Anyone Ever Videoed A Session Of Chastisement?

[rosco rathbone]

After coming back and reading MIS and others posts, I would have to say that yes, the reason why that sounds so harsh is because I would already be beating myself up over it more then anyone else could.

I'm also just against being recorded or photographed in an erotic or pornographic or naked manner to begin with, but that's a whole different thing.

Anyone ever forced you into a photo session against your will?

 

[intothewoods]

I think it sounds hot. We don't do punishment, so that probably colors my view. Unfortunately, I'd die a thousand deaths if my kid ever found that video, soooo that's the end of that.

 

[rida]

Just to clear some semantic air first I'd like to point out a pet peeve of mine when it comes to the word punishment.

I'm not against the PYL changing rules or dishing out pain just because it is enjoyable. But I hate to have those incidents called punishment. Punishment, to me, is something dished out as a consequence for lack of obedience, sloppiness in carrying out orders or any voluntary act of insubordination. What is delivered under any other circumstance, would be better defined by the word "torture".

As for videoing and reviewing a "chastisement" session, I don't think it is necessarily contradictory with a "clean slate" approach.
In the event of a lesson not yet completely learned, it could be a way to reinforce the message when the PYL senses a potential lapse coming up. And in the case of a lesson well learned, a way to show the pyl how far he/she has come in her training/journey.

 

[00Syd]

Anyone ever forced you into a photo session against your will?

No, and no one ever will. It's a hard limit for me. There is no way for me to know where I'll end up, and I never, ever, ever want some photo coming back to haunt me later in life. No fucking way.

 

[myinnerslut]

No, and no one ever will.

(this is slightly off topic)

lucky you. i was furious when i found out my ex had videotaped me without telling me.

while i will take a picture or make a video, its a different thing knowing it is happening and find out after the fact.

 

[00Syd]

(this is slightly off topic)

lucky you. i was furious when i found out my ex had videotaped me without telling me.

while i will take a picture or make a video, its a different thing knowing it is happening and find out after the fact.

Totally.

It kind of sucks because I really am a ham, and seeing hot photos of myself I know would make me feel sexy and all that, but I'm resolved. My desire to have sexy photos of myself is completely, totally outweighed by my desire to have a successful future, in whatever I decide to do.

 

[intothewoods]

Just to clear some semantic air first I'd like to point out a pet peeve of mine when it comes to the word punishment.

I'm not against the PYL changing rules or dishing out pain just because it is enjoyable. But I hate to have those incidents called punishment. Punishment, to me, is something dished out as a consequence for lack of obedience, sloppiness in carrying out orders or any voluntary act of insubordination. What is delivered under any other circumstance, would be better defined by the word "torture".

As for videoing and reviewing a "chastisement" session, I don't think it is necessarily contradictory with a "clean slate" approach.
In the event of a lesson not yet completely learned, it could be a way to reinforce the message when the PYL senses a potential lapse coming up. And in the case of a lesson well learned, a way to show the pyl how far he/she has come in her training/journey.

I'm with you on the definition of punishment. We do plenty of s&m at his whim or because he feels like it, but not because I've done something wrong or have been disobedient. So, my mind did not immediately go to actual punishment.

 

[JMohegan]

Seems like it could be a good thing to have around. "Watch this. You want that to happen again?"

"We have your apology and promise not to repeat on the hard drive".

I'm also fascinated by the idea of capturing it.

Would that somehow negate the "punishment" effect?

I know a guy who tried this for a while. He had an epiphany that went something like: She's the one who screwed up; why the hell should I have to waste time and energy going through the same damn lectures again?

Of course this was humiliating for her, in a not hot way. After a while, though, the effect was diminished - like anything else.

So now, when he gets pissed, he either imposes a punishment that fits the crime or just orders "chill time." The latter meaning she sits on the kitchen floor, with her back to the refrigerator, until he comes in and tells her she can get up.

 

[intothewoods]

Ah yes, the Refrigerator Dom. Was he also the one who made her wear his hiking boots?

 

[eastern sun]

I would hate it, and therefore it might make a good (i.e. lasting) punishment.

And I would be deeply humiliated and frightened if said video showed up in any public arena.

In neither case, would I find the experience "hot."

 

[JMohegan]

I've got weird conflicts about punishment.

The best way I can reconcile them is to say "ok, I'm not really doing this in order to bring about any change in behavior. I'm doing it because of my wrath and so my blood pressure doesn't get too high."

But the old "punishment/behavior modification" paradigm keeps a-creepin up on me. It's just ambient in this scene, I guess.

In many cases, the behavior modification model seems as if it almost flips the dynamic. That is, the quasi-parental D seems to be doing a lot more serving than being served.

My "chill time" buddy punishes his wife because he sees this as a natural part of being in the one in charge. He gets pissed about the credit card bill or her bitchin' or whatever, and puts his foot down. Part blood pressure control, part just what feels right to both of them in the marriage. A regular, tangible reminder of his dominance, you could say. Even though she dislikes punishment it in the moment, his wife appreciates the overall dynamic very much.

 

[JMohegan]

Ah yes, the Refrigerator Dom. Was he also the one who made her wear his hiking boots?

Yup. He's very creative!

 

[Marquis]

I have a nice clip around here somewhere.

 

[rosco rathbone]

My "chill time" buddy punishes his wife because he sees this as a natural part of being in the one in charge. He gets pissed about the credit card bill or her bitchin' or whatever, and puts his foot down. Part blood pressure control, part just what feels right to both of them in the marriage. A regular, tangible reminder of his dominance, you could say. Even though she dislikes punishment it in the moment, his wife appreciates the overall dynamic very much.

Yeah, that feels right to me too. That kind of steam outlet could keep a marriage together.

 

[JMohegan]

Yeah, that feels right to me too. That kind of steam outlet could keep a marriage together.

His has been going strong for more than two decades.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm having a hard time imagining watching a video of him yelling, and feeling any punitive effect from it. Maybe if it were a video of me doing some sort of embarassing punishment. Oh, that would work, come to think of it.

Good thing he doesn't lurk here...

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'm having a hard time imagining watching a video of him yelling, and feeling any punitive effect from it. Maybe if it were a video of me doing some sort of embarassing punishment. Oh, that would work, come to think of it.

Good thing he doesn't lurk here...

Yelling isn't what I was thinking of.

 

[satindesire]

Yelling isn't what I was thinking of.

Honestly, I think that THAT idea (video taping him yelling) might give the Dom a pause in thought.

I mean, maybe I should have done that with my ex to make him see what a massive dick he was to me when he was pissed. Of course...when wasn't he pissed....

Think it woulda worked?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Honestly, I think that THAT idea (video taping him yelling) might give the Dom a pause in thought.

I mean, maybe I should have done that with my ex to make him see what a massive dick he was to me when he was pissed. Of course...when wasn't he pissed....

Think it woulda worked?

It might have worked.

I never yell, personally. I do the Tony Soprano thing sometimes.

 

[satindesire]

It might have worked.

I never yell, personally. I do the Tony Soprano thing sometimes.

I've never watched that show so I have no idea what that means.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I've never watched that show so I have no idea what that means.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsHWZHaqe1Y

 

[satindesire]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsHWZHaqe1Y

So you'd do that to your sub? Please tell me I took that out of context?!

 

[rosco rathbone]

So you'd do that to your sub? Please tell me I took that out of context?!

Eh, I just meant that pissed off face he does, not beating up degenerate gamblers who are behind on the vig.

 

[satindesire]

Eh, I just meant that pissed off face he does, not beating up degenerate gamblers who are behind on the vig.

Oh. Whew.

 

[00Syd]

Eh, I just meant that pissed off face he does, not beating up degenerate gamblers who are behind on the vig.

That pissed off face is hot.