BDSM D/s and handicaps

[CollaredTigressK8]

thank you!

First, i want to thank you for starting this thread. my Master has advanced Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, and i have been searching for a long time for people who dealt with some of the things W/we do. He also has to deal with bipolar depression and a long abuse history with me, as well as some severe arthritis and back problems... and i'm only 25. The main thing that W/we have found is that the lines of communication need to be open always, and we need to respect that. W/we don't often make love (because it's a big production, getting Him into bed, setting up the bedside ventilator, etc.,) but there are things W/we can do that W/we both enjoy. W/we cuddle and make out a lot more than most people, which i think helps keep U/us extremely close.

W/we have found this to be extremely comfortable. If i kneel on the couch, He can position His chair directly in front of me, and i can lean into Him.

Please keep this thread going... i am looking forward to seeing what other people have tried and accomplished together.

 

[graceanne]

Welcome. This is a great group to be a part of, if you're struggling with disabilities, or if your loved one is. I think I stated in another thread that probably half of the members here struggle with some sort of disability or the other - and quite a few of us are young, or were diagnosed young. I'm 29, when I was 24 (after years of illness) I was diagnosed with crohns disease. The crohns disease also causes chronic anemia, chronic exhaustion, and malnurishment. I believe that Netzach, who has her own list of disabilities, is in her early to mid 30's. Fury's also in her 30's (I think) and she's got some serious back problems. . . the list goes on. Marquis' (and someone else - can't recall who) bipolar, several people struggle wth depression and self harm. Their's several other people with arthritis. Than we have our young-at-heart group. EG's diabetic and has heart problems. Master_Gil has failing kidneys, diabetes . . . I can't keep track of everything. Bandit's his sub, so she'd be the one you want to talk to about the dificulties of subbing to someone with chronic health problems.

 

[Bandit58]

Hi Tigress

Master Gil and I have been together just over 3 years, and we married in December last year. He has diabetes (Type 1, diagnosed when He was 21), kidney failure (He is on haemodialysis at the hospital 3 mornings a week), back, neck and shoulder pain from arthritis, high blood pressure....lol it's a long list!

Here's a link to a thread I started (under the name Rayne58) on collarme.com:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_83526/tm.htm

It helps to know that you are not the only one dealing with disabilities in a BDSM relationship. If I can help at all, feel free to PM me

 

[Etoile]

I'm 26 and I have arthritis, chronic urticaria, anxiety, depression, and ADHD. I've often talked about "falling apart" even though I'm so young.

 

[myinnerslut]

Welcome. This is a great group to be a part of, if you're struggling with disabilities, or if your loved one is. I think I stated in another thread that probably half of the members here struggle with some sort of disability or the other - and quite a few of us are young, or were diagnosed young. I'm 29, when I was 24 (after years of illness) I was diagnosed with crohns disease. The crohns disease also causes chronic anemia, chronic exhaustion, and malnurishment. I believe that Netzach, who has her own list of disabilities, is in her early to mid 30's. Fury's also in her 30's (I think) and she's got some serious back problems. . . the list goes on. Marquis' (and someone else - can't recall who) bipolar, several people struggle wth depression and self harm. Their's several other people with arthritis. Than we have our young-at-heart group. EG's diabetic and has heart problems. Master_Gil has failing kidneys, diabetes . . . I can't keep track of everything. Bandit's his sub, so she'd be the one you want to talk to about the dificulties of subbing to someone with chronic health problems.

im one of the others who is bipolar, and i was diagnosed at the ripe old age of 11. the people on this board have all been really supportive when it comes to disabilities and D/s

 

[bdsmshade]

I know this post may be bit old and possibly not of use to anyone anymore but I'm new and was having a bad day when found it. It means a lot to see that not alone in the world thanks to everyone who has posted here. I have depression panic attacks diabetes and a deformed arm the mental side is so much more limiting tho my arm does make me a pain to tie up on one occasion had to hold a rope in place to stop it sliding over my hand it was that or spoil the game for my top.

 

[midwestyankee]

I suggest laying off the flogging for the month or so just before the beginning of golf season, as the motion of flogging will cause you to start swinging from over the top and that, as we all know, will lead to monster banana slices and trips through every forest bordering the golf course. An alternative would be to flog only with backhand motions, as that would not have the same effect.

The clear rule here is to not let your BDSM game affect your golf game, as your golf handicap will rise unpleasantly if you do.

 

[desertslave]

Oh MWY, grooooaaaan!

I often call myself 'the gimp sub' because I'm definitely falling apart. ADD is the least of my worries, but it often gets me in trouble.

In addition, I have two artificial knees and a shoulder that's had a replacement and a revision and still isn't right, and my other shoulder is giving me grief. I'm not on the best of terms with my right hip, either. Kneeling is pretty much out unless it's on a very soft surface, and bondage is problematic because my range of motion isn't all there. Mama told me being a tomboy was going to get me in trouble.

Master has COPD and AMD (macular degeneration) so we can't play vigorously. His vision is within safe bounds as far as flogging goes, thank goodness.

Most days I think the worst issues are my hot flashes and mood swings, though. Getting old sucks!