Arousal, how does it work for you?

[ewopper]

I agree with the post about the blow jobs not being all that exciting. Mainly it's because of the technique used. For the life of me, I can not see why anyone would want a "high speed blow job" like what goes on in the porn videos. Slow, sensual, with a lot of eroticism is what I really like to do, not the "slam bam" types usually seen. I blame it on the time constraints placed on the film editor. They just don't have the time necessary to show what a proper blow job should be like!

I said this in another thread somewhere but to have a woman jerk me off and place the head in her mouth is not a blowjob it's a travesty. Any woman that can really give a great bj is a lady of style and class in my book.

 

[ewopper]

30 minutes? Ahum.... M and I are always 'praising' each other if we make it longer than 10 minutes before we start something ourselves . We sometimes joke we could do our entire life with probably 20 movies tops, if we start with a new scene from the same movie every time, haha. Our collection, however, is over 200 I think. Have no clue why... come to think of it.

I agree about the girl-on-girl thing.... although..... I think it's a shame that there seems to be less and less men doing oral on women in films, so if it's the only opportunity to see that... I'll take it. On the other hand it may sort of put me off, depending on how it is done. Cause in some movies it is done, IMHO, to please men more than women, a.k.a. visualized from a men's perspective (again!). Oh well....

I recall back in the Drive in days if my ex and I went to a porn movie we'd be leaving in 10-15 minutes to find a place to do it. we didn't go to motels back then but to woods and back roads

 

[ewopper]

As usual M's girl this is a great thread...and I really really wanted to respond LOL but...I've been sitting here for about 20 mins trying to think up something that i love to watch but doesnt really fulfill in reality and i couldnt think of anything!! so i decided to reverse the question (if you shall permit me just this once) ...i rarely get turned by watching lesbian scenes...and yet, with the right woman ...

Ihope this doesn't sound like stereotyping but I bought some asian dvds and in everyone of them the girls seem to be submissive and squeal throughout the sex acts is this real or just acting?

 

[manofsteel52]

I agree with the post about the blow jobs not being all that exciting. Mainly it's because of the technique used. For the life of me, I can not see why anyone would want a "high speed blow job" like what goes on in the porn videos. Slow, sensual, with a lot of eroticism is what I really like to do, not the "slam bam" types usually seen. I blame it on the time constraints placed on the film editor. They just don't have the time necessary to show what a proper blow job should be like!

Actually, I have a clip from a movie that is the best bj scene I've ever seen.... slow, sensual, and the girl isloving every second of it. The clip is just theend with the cumshot, of course, but I'd love to see the entire thing. I have no idea what the film is, or even who the actress is...

 

[TBKahuna123]

I was watching TV last night and a show with Kim Catrell came on, Sex Investigaters or something like that. They had a whole section on how sexual arousal was a mental response, not a physical response. You can have your genitals touched without being aroused, so there has to be a mental component to it.

I thought about this. It's true. I had a hernia exam from a HOT doctor a while back, and though she was holding my nuts for a good 30 seconds, I felt no arousal. Now if my wife holds my nuts I go from limp to hard in 2.3 seconds. It's all in the mind.

 

[manofsteel52]

I was watching TV last night and a show with Kim Catrell came on, Sex Investigaters or something like that. They had a whole section on how sexual arousal was a mental response, not a physical response. You can have your genitals touched without being aroused, so there has to be a mental component to it.

I thought about this. It's true. I had a hernia exam from a HOT doctor a while back, and though she was holding my nuts for a good 30 seconds, I felt no arousal. Now if my wife holds my nuts I go from limp to hard in 2.3 seconds. It's all in the mind.

Well of course it is, didn't ya ever hear the saying that the biggest human sex organ is the brain?
If you were having a hernia exam, of course sex was about the farthest thing from your mind. If a woman had your balls in her hand(or cock in her mouth) in a sexual context, however, I'd expect a different response.
I was having a massage for a back injury a while back, and the masseuse was someone I'd never met before. Well, she was fucking HOT. Here I am, lying naked on the table, just a small towel draped across the critical area. I was doing okay, trying to chitchat as she worked her magic to keep my mind from wandering too far into sexual territory. Face down was good, found my mind wandering a bitas I relaxed and she began concentrating more on her work, when her fingers trveled up under the towel, up my inner thigh, massaging withing a whisker of my balls & cock. The real trouble came when I turned over and she places a blindfold over my eyes and went over that routine again... I felt the tingling begin as her fingertips traveled that familiar path and my brain went into panic mode. It's kind of a funny sensation... if you're not at full attention, and not actually being stroked, it's hard to tell if you actually have an erection. I know I had at least a partial erection, because if I didn't, based on where her hand was between my legs, she would have been massaging my cock.
I guess what I'm trying to say is... pretty much everything can be translated into something sexual in my mind...

 

[LadyJeanne]

If I even suspect that the girl coming is faking it, I stop watching.

You must not get to finish ANY porn, then. ALL the women's orgasms are fake in porn.

Ihope this doesn't sound like stereotyping but I bought some asian dvds and in everyone of them the girls seem to be submissive and squeal throughout the sex acts is this real or just acting?

I guess this is my day to shatter illusions - it's all just acting.


The things guys do in porn could never make a woman come. Never. Get it through your heads: porn is not real. It's designed to turn guys on by what they see - it has absolutely nothing to do with what turns women on in real life.

I honestly can't believe guys think it's real.

 

[manofsteel52]

You must not get to finish ANY porn, then. ALL the women's orgasms are fake in porn.





I guess this is my day to shatter illusions - it's all just acting.


The things guys do in porn could never make a woman come. Never. Get it through your heads: porn is not real. It's designed to turn guys on by what they see - it has absolutely nothing to do with what turns women on in real life.

I honestly can't believe guys think it's real.

Right.
Next, you'll be telling 'em there's no Santa....

 

[LadyJeanne]

Right.
Next, you'll be telling 'em there's no Santa....

Maybe there is a Santa, but he can't really fill a gallon jug with one spurt of cum. Sorry.

 

[Eilan]

Speaking of Santa. . .

 

[TBKahuna123]

Speaking of Santa. . .

Talk about killing a thread on arousal!

 

[Eilan]

Talk about killing a thread on arousal!

You mean LadyJeanne hadn't already killed it by informing us all that porn isn't real? I'm still crying my eyes out over that one.

 

[LadyJeanne]

You mean LadyJeanne hadn't already killed it by informing us all that porn isn't real? I'm still crying my eyes out over that one.

Awww, I'm sorry, sweets. Maybe you could read the stories on Lit instead? They're all real, I'm sure.

 

[Eilan]

Awww, I'm sorry, sweets. Maybe you could read the stories on Lit instead? They're all real, I'm sure.

After all, if it's on the Internet, it's true, right?

 

[CorsetLvr]

After all, if it's on the Internet, it's true, right?

"Earth to Eilan! Calling Eilan. "

 

[WaitingTesting]

Actually, I have a clip from a movie that is the best bj scene I've ever seen.... slow, sensual, and the girl isloving every second of it. The clip is just theend with the cumshot, of course, but I'd love to see the entire thing. I have no idea what the film is, or even who the actress is...

Maybe the film is 'Brown Bunny?'

 

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[M's girl]

I've never been a fan of porn movies, for some reason i prefer still pics (black & white or sepia tones best.)

Yes, still pictures like you described can be beautiful too. But I must say, although it bothers me sometimes when porn is ugly or harsh or monotone or whatever, it still gets me pretty excited most of the time. I still would prefer to watch better porn and are always (well.... but you know what I mean) looking for it. Maybe it's even a bit like watching other types of movies like horror or crime stories (for example) or what have you... You would never wish for it in real life, it would scare the hell out of you and most of all: you know it's just a movie; it's acting, and still you like to watch it and enjoy it....?

 

[manofsteel52]

Maybe there is a Santa, but he can't really fill a gallon jug with one spurt of cum. Sorry.

It might be a good conversation starter, but I can't really think of a practical application for having that ability...

Now being perpetually hard as I am, well, that's a different story...

 

[TBKahuna123]

My wife's level of arousal is directly tied to the amount of time we spend together. If we haven't seen each other much because of work and a late night softcore porn comes on CineMAX, she'll turn it off because it will annoy her. If we have been spending time together, she'll leave it on and then begins the "arousal" stage.

I tell ya, once I figured that part out, it's made our sex life a ton better. I think everyone has that one trigger that turns them on. For her, it's quality time. For me, well for me it's boobs, but I'm a simple man.

 

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[M's girl]

My wife's level of arousal is directly tied to the amount of time we spend together. If we haven't seen each other much because of work and a late night softcore porn comes on CineMAX, she'll turn it off because it will annoy her. If we have been spending time together, she'll leave it on and then begins the "arousal" stage.

I tell ya, once I figured that part out, it's made our sex life a ton better. I think everyone has that one trigger that turns them on. For her, it's quality time. For me, well for me it's boobs, but I'm a simple man.

I'm like your wife.... very much... M is like you.... very much ...

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'm like your wife.... very much... M is like you.... very much ...

So what we've discovered here is that women get aroused by quality time witt their partners and guys get aroused by boobs. Such groundbreaking research we're doing here.

 

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[LadyJeanne]

So what we've discovered here is that women get aroused by quality time witt their partners and guys get aroused by boobs. Such groundbreaking research we're doing here.

My SO and I are long distance. He keeps sending me pictures of my boobs (and other things) that we'd taken when we've seen each other, when I'd rather get a "quality time" type phone call.

When are we going to publish our grounbreaking research results and spread the word?