sweetnpetite
Intellectual snob
- Joined
- Jan 10, 2003
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Catelina, you are certainly welcome by me. I just don't like the "non-advice" I started getting that sounded to me like insecure doms who acted like I was maybe an upity sub who needed to be put in her place. (and if that is not what was meant, then I appologize)
catalina_francisco said:I get peeved about a lot here too Quint. With time perhaps you will see where I and others are coming from instead of rushing in all defensive. As for alternate relationships, I may be wrong here, but from reading your posts and living my reality I think we are far from what most, including you would consider orthodox in this or the vanilla world. I do not think as it has been insinuated that peope have to identify as 24/7 or hold to set rigid roles, there is always room for flexibility, but as in all things if you use a term such as Dominant or submissive, there is a general concensus and understanding of what that role is defined as in it's basic form. Without that how can you hope to get any answers?
People can carry on about labels all they like in the interest of appearing to be proactive about discrimination and oppression, but I daresay if you go to the markets and ask to buy a bag of carrots and get handed a pumpkin, you are not going to feel it is logical to be told by the vendor that they call their pumpkin carrots because that is what they want to do and afterall they are all vegetables about the same colour and growing in the same ground. Comes down to there being a need to define to an extent, and as people see on Lit time and again, if they want to say they are 'X' and ask questions, posters have to at least understand the basics of 'X' to answer.
As to those who do not have answers not needing or welcome to reply or post as they have nothing to offer, I disagree with your concept of what we have a forum for if it is only to be posted to by a select few who feel they have all the answers. The beauty of contributing is you learn and evolve as do others, whether you have an answer or not...is all about freedom of speech and open discussion without censorship from those who wish only to see what they want to see. Is about growth..and friendly communication.
Catalina