As a lesbian woman, I understand men who identify as straight, but suck dick or have sex with men

[Stephie02]

Lesbians use strap-ons and vibrators to pleasure themselves and each other, so why should using a real warm pulsing flesh-&-blood cock be any different? If you use the cock on your own terms, it must feel better than just buzzing plastic...

It is different though. It's almost like you're assuming any hard thing will do, but that not it; it's who's using it. I'd rather have my gf in me with a strap than a guy with a dick. IDK I don't get the liquid. I get to look at HER while she's in me, or using a toy on me, SHE is making me orgasm, not the hard thing in me, that matters, at least to me.

 

[tristantrotsky]

It is different though. It's almost like you're assuming any hard thing will do, but that not it; it's who's using it. I'd rather have my gf in me with a strap than a guy with a dick. IDK I don't get the liquid. I get to look at HER while she's in me, or using a toy on me, SHE is making me orgasm, not the hard thing in me, that matters, at least to me.

Such a delightful illumination, Stephie. You understand that I was not being derogatory, I was simply wondering in my mind, in the curiously drifting kind of way that my mind wanders. Your explanation sounds entirely reasonably, and I was a fool for thinking anything else. Forgive me.

 

[Stephie02]

Such a delightful illumination, Stephie. You understand that I was not being derogatory, I was simply wondering in my mind, in the curiously drifting kind of way that my mind wanders. Your explanation sounds entirely reasonably, and I was a fool for thinking anything else. Forgive me.

Oh I'm not offended. You, and by that I mean actually you, @tristantrotsky, would have to work really hard at offending me, so nothing to forgive

 

[liqueur]

Your explanation sounds entirely reasonably, and I was a fool for thinking anything else.

You sexy fool! I wish you'd just fuck me with that real warm pulsing flesh-&-blood cock.

 

[Britva415]

Sadly? Would that change the relationship of how you socialise with each other?

"Reverse closeting" is totally a thing.

 

[liqueur]

a LOT of lesbians, at least in my circle irl, are very, I don't know how to describe it exactly... purists? They're monogamous, coupled lesbians, so if I were to talk about casually having anal with a dude, I don't think they'd get it. They'd definitely think I was going straight or bi, sadly.

It's been years since I had friends in those circles, but that purism was really intense with some of them. They'd have gone beyond thinking you were going straight— you would have been ostracized.

 

[liqueur]

as I've crossed into my mid-thirties, I've started to have fantasies about sucking men off or getting fucked, specifically in the ass. I imagine being used and humiliated most of the time, but other times I get off imagining a guy slowly fucking the bend in my colon with his big cock

Just coming back to this again. I can so totally identify with this. I'm about twice your age, and these days I see myself as a full-spectrum pansexual. But when I was your age I was exactly the male version of what you describe. I believed I was 100% hetero. But I was obsessed with fantasies of getting ass-fucked, used and abused. And yes, humiliation figured very heavily in those fantasies. The more humiliating, the better.

 

[sonicor]

All of that is to say, I vibe with men who identify as straight while actively sucking and fucking. I feel like we're brothers, in a way

I'll be your brother in a heartbeat