Bad Sex

[champagne1982]

Of the sex that happens before a break up...

Bad Sex

You reach across the linenscape
as if this duty drags you from pages
of erotic words and dreams
to use what I have to masturbate
on. My tits, poor facisimiles of breasts
only augmentation surgery provides;
my skin, parchment rather than vellum;
and a hole where desire should be.
Wrench response and create wet lust
as we react in spite of where our minds
linger and how my heart beats in another bed.

 

[annaswirls]

damn! this is good.
5 more minutes it will be awesome

gave me chills

This was what I once knew or should that be, know about. (OK. It took five minutes to write so spare the criticism)

BAD SEX


passive as a machine
pressing out widgets
we did the deed
and fulfilled the contract
this is what lovers do
share a bed
exchange body fluids
and lie

I stopped wanting to know
when I stopped caring
what turns your wheels
round about the time of the demise
of the age of steam

before which
the enthusiastic amateur reigned
building up his passion
into a head of steam
when pistons whooshed
and cylinders sighed
when safety valves flipped
and loved blistered on a hot plate

now we grind it out
with the dull efficiency
of an electric motor
I can calculate to the second
when your cam twists
and the gear kicks out
it is more predictable
with each accumulated lie

lately I withdraw
into the engine shed
of my dreams
drive the engines I once dreamed of
as I try to forget
tomorrow I will wake
and clock on
to the mechanical tyranny
of our affair

 

[annaswirls]

Well, they say write what you know.

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'is true, sure, but what I think happens is that people know a wide range of things and they only write about the parts that make them look good, things of which they are proud....or at least not do not embarrass them...

so most people know good sex and bad sex but don't write about bad sex because it is not something they want to be associated with....

do we write from the parts of their personality that they want to display, not the weakness....? do we write about the things of which we are proud or ashamed? the best writers do both. and it is the vulnerability, the humility that is most "attractive" to me

just thinking here...

 

[annaswirls]

Of the sex that happens before a break up...

Bad Sex


as we react in spite of where our minds
linger and how my heart beats in another bed.

oh what a killer ending!

 

[annaswirls]

You always have great challenge ideas. I'll love to read what these produce.

hehe thanks!

I seem to be one of those idea people who never follows through! god I hate that!

 

[PandoraGlitters]

Yeah, he says, keeps saying
as though it will be catching
like Amway sales tactics or

I don't want to think
about catching
him or anything he has
too late now though I already
let him in

because the kissing was good
and because he has great hair
and because

I wanted to be held not
ass slapped not

hey I don't trust you enough for that
get away from that Turn me around
Now

I scream but only inside
because my teeth are too occupied
biting my lip
until it bleeds.

hurryuphurryuphurryuphurryup
I beg in erased lowercase

He batters me inside and it hurts
and it doesn't stop hurting

my friend smirks, "I hope it was worth it,"
when I can't walk the next day
and I don't mean can't walk without a limp
I mean call him redface tear cheeked for asprin
and gatorade--delivered

It takes a month to joke
about the sign I'll make, must be this short or shorter
to ride

 

[Angeline]

hehe thanks!

I seem to be one of those idea people who never follows through! god I hate that!

Well you got a pretty good (and extremely adorable) excuse over yonder in your avatar for occupying your time.

 

[FifthFlower]

Maybe the reason for so much wishful thinking poetry is the amount of bad sex there is back in reality.

I can't write fantasy erotica but I could write about bad sex, I've experienced enough of it.

at dawn, the sun left no escape
her face, a dog chained growl
I wished myself five hundred miles away

Why do you have bad sex? Why not just not do it?

 

[Eluard]

Erotic poetry has, historically, a different set of functions than erotic stories or non-erotic poetry. It has the additional functions of seduction, of expressing appreciation for something shared, and for celebration. Your conception of poetry BB, seems limited by your practices as a prose author, where the function is mainly descriptive. And descriptive of the dysfunctional, at that. One can write poetry about bad sex, of course, but then I doubt that it will fit any longer into the category of erotic poetry. But it may express interesting truths for all that.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

Why do you have bad sex? Why not just not do it?

If this is actually a serious question, then here is one answer:

sometimes you don't know how bad it's going to be until there's really no graceful way to get out of it.

then, of course, there's that whole marriage thing.

I'm glad you've never had to have bad sex. Good for you, as it were.

bj

 

[champagne1982]

Why do you have bad sex? Why not just not do it?

Depends on the definition. As I said earlier, good and bad are incredibly inadequate ways of explaining sex. There are far too many variables tied in with foreplay never mind insert remove repeat until finished moments.

bad sex, bad poetry... it's all a matter of perspective.

 

[FifthFlower]

If this is actually a serious question, then here is one answer:

sometimes you don't know how bad it's going to be until there's really no graceful way to get out of it.

then, of course, there's that whole marriage thing.

I'm glad you've never had to have bad sex. Good for you, as it were.

bj

It is a serious question. So, if you are having bad sex, why? Are you in a bad marriage?

 

[champagne1982]

C'mon, we all know the only good sex any of us can be guaranteed to have is solo masturbation.
Just because it's bad one time doesn't mean that tomorrow won't bring that multiple orgasmic vaginal squirt fuck we all dream of.

 

[GuiltyPleasure]

C'mon, we all know the only good sex any of us can be guaranteed to have is solo masturbation.
Just because it's bad one time doesn't mean that tomorrow won't bring that multiple orgasmic vaginal squirt fuck we all dream of.

Just make sure you wash your hands really well after chopping hot banana peppers! Now that's bad solo sex!

 

[champagne1982]

ouch!

 

[Angeline]

It is a serious question. So, if you are having bad sex, why? Are you in a bad marriage?

I did and I was. I'm not anymore. But I've had good sex in the same bad marriage. And I've had sex with other people I love that has been less than spectacular same as I've had great, incredible sex with people I've loved. It's a continuum for me. A continuum like anything else I experience as a human being. It has never been my choice to have bad sex though. But I'd write a poem about it because it is a human experience and as a writer I am driven to communicate all kinds of experiences. I doubt I'd view it as "erotic," but I've no doubt some people who read it would. Some people only need to see certain words to categorize something as erotic.

Actually I did write an erotic poem about bad sex now that I think about it.

 

[PandoraGlitters]

If this is actually a serious question, then here is one answer:

sometimes you don't know how bad it's going to be until there's really no graceful way to get out of it.

then, of course, there's that whole marriage thing.

I'm glad you've never had to have bad sex. Good for you, as it were.

bj

Well put. If only there were a Consumer Reports for lovers, I could have saved myself that aspirin.

In answer to Fifth Flower: occasionally, I met someone I liked very much or even loved who didn't know a lot about how to please me, and until I got older, I didn't know how to communicate my desires without feeling like I was being bossy or bitchy.

I am adding on to this post because I think that I wish I were more open. I guess I thought that if a partner was "right" for me, that person should be able to read my mind. There is a lot of misinformation out there about sex, and I think that a number of people don't really know how to overcome that. I am lucky I found someone I could be entirely relaxed with. Before that, sex was not always so good.

One piece of misinformation is that if a guy just is very well-endowed, that this will be all a woman needs of her lover. For me, at least, this is quite untrue. I never thought to write a poem about it. I honestly don't think it's a very good poem but it was probably theraputic.

Thanks AnnaSwirls

 

[FifthFlower]

BAD SEX


passive as a machine
pressing out widgets
we did the deed
and fulfilled the contract
this is what lovers do
share a bed
exchange body fluids
and lie

...

I guess bad sex is boring sex, neither party wants to be that close to the other, but both feel obligated for some reason to do it. Sort of like both are "paying" the other to have sex. But if neither of them want it, why do it?

Not having an orgasm is not necessarily bad sex. I suspect the bored couple bogusbrig described above gave each other an orgasm. It's the boredom and perhaps even scorn for the other that seems to make it "bad".

And then to get back to the topic, is this what erotic poetry should be about?

 

[PandoraGlitters]

I've never orgasmed during bad sex. I guess I therefore tend to equate the two.

While technically I suppose erotic poetry could be about bad sex, it isn't what I think of when I think of erotic poetry. It seems that erotic poetry should promote eroticism.

 

[bogusbrig]

Why do you have bad sex? Why not just not do it?

It is surprising how many people have perfect lives on the internet.

I'm sure if one knew one was going to have bad sex, one wouldn't have it but my guess is, that most of it is a state of mind because one can't go far wrong with the mechanics. Guilt, inertia, habit, are just a few things that keep dysfunctional relationships together and there are probably more dysfunctional relationships than healthy ones in the world.

However, if you have never experienced the downside of life, how do you know you are experiencing the upside? Contentment to me is just the dull middleground and a lousy experience for making any sort of art from.

 

[bogusbrig]

And then to get back to the topic, is this what erotic poetry should be about?

I don't think anyone said eroticism should be about bad sex, I think it was WickedEve who said or implied (if I remember correctly), bad sex would make for more interesting poetry than good sex. I tend to agree. Even good poetry that doesn't touch on the pain or vulnerability of being human, has the tendency to be quickly forgotten as it doesn't have by implication, any cathartic qualities. Good poetry about good sex just gives me a warm momentary feeling for the most part, as I read it and then quickly move on.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Bad sex? Is that all ending an otherwise good marriage is about? Doesn't love come into it anywhere?

 

[unpredictablebijou]

Bad sex? Is that all ending an otherwise good marriage is about? Doesn't love come into it anywhere?

o no I don't think anyone said that bad sex should cause divorce.

and apparently fifth flower has never heard of a pity fuck.

Now that's love.

bj

 

[PandoraGlitters]

It is surprising how many people have perfect lives on the internet.

I'm sure if one knew one was going to have bad sex, one wouldn't have it but my guess is, that most of it is a state of mind because one can't go far wrong with the mechanics.

Actually, I think one can go pretty wrong with the mechanics. Pornography and lack of content about the clitoris in sex ed have conspired to steer many of us off base in terms of what actually creates an orgasm in women. I think most images of sex show a woman orgasming from everything BUT clitoral stimulation. If the same images were made of men, men would be orgasming all the time with noone ever touching their penises. According to one of the largest studies on female sexuality, 70% of all women only ever orgasm during direct clitoral stimulation and only 30% of women ever (even if only once) orgasm during coitus as we classically define it. If we look to society's typical representations of sex, this means that yes, we have often gone far wrong with the mechanics.

Thank heavens real life isn't like porno, with men bouncing their testes on one's face and expecting that to cause female orgasm.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Hardly fair is it about male and female genitalia? Now this may sound crude but what the heck all a man needs is an in and out motion and bingo. It's all very well with your erotic stories of him banging away and she has the most wonderful orgasmic reactions as seen in the post above welll errrr no she doesn't. Bit like watching a porn film (and yes I have done that) well lucky old you if banging away does the trick but both can be a right turn off and is that a damp mark on the ceiling/what shall I cook for dinner?