Barber Shop Wisdom

[graceanne]

The problem isn't just about women, but about men, too. The battle cry of our times is 'what about me?'. The problem is, with everyone worrying about 'me', no one is worrying about 'you' or 'them' and, therefore NO ONE'S needs are getting met.

 

[BiBunny]

The problem isn't just about women, but about men, too. The battle cry of our times is 'what about me?'. The problem is, with everyone worrying about 'me', no one is worrying about 'you' or 'them' and, therefore NO ONE'S needs are getting met.

I don't think that's necessarily true in all cases. The overwhelming majority, maybe. But I know so many people who are miserable because they're doing what they think they "ought" to do--for parents, for friends, for SOs, etc. Sometimes life would be better if people just said, "I don't care what you think. I'm going to be HAPPY on MY OWN TERMS, not yours."

 

[rosco rathbone]

Promise Keepers: the original doms???

 

[Netzach]

Promise Keepers: the original doms???

Dude I know some of these guys.

So.....Whipped. Why would you need a stadium of bretheren to proclaim "pussywhipped no more!" OTOH, I do know some Christian males who are HOH in a non-whipped manner.

 

[intothewoods]

Dude I know some of these guys.

So.....Whipped. Why would you need a stadium of bretheren to proclaim "pussywhipped no more!" OTOH, I do know some Christian males who are HOH in a non-whipped manner.

You know Promise Keepers!!!! Get out!

As an aside, can I sell tshirts that read "pussywhipped no more"? I'll give you a cut of the profits.

 

[graceanne]

I don't think that's necessarily true in all cases. The overwhelming majority, maybe. But I know so many people who are miserable because they're doing what they think they "ought" to do--for parents, for friends, for SOs, etc. Sometimes life would be better if people just said, "I don't care what you think. I'm going to be HAPPY on MY OWN TERMS, not yours."

You're right - I meant the majority, not EVERYONE. Their are exceptions to every rule (except this one - which would be an exception wouldn't it?). Ok. Their are exceptions to every rule.

It was kinda a mini-rant of mine, due to circumstances. Their's this kid who's got no parental supervision and keeps coming over to my house for meals and adult supervision. I've been told many times 'it's not your problem' and 'what about you?'. WHO'S FUCKING PROBLEM IS IT? I hate when people excuse themselves from caring with those excuses.

 

[graceanne]

Dude I know some of these guys.

So.....Whipped. Why would you need a stadium of bretheren to proclaim "pussywhipped no more!" OTOH, I do know some Christian males who are HOH in a non-whipped manner.

I know A LOT of promise keepers, and yeah - a lot of them are pussy whipped. K used to be a promise keeper, obviously he's not pussy whipped. *shrugs* I also know that the premise behind promise keepers wasn't for men to be whipped, but for them to lead their houses (as stated by the bible). Quite frankly, men can't lead unless they have wives who are willing to follow.

These days promise keepers is the 'cool kids club' of the Christians.

 

[BiBunny]

You're right - I meant the majority, not EVERYONE. Their are exceptions to every rule (except this one - which would be an exception wouldn't it?). Ok. Their are exceptions to every rule.

It was kinda a mini-rant of mine, due to circumstances. Their's this kid who's got no parental supervision and keeps coming over to my house for meals and adult supervision. I've been told many times 'it's not your problem' and 'what about you?'. WHO'S FUCKING PROBLEM IS IT? I hate when people excuse themselves from caring with those excuses.

*Hugs* I'm sorry, gracie. I see people like this all the time.

 

[graceanne]

*Hugs* I'm sorry, gracie. I see people like this all the time.

*hugs* Not your fault, I'm the one who went on a rant, and made a lot of generalizations. lol

 

[rosco rathbone]

Dude I know some of these guys.

So.....Whipped. Why would you need a stadium of bretheren to proclaim "pussywhipped no more!"

LOL. Back in the knife drawer, Miss Sharp!!!

 

[alexanna]

I think popular culture's definition of happiness for women is more about achieving that mythical life-work balance. I have the perfect job, the perfect husband, the perfect nanny, and the perfect amount of family time, couple time and me-time. Ain't life grand? Uh, yeah, on what planet...

So this is what happiness feels like.... who knew.

 

[intothewoods]

So this is what happiness feels like.... who knew.

Ha. I've heard people say, you can have it all. You just can't have it all at once. I like that.

 

[FurryFury]

Frankly I find people that try to "have it all" irritating to say the least. You simply can't. IMO, you shouldn't have kids if you aren't going to raise them. That's not a job you should sub contract out.

If you have a beautiful house with a pool but no time to enjoy it, what is the point?

Most of the people I know, say 95% of the females and 70% of the males do NOT think only of themselves. They often do live in part for others. That is both good and bad, to my way of thinking because people can harm themselves trying to please and help others.

Most females I know could really use some "fuck everyone else I'm going to do me time." Most won't take it. Most males I know take a little to a lot more of that time than they probably should and we females enable them in it. LOL.

OTOH, it bothers me when people are too cold, distant and selfish. I don't see that too often thankfully.

 

[EmpressFi]

you could have it all..but where would you put it

It's 1 am and I'm too tired to write a diatribe that covers everything I've read.

When I was a child, I thought I knew what happiness meant. But I learned my lesson starting around my 7th birthday that bad things happened to "happy" people and happiness wasnt guaranteed, it wasnt smiling, but it was fighting back when faced with something that makes you want to quit.

maybe instead of the word "happy" or "happiness".. replace it with the word "fulfilled".

 

[FurryFury]

I tell my kids, you can do anything provided you have enough of the natural skills and/or work your ass off for it but you can't do everything.

 

[Marquis]

There must be something in the air.

 

[graceanne]

you could have it all..but where would you put it

It's 1 am and I'm too tired to write a diatribe that covers everything I've read.

When I was a child, I thought I knew what happiness meant. But I learned my lesson starting around my 7th birthday that bad things happened to "happy" people and happiness wasnt guaranteed, it wasnt smiling, but it was fighting back when faced with something that makes you want to quit.

maybe instead of the word "happy" or "happiness".. replace it with the word "fulfilled".

Amen! To tell the truth I could care less if I'm happy - I'm more worried about content. That does not mean I want to be un-happy, but for every emotional high you reach, eventually you'll have to reach a low that's equivalently. The whole bell curve thing.

I tell my kids, you can do anything provided you have enough of the natural skills and/or work your ass off for it but you can't do everything.

Pretty much. No matter how much they want my children will not be able to fly or walk through walls or punch through concrete walls. I will never be a great artist or singer. Whether you like it or not there are some things that just CANNOT be done, and part of contentment is not striving for the impossible.

 

[graceanne]

There must be something in the air.

Sorry, about that - I ate beans last night.

 

[FurryFury]

<snip>Pretty much. No matter how much they want my children will not be able to fly or walk through walls or punch through concrete walls. I will never be a great artist or singer. Whether you like it or not there are some things that just CANNOT be done, and part of contentment is not striving for the impossible.

That's true.