Asking someone if you can be their submissive.

[~Haze~]

Haze, how about re-reading the bolded and underlined portions of the chronologically-ordered posts quoted above?

While there are some indications of not-30s (or older) communicative style (e.g., "haha"), the general tenor (grammar, phrasing, spelling, construction) of her posts indicates to me an early- to mid-20s, literate person, and I think your estimation of her age and general experience are extremely judgmental and based on spurious reasoning.

Spurious reasoning? You don't know what my reasoning is because I never stated it. I just stated my conclusions. She pointing out a "mis-spelling" and something else (I don't remember what it was) as an excuse, but that doesn't mean that's what I used to draw my conclusions. I'm not a -"she said it, so it must be true" believer.

As far as her writing style..., I agree that she is very well written. I took that into consideration, but decided it's not quite convincing enough. I have two nieces, both in high school, both impressive writers, and both write better than 95% of the users on this board.

Sure, I was being a little facetious and dramatic when I said "15 year old virgin", but my point and my opinion remain unchanged.

Anyway... as far as I was concerned, after my first post, I was done with this thread and didn't plan on participating any further.

Then Syd asked a question about my meaning and I returned to clarify. I also wanted to say that I agree with her (or him). BDSM does not mean it is an unhealthy relationship. In my post "healthy relationship" meant an "age appropriate" relationship.

Now I'm not trying to convince anyone. I'm not asking other people agree with me and ignore her. Do what you like.

I just stated my opinion. I offered my advice (wait, take your time, and engage in a more 'age appropriate' relationship). Syd misunderstood the context/point of my post, asked a question about my meaning/intent and I clarified it. Simple as that.

 

[SoCalKessa]

Sir Winston, thank you for the backup! Those things don't go unnoticed!

I'm new to posting on message boards so maybe I don't have the communication style down correctly. I know I didn't give my entire life story, but I didn't think it was necessary.

Haze, if you would like to continue offering advice, then I would prefer if you would refrain from making judgments about who I am and my sex life based on my first post (because I misspelled a word or don't use the "30+ communication" style). If you don't want to offer advice and want to continue making judgments, then I would ask you not to impose them on other readers who ARE here to help. I did not come on here to have a message board battle with anyone. Sir Winston is correct, I am in my 20's (23 to be exact, if you are all so curious) and a college graduate. I understand if my age sounds "young and inexperienced" to you, but maybe a little bit of perspective might help you look past your judgments. However, being that your opinions about me are so solidified that you refuse to consider anything I've posted since my first post, it's unlikely that I'll take your advice about sexual matters to heart. I'm always willing to listen though, if you'd like to try again.

If you have a question about my age or experiences that will better help you understand my question, then just ask. I'm not bashful, I just don't want to waste space on the message boards.

 

[SoCalKessa]

Haze, looks like we're here at the same time!

I read your post. I'm glad that you think I'm a good writer but it appears your opinion is still unchanged. It's irrelevant. You said what you needed to and I thank you for that.

See you on the other boards!

 

[~Haze~]

Sir Winston, thank you for the backup! Those things don't go unnoticed!

I'm new to posting on message boards so maybe I don't have the communication style down correctly. I know I didn't give my entire life story, but I didn't think it was necessary.

Haze, if you would like to continue offering advice, then I would prefer if you would refrain from making judgments about who I am and my sex life based on my first post (because I misspelled a word or don't use the "30+ communication" style). If you don't want to offer advice and want to continue making judgments, then I would ask you not to impose them on other readers who ARE here to help. I did not come on here to have a message board battle with anyone. Sir Winston is correct, I am in my 20's (23 to be exact, if you are all so curious) and a college graduate. I understand if my age sounds "young and inexperienced" to you, but maybe a little bit of perspective might help you look past your judgments. However, being that your opinions about me are so solidified that you refuse to consider anything I've posted since my first post, it's unlikely that I'll take your advice about sexual matters to heart. I'm always willing to listen though, if you'd like to try again.

If you have a question about my age or experiences that will better help you understand my question, then just ask. I'm not bashful, I just don't want to waste space on the message boards.

First of all - Don't be offended but your preference doesn't matter. You posted and now it's out there. It's out there for me (and everyone else) to read... judge... post/comment on - whether you approve of it or not. We're all judged every time we meet somebody new. I don't think this is news to anyone. Well... anyone over 18, that is. :smirk:

Secondly - My judgments aren't based on spelling, usage, grammar or style - "30 something" or not. I never suggested they were. In fact, I clearly stated in my previous post that those were not things that I used to draw my conclusions. You seem to be hung up the mistakes in your post and I'm telling you... don't worry about it.

No one is correcting your spelling/typing/usage here. Well... I'm not. So I suggest you stop trying to minimize my judgments by hoping (and projecting) that they're based on typos. They're not. They were based on the actual content of your first post.

Finally (for this post) - Again, you're projecting. I never said that I was solidified in my opinion and that I wouldn't consider changing my opinion. I only said you hadn't yet. I assume you're saying that (to convince yourself? and others?) that my opinion is irrational.

Haze, looks like we're here at the same time!

I read your post. I'm glad that you think I'm a good writer but it appears your opinion is still unchanged. It's irrelevant. You said what you needed to and I thank you for that.

See you on the other boards!

I don't think we were online at the same time, but we don't have to be. That's the beauty of a message board. But I'm here now. I'll be back later. And if not, there will always be someone else here to give you a hard time.

And please, don't think of this as a battle. This isn't a battle. This is just why we're here. Sure, I might be confrontational. That's my style. It might be a little harsh, but you'll be better off because of it.

Besides, if you're going to continue to play a grown up, you're going to have to get used to negative opinions. ::wink::

But trust me on this one... this little exchange (between you and me) helped you 'grow' and 'develop' more than any other post in this thread.