Caitlynne
Playful Muse
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Re: Re: Are acts of service sexual?
I had a rather long winded response all figured out in my head, and then I read this statement and it took me in another direction altogether. (Luckily, it was a response in my head still, and not on the page.) Although I can see now, that this is the direction I was trying to get at originally.
Sometimes we (submissives) 'forget' the Dominance part on the equation. It's the counterpoint to our nature. The fact that we may give (and sometimes ill-advisedly) is part of the reason we respond so well to structure, dominance and boundaries. We consciously or unconsciously *know* that we *do* better in our lives if we have guidance and dominance in our lives. It is more than the psycho-sexual kink; it is all about the core nature of some submissives.
I have a highly eroticized sense of service to one who is dominating me. Service is erotic to me under those conditions. Yes, that means even doing the ironing can be erotic to me at times. Not always, but service to a Dominant is highly charged for me because of the Dominance present--NOT just because I am service oriented person. (which I am BTW) Put the two elements together and, yep, I'm wet.
I have been, at times, a highly skilled executive, but I approached my job from a service POV. I was providing a service to the company, and I provided service (in the form of consistent management) to those under me. Even though I was in charge, I considered it service. But, it was not erotic to me, and had nothing to do with being a submissive in a D/s sense.
I admit I respond to dominant men. I can feel myself change internally sometimes after only a few words are spoken by a dominant man. I'm in tune with it, and recognize when the two parts are present--my submissive nature and his dominant nature. Like the pieces of a puzzle falling into place.
When I am single it is a wonderful kind of flirting that I find quite enjoyable. When I am in a D/s relationship, I find it to be like an early warning system. Something that warns me of boundaries that must be erected so I am not inadvertently submitting to one other than my Master.
Francisco has put it so well, so succinctly, and it actually took my breath away in its simplicity and truth. Service is highly erotic to me in all its forms, when it is in response to dominance. Service which springs from my own character or manner, is not erotic. I do not consider all forms of service to be submissive acts, but I do consider all service to one who dominates me to be a submissive act. The former falls under the heading of being a giving human being, while the latter is D/s.
VERY interesting turn in this discussion, I find this to be such an interesting nuance of service. It's something I think I will be pondering for a while. Thank you to everyone in this thread, but particularly to Francisco for the clarity his comments brought me.
~ cait
catalina_francisco said:
I had a rather long winded response all figured out in my head, and then I read this statement and it took me in another direction altogether. (Luckily, it was a response in my head still, and not on the page.) Although I can see now, that this is the direction I was trying to get at originally.
Sometimes we (submissives) 'forget' the Dominance part on the equation. It's the counterpoint to our nature. The fact that we may give (and sometimes ill-advisedly) is part of the reason we respond so well to structure, dominance and boundaries. We consciously or unconsciously *know* that we *do* better in our lives if we have guidance and dominance in our lives. It is more than the psycho-sexual kink; it is all about the core nature of some submissives.
I have a highly eroticized sense of service to one who is dominating me. Service is erotic to me under those conditions. Yes, that means even doing the ironing can be erotic to me at times. Not always, but service to a Dominant is highly charged for me because of the Dominance present--NOT just because I am service oriented person. (which I am BTW) Put the two elements together and, yep, I'm wet.
I have been, at times, a highly skilled executive, but I approached my job from a service POV. I was providing a service to the company, and I provided service (in the form of consistent management) to those under me. Even though I was in charge, I considered it service. But, it was not erotic to me, and had nothing to do with being a submissive in a D/s sense.
I admit I respond to dominant men. I can feel myself change internally sometimes after only a few words are spoken by a dominant man. I'm in tune with it, and recognize when the two parts are present--my submissive nature and his dominant nature. Like the pieces of a puzzle falling into place.
When I am single it is a wonderful kind of flirting that I find quite enjoyable. When I am in a D/s relationship, I find it to be like an early warning system. Something that warns me of boundaries that must be erected so I am not inadvertently submitting to one other than my Master.
Francisco has put it so well, so succinctly, and it actually took my breath away in its simplicity and truth. Service is highly erotic to me in all its forms, when it is in response to dominance. Service which springs from my own character or manner, is not erotic. I do not consider all forms of service to be submissive acts, but I do consider all service to one who dominates me to be a submissive act. The former falls under the heading of being a giving human being, while the latter is D/s.
VERY interesting turn in this discussion, I find this to be such an interesting nuance of service. It's something I think I will be pondering for a while. Thank you to everyone in this thread, but particularly to Francisco for the clarity his comments brought me.
~ cait
