t cheaters.

I’ve fucked more wife’s that where virgins when they got married then I can count on two hands. Some of the dawgs and I have had in depth conversations about how good their wife’s suck dick , fuck , handle two of us at one time ect. Ect ect.

You got this buddy , I’m rooting for you.

FF

Truth

 

[KB3NFE]

Is anyone else’s spouse here super “vanilla”? Ever get tired of being force fed the same old flavor every time, wife not interested in trying new things much. Have gotten tired of asking things and getting told “no”, or made to feel my idea is “weird” or “not pure”. Wife was a virgin before me, wishing she had more experience sometimes. What can I do to get her to “learn” more without being the one to bring it up every time?

Well not saying this would work for you but does your wife like to read? Me and my wife have been married for 19 years and we as well got to that "vanilla" stage for the last 10 years, No BJ's, No Anal, and she stopped dressing up in sexy outfits.

Now she started reading some books in the last 6 months, Well all I can say is WOW, I am 54 and she is 44 just to give you some info. But she got me started on Total-T and she ordered me some Volume pills as well, I have gotten a BJ just about every other night and just as of last night she took two fingers in her backside and she lets me finger her every night in both holes.

We also joined the gym to get ourselves back in better shape and looking better. Oh and she stopped wearing make-up 10 years ago but now does full make-up every day. It's been a 100% change and it all started with books she was reading.

Message me if you want a few of the book names.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

*** like everything I’m reading

Awesome participation

Cool beans , that’s some solid Lit going on up in here

Carry on

FF

 

[Cumonunow123]

Well not saying this would work for you but does your wife like to read? Me and my wife have been married for 19 years and we as well got to that "vanilla" stage for the last 10 years, No BJ's, No Anal, and she stopped dressing up in sexy outfits.

Now she started reading some books in the last 6 months, Well all I can say is WOW, I am 54 and she is 44 just to give you some info. But she got me started on Total-T and she ordered me some Volume pills as well, I have gotten a BJ just about every other night and just as of last night she took two fingers in her backside and she lets me finger her every night in both holes.

We also joined the gym to get ourselves back in better shape and looking better. Oh and she stopped wearing make-up 10 years ago but now does full make-up every day. It's been a 100% change and it all started with books she was reading.

Message me if you want a few of the book names.

There isn’t anything in your contact info to message you.

 

[Cumonunow123]

I am an older woman but have always enjoyed vanilla as long as I get my orgasm. I am no expert but I have been around the block a few times. If you want something other than vanilla, you need to start differently. Perhaps on vacation or in a different setting. Spend some relaxing time together so that she can unwind. Most women are not going to be the one to suggest or initiate something kinky so a guy needs to be suggestive without being pushy. Women are not all that different from men in that we do get horny and we do have some fantasies. From my experience, it is the guy with the gift of gab without being an ass that will have the most success. Generally we want to feel that we were talked into it and that it was not really our idea.

Thanks for your perspective.

 

[Cumonunow123]

Figure out how to bring up the words swinger , swinging.

Plant the seed , figure it out.

Let it be her idea , she googled AFF ,

Talk about what’s a good user name for yawl to use….joking hint hint.


It has to be her idea , curiosities are a feline pheromone, small talk is the garden to plant the seeds.


That and you have to be one slick mother fucker to pull it off. Once it’s done they will learn that woman have all the power swinging , they make the rules , no means no and swingers aren’t cheaters.

I’ve fucked more wife’s that where virgins when they got married then I can count on two hands. Some of the dawgs and I have had in depth conversations about how good their wife’s suck dick , fuck , handle two of us at one time ect. Ect ect.

You got this buddy , I’m rooting for you.

FF

Thank you.

 

[Cumonunow123]

Yeah...this thread is scary. I have repeatedly shared all my kinks and fantasies with wife.

She is somewhat supportive and has done some hot kinky roleplay a few times...

but I think at her core she is vanilla and I'll always be hoping for more.

I am ok with vanilla often but need some kink mixed in. Have tried to make it very clear to her. I guess it's up to me to integrate it yet when I know she likely isn't that interested I just retreat into my fantasies and fuck her vanilla when she's horny.

In her defense life is very busy, especially for her so I do need to be patient and understanding.

Many replies here scare the shit outta me as to my chances of getting her more into kinkier sex more often.

The one poster seems right...has to be an inception of some sort perhaps.

She is pretty busy. She’s in healthcare. We did some roleplay type stuff today. That was fun.

 

[Cumonunow123]

My ex-wife was very vanilla...she really wasn't interested in anything other than missionary. After I divorced, I dated a woman who was amazing in bed...definitely *not* vanilla. We fucked daily, any way imaginable. Problem was, she was a head case and was a nightmare to be in a relationship with.

Married my current wife almost 10 years ago...98% of the time she's a normal, every day "girl next door" wife. Wonderful lady...she doesn't fuck my brains out daily, but we have sex on a fairly regular basis...and she's really good in bed. And several years ago we began exploring our naughty, spicy side and we've been fantasizing about everything from public sex, voyeurism (she likes being watched), to having another man join us and both of us pleasuring her. It's a great sex life so far.

Very nice.

 

[Cumonunow123]

That I like to get off on his thigh in sort of public places, be spanked, restrained, have my face fucked, lick his cock clean after sex, suck him off in the car, masturbate for him or watch him stroke, have anal, suck his cock with another woman (this is still a maybe but he's working on it very diligently). He learns from my responses and pushes me firmly but gently based on what works.

You have some nice fantasies.

 

[ComatoastTX]

I get so tired of vanilla sex with my wife! The only time I can get her to let loose is when she's been drinking. The alcohol seems to let her inhibitions go away. Sex then can be good but otherwise it is pretty boring and not frequent.

 

[Cumonunow123]

I get so tired of vanilla sex with my wife! The only time I can get her to let loose is when she's been drinking. The alcohol seems to let her inhibitions go away. Sex then can be good but otherwise it is pretty boring and not frequent.

Neither of us drink. I use cannabis for pain. That also helps to be less inhibited. She has a job where that’s not a good idea though.

 

[oldflorida]

Vanilla is all that I’ve had for years. Would love to have some different flavors while everything still works.

 

[Islander55]

Just curious. What do people consider vanilla sex and what would you like to do different?

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Just curious. What do people consider vanilla sex and what would you like to do different?

Isn’t that swinger sex……..Married people fucking other people.

Poly sex….could be

Bi sex……yep perfect




Literotica sex audio , or visual


Coming , squirting , shooting a load ,


All non vanilla flavors , vanilla with sprinkles , or sherbets


I want them all , a taste

 

[Islander55]

Isn’t that swinger sex……..Married people fucking other people.

Poly sex….could be

Bi sex……yep perfect




Literotica sex audio , or visual


Coming , squirting , shooting a load ,


All non vanilla flavors , vanilla with sprinkles , or sherbets


I want them all , a taste

I would think vanilla sex would be more like always using same format and same position. There are a lot of things that a couple can do to spice up sex without resorting to swinging. I assume that if you have a partner willing to swing, your sex life is way beyond vanilla.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I would think vanilla sex would be more like always using same format and same position. There are a lot of things that a couple can do to spice up sex without resorting to swinging. I assume that if you have a partner willing to swing, your sex life is way beyond vanilla.

The use of the word * resorting …to

I could be wrong , but as I understand it and was first introduced to the word itself. Was in the swinger community.

It’s a flavor one picks , it’s their choice , what flavor would you like , That’s not resorting to …..it’s picking , choosing if you will.

To us , swinging is a couples sport , so yes

 

[ComatoastTX]

Just curious. What do people consider vanilla sex and what would you like to do different?

I would think vanilla sex would be more like always using same format and same position. There are a lot of things that a couple can do to spice up sex without resorting to swinging. I assume that if you have a partner willing to swing, your sex life is way beyond vanilla.

Yes, to me vanilla sex has NOTHING to do with swinging or flavors. It refers to plain and boring sex. The "vanilla" sex in my life is that (when we do have sex) my wife only wants me to get on top of her and fuck her missionary. No foreplay, no going down on each other, mostly in the dark and no sexy talking. She decides that she wants some to fuck and tells me to come over here and put it in. Sometimes out of the blue and almost always with zero build up. Well my cock doesn't work that way. It's not "always" hard like in the movies. A soft cock doesn't just go in easily. I need some build up with foreplay or something to get me nice and hard. Then once I do get it in her, she just wants it to be pump pump pump and done so she can go to sleep.

So that is what I consider boring vanilla sex. Now, I will say that when she has been drinking, she is much more into foreplay and dirty talking. Sex can actually be good then. This is why I am torn on her drinking. I want her to stop for her health but my selfish side likes it for the sex alone.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

@ Comstoast

That was very well explained out...kudos
Thank you for sharing

 

[Islander55]

Yes, to me vanilla sex has NOTHING to do with swinging or flavors. It refers to plain and boring sex. The "vanilla" sex in my life is that (when we do have sex) my wife only wants me to get on top of her and fuck her missionary. No foreplay, no going down on each other, mostly in the dark and no sexy talking. She decides that she wants some to fuck and tells me to come over here and put it in. Sometimes out of the blue and almost always with zero build up. Well my cock doesn't work that way. It's not "always" hard like in the movies. A soft cock doesn't just go in easily. I need some build up with foreplay or something to get me nice and hard. Then once I do get it in her, she just wants it to be pump pump pump and done so she can go to sleep.

So that is what I consider boring vanilla sex. Now, I will say that when she has been drinking, she is much more into foreplay and dirty talking. Sex can actually be good then. This is why I am torn on her drinking. I want her to stop for her health but my selfish side likes it for the sex alone.

So how does she get aroused? I can't imagine just telling a guy to come do me without expecting to spend a little time with foreplay. Now there have been a few times when I was ready pretty quickly. Perhaps after reading something erotic or a good soak in the tub. Still I would take the time to make sure he would be able to perform to take care of my itch. Now there were times over the years where I would consent to a quickie and not be interested in trying for an orgasm. He was always ready to go and did not seem to mind.

 

[HoldYouDown]

I wish "vanilla" weren't used as an analog for "boring." Vanilla is extremely flavorful, contrary to popular belief.

 

[Islander55]

The use of the word * resorting …to

I could be wrong , but as I understand it and was first introduced to the word itself. Was in the swinger community.

It’s a flavor one picks , it’s their choice , what flavor would you like , That’s not resorting to …..it’s picking , choosing if you will.

To us , swinging is a couples sport , so yes

Poor choice of words on my part. I was really saying that couples do not need to get into swinging as their are plenty of ways to spice up sex for a monogamous couple.

 

[Islander55]

I wish "vanilla" weren't used as an analog for "boring." Vanilla is extremely flavorful, contrary to popular belief.

I agree that vanilla is not a good term for boring sex. Two very different things. I have had a lot of very routine sex that was most satisfying. If sex is boring, it may well speak more to the relationship as opposed to the act of sex.

 

[comegently]

There is a big difference between enduring love and sex.
I have never liked play-acting in sex with someone I love, because love is not an act.
As years roll on, loving couple have less sex but they hold each other tight and feel the warmth of togetherness.
A place like this is for a little amusement on the side, but it's only to do with sex.

 

[ComatoastTX]

So how does she get aroused? I can't imagine just telling a guy to come do me without expecting to spend a little time with foreplay. Now there have been a few times when I was ready pretty quickly. Perhaps after reading something erotic or a good soak in the tub. Still I would take the time to make sure he would be able to perform to take care of my itch. Now there were times over the years where I would consent to a quickie and not be interested in trying for an orgasm. He was always ready to go and did not seem to mind.

Honestly, I have no idea. She does hide looking at porn on her phone, so maybe she had been looking at some prior to the act. It's sad really and the reason I searched and found this forum. I like to be mentally stimulated as well as physically. Plus, this forum has given me a place where I can share and get advice on our sexual issues. I really have no one that I can discuss these things with in person.