Best/safest way to meet a man?

[rattles1280]

Some super advice given in this thread...pat on the back to 'none-to-none' and 'coati' !

I would also second Homer's advice RE: SilverDaddies web site. The men there are typically looking for more than the CL crowd. (I've never done Tinder)

My one addition is; I urge you to really consider the impact the infidelity will have on your own conscience and well being. I know this is a very tough and frustrating situation. I believe that if their is even an inkling of hope that the wife might understand and sanction your desire, it would be a tremendous load off your shoulders. I've faced that challenge and it worked out fine. But, of cousre, each relationship is different.

The overriding theme of all of the good advice here is to make it more about a true friendship first with the mutual understanding that shared intimacy is on the table later if the connection is there. I believe that one needs to take a moment and assess their own personality in more than a superficial way. Are you an introvert or extrovert...more inclined to just one lover or an open relationship with many, etc. The more casual the relationship one get's into, the more risk is involved in regard to STD's. This self awareness will help you find an appropriate match for a FWB. (I speak from experience there, having had some less than wonderful experiences due to not thinking about this in the first place )

Best wishes !

Thirded.

I drifted away from CL. In its stead, I have leaned on SilverDaddies and Adam4Adam. There I've found guys who--because they are on those sites/apps, I think--are more sure of what they want and better and talking with you.