ATTN. Newbies! You Are At The How To Board

[blulilacgrl]

That's a minimalist description of some passive-aggressive behavioural traits. I suspect if you google a bit more you might begin to see a bigger picture. However to address your question...

Am I saying you should be openly hostile? No...I'm saying you should be open. You're the one that used the word hostile to describe your feelings. Sorry, you used the words "openly hostile." I'm saying you should own your feelings and be open about them because your masked hostility is unproductive, unbecoming and indicative of the very behaviours you're bemoaning.

Most adults can disagree with people and have discussions around issues without any hostility at all but you have chosen the hostile route in a passive-aggressive manner and what you fail to see is that you're behaving much more like a GBer than perhaps even most GBers. You're sitting up there on your horse, holding the GBers and HTers up to some fantastical standard that you don't really manifest in your own behaviours.

That is what I'm saying, and like you said... take it or leave it. I suspect it will be the latter.



Again, posting it in a Blurt thread where you know it will be seen by it's intended audience instead of just owning up and airing it - passive-aggressive.

Okay let me get this straight.... I should post my thoughts in a thread where the intended audience won't see it? This would be considered "owning" my thoughts and not being passive aggressive?

I did not describe my feelings as hostile. I said that I choose to post my thoughts without being openly hostile.

As to owning my feelings, at what point are you unaware of my feelings. Are you confused as to how I feel. Have I somehow been unclear? Have I hidden either my identity or my thoughts?

That you consider the idea of ignoring questions that you feel are not true questions, not piling on when making fun of another poster, and not making fun of other posters in completely unrelated threads as "fantastical standards"... well I guess we can agree to disagree on standards of behavior.

I believe there is a small group of posters who choose to engage in this behavior. You do not. I believe that these posters are making this forum into a mini version of the GB, a "GB Lite" as it were. You do not. I believe that of all the forums, the How-To forum is the one that should be the last one to succumb to this phenomenon as people come here for genuine help and should not have their questions judged as valid or not valid. You do not.

Fine we will agree to disagree.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I would agree that you've been on the receiving end of our hostility, but that's indeed the response you aim to elicit is it not.

Not at all. I came with friendly intentions and a few folks got their panties twisted when I dredged up some old threads. And lotsa people didnt like my suggestions for getting head practice. Okay, you dont gotta embrace my ideas, its a free country. But lets do warning coughs and frowns and finger tapping on the table rather than the name-calling.

The gang doesnt like niggaz in their exclusive country club, I get it!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Fair points JBJ and I will reapond from my perspective. I have felt you have come here with the sole intention of provocation because I find it incredibly difficult to believe that people actually hold some of the views you have imparted on us. Perhaps it is generational but I don't like to blame age for anyone above 15 for their views. Perhaps it's lost in translation but then I don't want to blame where you're from for what you say. So... I have struggled to believe you've come to HT with any purpose but trouble.

The gang here is pretty welcoming in my experience as a relative newb.

Money and sex top my list of what I want, trouble's way down near the bottom. That said, I wont walk away from trouble or a fight or an insult, its not in me to back off. I'm like Cool Hand Luke in the fight.

I think its obvious I'm not psychotic or retarded or uneducated. I hold beliefs I've worked hard to understand and prove. If others dont buy them, aint my problem, but theyre the best I have, and I wont lie just to be liked and accepted. Its not the foundation of trust.

 

[NightL]

You say eether and I say eyether,
You say neether and I say nyther,
Eether, eyether, neether, nyther,
Let's call the whole thing off!

So I take it that in order to make all people feel comfortable in asking questions or guidance all questions on incest, rape, paedophilia should be met with genuine replies?

To be honest blulilacgrl, apart from you suggesting that the perpetrators of these questions and attempted discussions have been treated unfairly (based on our discussion outside of this thread, but of this thread) I did not witness you providing any words of encouraging advice on these subjects or rarely elsewhere on any area in the How To...

Apart from one grumpy old man I'd suggest that each and everyone of the people you are alluding to provide compassionate, encouraging advice and opinions on a regular basis to genuine posters.

I personally enjoy the use of humour as a response to implausible subjects offered up by people who, if you look at their preceding posts will often be highly contradictory as to their gender, sexual orientation and indeed sincerity.

The manner in which the incest, rape, paedophilia subject perpetrators are dealt with should actually indicate to new comers there are indeed people at How To... who are not just a bunch of freaks giving credence to what any society, nationality or indeed religion would find abhorrent. Should posters who are proven, by their own posts, to be basically narcissistic trolls be treated with open loving arms?

Humour lifts my day, it makes me smile. There is a strong sense of community here, but it in not exclusive. Participate a little and you may quickly feel you can be a part of it. Jumping in on the rare occasion taking swipes will eventually be met with - humour.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Top para understood, second para agreed. I will attempt to abstain from hostility but reserve my right to disagree and engage!

Thats fair.

 

[NightL]

I should not respond to what I only see quoted these days - but you know - just had to

So jim-bob do you feel a little insecure? I don't think I have ever witnessed someone repeating their education/qualifications/professional experience here at Literotica quite as often as you do.

I would suggest your grumpy demeanour would do little in your endeavour of sexual conquest and personally I would avoid anyone who would make me feel miserable if I felt the need of counselling. A reputation of negativity surely would not help the bank balance?


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edit: I suppose that cloak of invisibility I'd thrown over everything jim-bob was not working - you do get quoted a lot - hmm

I'll lift the cover for a bit to see if there ever can be an outward smile. I have one request though jim-bob, use the power for good, though I fear you have crossed to the dark-side long long ago.

Try to make others smile from time to time - just give it a go - go on - I dare you

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I should not respond to what I only see quoted these days - but you know - just had to

So jim-bob do you feel a little insecure? I don't think I have ever witnessed someone repeating their education/qualifications/professional experience here at Literotica quite as often as you do.

I would suggest your grumpy demeanour would do little in your endeavour of sexual conquest and personally I would avoid anyone who would make me feel miserable if I felt the need of counselling. A reputation of negativity surely would not help the bank balance?

I feel weary, dear. I dont wanna engage you and advance your cause. There are better and worthier gladiators than you. That is, I aint playing your games or doing your fools errands. Ciao

 

[NightL]

I'll lift the cover for a bit to see if there ever can be an outward smile.

didn't happen

 

[fgarvb1]

Makes her point doesn't she.

Always a ladyG.

 

[FGB]

AAAAAACHHHHOOOO!

excuse me!

 

[NightL]

Damn FGB, do you have the flu? You certainly have coughed up a whole lot of phlegm here.

 

[FGB]

Tell me about it!

I landed clear over here in the Café!