Being real

[HotXBunz]

SpectreT, OMG, I had a therapist use the pink monkey analogy with me once. I could not figure out why I was having problems at work. I was pleasant, happy with my job, worked overtime without a peep, my production was out of this world and they hated me. Everyone there was miserable and complained all the time. I was the pink monkey and had to watch my back all of the time. That one statement changed my life. I got it. Thanks for letting me know where it came from.

That certainly fits into what we are saying here. People are comfortable with people like themselves. I also think it would shake all of their conditioning and they may not like us for showing them their biggotry.

Lots of things to consider with this question.

 

[cymbidia]

This is a getting-old thread; i know. However, i'm in the MT (mother thread) mining for that info i posted there last summer regarding the places one can send film, film containing those kinda pics, when i came across this post. It seemed germane to this subject, so here you are:


The Day I Told My Mother That I'm a BDSM Maso Submissive
(as posted on page 5 of the MT)

There's one other thing i wanted to mention before i fade back into my vacation (i'll be back next Tuesday or so). A few days ago, while here visiting my parents in my childhood home, i told my *mother* that (1) i write erotica, and (2) i am - and have been for all my sexual life - a BDSM submissive.

Her response was most unexpected in a wonderfully surprising way. When i told her i wrote erotica, she cracked up laughing. She giggled and turned red and snorted. She could barely contain herself.

"Hee hee hee," she laughed," I can't believe i promised you that i wouldn't tell anyone. How could you tell me that you write porn and then not let me tell anyone?"

"It's not porn, Mom," i answered, amazed by her reaction but wanting to get the terminology clear, "it's erotica. Porn is just get off on, it's whack fiction. Erotica has a story component. Besides, i write erotic poetry, too."

She was still giggling and plotting who, among her friends, she could tell THIS to when i shook my head and walked off.

Moms.
You never know how they'll react.

The BDSM news prompted an intense three hour discussion, she and i, sipping iced tea on the back porch swing. That discussion was far more sober than the one about me writing erotica, and was filled with incredibly honest and real talk between us.

 

[Verypowerful]

Just home from working nightshift I open up Lit to read and I find this. Thank you so much for putting a smile on my lips before going to bed cymbidia.
Some time has passed now and even though I am still struggling with how to deal with this issue I have started to feel better about it. One of the things I have done is to tell my mother that there is something that I will discuss with her the next time we meet (we live far away from eachother). She has already sensed that I am happier than ever and has commented on hearing it in my voice. I will not tell her details about practicalities ( and honestly my R/L experience is still sadly nonexistent *s*) but I will share the happiness of finding peace within - somehow.

 

[Richard49]

I think its a difficult balance to get sometimes - I do have to watch what I say alot of the time and that gets frustrating - but I won't live like a hermit and I am 'out' in a gentle subtle way.

I live a very high profile in my community .... it even goes to a state level and use to be on a national level ........

I am just me ... I do not need to let anyone know anything
unless
I want them close to me ... to know me .........

Balance is a good word
Frustration also fits

However with a few close freinds and maybe a lover or two
I am not alone

 

[Richard49]

The Day I Told My Mother That I'm a BDSM Maso Submissive
(as posted on page 5 of the MT)

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As I read your story I laughed and laughed
I also remember when I told my mom

She is 85 now and I think she was in her late 70s or early 80s when I shared my lifestyle with her....

While when I shared this part

She smiled and said
"well I now know I brought you up to know how to treat a lady"