Beginnings

[Master Sensei]

Yes, more than just a thrill, but again a sense of exhilaration from helping, supporting, and touching a subbies' life in a positive way.

I find that most Dominants forget this most important step, aftercare. Or rather they forget how special it can be. They'll do it because the subbie needs it, but they themselves seem bored by it. Very Sad.

Good luck on your continuing journey.

 

[Yggdrasil]

Agree totally. If no aftercare...you have really 'missed something'

 

[shadowoftheheart]

I agree, and I'm new here. Heh.

One advantage of having a Sister who is a committed Domme. She understands, and has told me even before I expressed an interest, that a Dom/me is responsible for the physical, emotional, and even spiritual well-being of a subbie and that aftercare is vital to bring a subbie back into reality from sub-space.

Still ... hands-on training, so to speak, sure beats theory.

 

[SheevaKitten]

Ok, so here's a question. My Daddy lacks a bit in after-care. Not always, but sometimes he lets me go and then is so tired he just goes to sleep. How can a subbie brig this to her Dom's attention? I mean, without it sounding like critisism?

 

[Master Sensei]

Ok, so here's a question. My Daddy lacks a bit in after-care. Not always, but sometimes he lets me go and then is so tired he just goes to sleep. How can a subbie brig this to her Dom's attention? I mean, without it sounding like critisism?

It's hard to advise because I don't know your type of relationship. However, some general things:

1. Do you practice free time? If so, I'd make sure not to bring it up until then.
2. I would try to use terms like "I feel" or "I need" rather than "You should" or "Why don't you"
3. If your Dom is so intolerant that he can't accept feedback like this, perhaps you shouldn't be with him.

Hth.