Bi-curious hesitation

[SheDrivesMeCrazy]

I'm a mainly straight guy but to me sex from a woman's perspective always looked amazing and it made me want to have an experience of being fucked by a man; it had to be an older man though , for some reason being fucked by a guy my own age or younger didn't appeal to me. I have had a couple of experiences when I was in my early twenties but I'm 39 now and I just don't see myself in that submissive role anymore... but it is still a fantasy.

I don't get turned on watching gay porn, I watch regular straight porn but I imagine I'm the woman.

 

[osodown]

Had my Chance YESTERDAY!!!

yupp, i chickened out my friends. i have been corresponding with an older gentlemen on Silver daddies, for sum time now, and yesterday was the day, i had shaven my cock and balls about noon time anticipating hois wife to be out of his home at 4:30, at 3:0pm it was a go, she indeed would be gone for several hours, i got the address and the plan was to arrive at 4:45, it waqs to happen...WOW I thought. I put on a black sheer panti and a black & white nightie, pulled on a pair of shorts and stuck the nightie in then came my tee shirt and flip flops, I was so excited that i was oozing precum already in my semi hard state. THEN, I started thinking of my wife, who happens to be out of town for a few more days, she'll never know that this 70+ year old man would be greeting me at his front door naked and inviting me into his hiome and undressing me to find me dressed as a full gron ass man SISSY, and then dropping to his knees to caress, fondle and suck MY COCK... well after sitting and conteplating that, i saw he had messaged me, and i messesged him back and said i was scarred that my wife would find out , and he was so sweet that he said no worries, cum when your ready. but not withjout confirmation that his wife would be gone.

DAMN IT, I WANT IT SO SO BAD, we had worked out all the details even him inserting his fingers in my ass as he went to town on my cock. damn i am still kicking myself in the ass, acually fingers myself in the ass.

if you have the chance again, i think i would take it.

 

[suckcurious]

hesitation

My first time was at age 56 with a very nice 70 year old guy. We arranged to meet in a hotel for the afternoon about 70 miles from our homes. There was no chance of us knowing each other and didn't have to be nervous in an outdoor scenario. It was a wonderful experience where I had my first cock sucking experience.
He had been sucked before by his brother in law and had sucked him. He gave me a fantastic bj and I came in his mouth , then we cum kissed. I did fuck his virgin arse too but didn't cum in him. He couldn't get hard but gave me a brilliant finger fucking.
I think you need to move away from your area a bit to get a comfort zone like a hotel.

 

[tg56boy]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Been there. Now I am totally comfortable with my male lover.

 

[oralgami]

I have posted before about how I took me first plunge into same sex oral exploration so excuse me if you've heard this before...

I was a sexually frustrated 45 year old guy in the end stages of a 20 year marriage. I was involuntarily celibate and my mind was wandering thinking about alternatives. I had fooled around with a few married women but found that to be quite dangerous - emotional attachments, risk of discovery, jealous husbands...

I knew I couldn't be alone in my situation and the idea of finding a similarly situated guy and discreetly taking care of our mutual needs had a certain taboo appeal that gradually became a dirty little turn on - I'll suck yours if you suck mine without it being a birthday or special occasion or any pleading or negotiation.

Long story short, I first came to the conclusion that if an opportunity arose, I'd take it. I then realized that such an opportunity wasn't likely to come and that I would either have to get the courage to create an opportunity or else spend the rest of my life wondering what it would be like. I even pictured how I wanted my first experience to unfold - I wanted to drop to my knees with him standing in front of me, open up his pants, pull them down but not his underwear, then feel his contours by gentling nibbling with my lips and feel him get hard. It's now time for the big reveal and pull his underwear down and be face to face with a guy's dick for the first time. I would then take hold of it, get familiar with what it felt like in my hands and then look up, look him in the eye and say "I want to suck your dick".

I got lucky. I put a thoroughly honest ad on CL and after weeding through the rejects, I found a response from a guy who seemed perfect. He was also married and could relate to me and understood what I wanted to do and why and how difficult it was to make it happen - especially the first time - and was willing to help.

A few days later, his wife was out of town and I found myself walking up his front steps towards his front door. I knocked and heard someone on the other side unlock it, nervous that I was about to be face to face with a guy who would know I was there hoping he'd let me put his dick in my mouth. The door opened and I was relieved to see a friendly face on a tall thin athletic body. He invited me in, lead me into his kitchen and offered me something to drink.

For the first time ever, I was able to openly discuss a subject I could not discuss with anyone I knew. Once the conversation began to wane he asked if I was ready to do anything then. I had reservations but I knew I'd never get a better opportunity than this and I responded immediately and without hesitation: "yes".

He lead me into a small "den" and started to unfasten his belt. I stopped up and told him that I had pictured how my first time would unfold and he agreed to let me proceed. Everything happened just as I had imagined - until I pulled his underwear down. His dick was perfect - and much bigger than I imagined. I quickly stripped and then attacked with passion and choked and gagged with unrestrained amateurish enthusiasm. The experience was almost intoxicating in intensity and I spontaneously came as a result. After a brief recovery, he reciprocated. He was gentle, skilled and I realized what I should have done. It didn't take him long and I gave warning and he finished me by hand and cleaned me up.

We sat naked for a few minutes talking - he understood that had just transpired might be a big moment for me. After he saw that I was fine he said that he had somewhere to go and suggested we get cleaned off in the bathroom. I never got him to cum so he got a wash cloth, got it wet and handed it to me. He watched as I cleaned myself up and I handed him the wash cloth. We returned to where we started and got dressed. I thanked him for going me my first opportunity and he commented about how badly I needed it. A quick bear hug and I was out the door and rejoining my regular life.

 

[Sunnyade]

Like most replying to this thread, I had similar experiences with online partners trying to arrange a real meet up. Online fun is no substitute for whatever MM experience you desire but will provide the immediate satisfaction. Patience is a virtue and if that experience is on the cards for you it will happen. Resolve to take the opportunity if it arises and be prepared for an emotional roller coaster ride.

 

[prepinprick]

strong desire

i do the same thing, never pursued it for fear of contracting a disease.
if i had the opportunity to meet another safe married man that feels the same i would absolutely do it.

 

[nakedworld]

Like most replying to this thread, I had similar experiences with online partners trying to arrange a real meet up. Online fun is no substitute for whatever MM experience you desire but will provide the immediate satisfaction. Patience is a virtue and if that experience is on the cards for you it will happen. Resolve to take the opportunity if it arises and be prepared for an emotional roller coaster ride.

That pretty well sums things up.

 

[Bibigirl619]

I am in the same boat but im 51 so i feel its harder for me now that im older. Im looking for a chat buddy so maybe i can get some of it out of my system that way. I have kissed a girl n like katty perry says i liked it lol

 

[ship52]

Love your ideas.

 

[touche]

I am in the same boat but im 51 so i feel its harder for me now that im older. Im looking for a chat buddy so maybe i can get some of it out of my system that way. I have kissed a girl n like katty perry says i liked it lol

Sending you a PM hun.

 

[bc_smash]

My problem is that life isn't as simple as fantasy. While there is so much to try, there is so much to lose. Thats why I have to remain in the realm of online for now. Maybe, one day, the situation may be different. However, I have to be happy and appreciative with what I have. Hopefully, finding more people who understand that situation will make my online world fulfilling.

 

[touche]

My problem is that life isn't as simple as fantasy. While there is so much to try, there is so much to lose. Thats why I have to remain in the realm of online for now. Maybe, one day, the situation may be different. However, I have to be happy and appreciative with what I have. Hopefully, finding more people who understand that situation will make my online world fulfilling.

You are definitely not alone! While I am no longer technically bi-curious...my experiences were less than what I had envisioned. (She was less into me and more into my husband...) So I too stick to online encounters and honestly find them very satisfying.

 

[Mrnobody6039]

My problem is that life isn't as simple as fantasy. While there is so much to try, there is so much to lose. Thats why I have to remain in the realm of online for now. Maybe, one day, the situation may be different. However, I have to be happy and appreciative with what I have. Hopefully, finding more people who understand that situation will make my online world fulfilling.

I understand too! I love my life just the way it is. I would definitely like to try out more man to man sexual Adventures. That's nearly the only kind of porn I look at. But I have way too much to lose. I fantasize about man to man sex. But when I actually think of taking part in it I start to back off cuz I know how much it would kill my close friends and family. If I was all by myself and I didn't have the responsibilities that I carry today and enjoy it could have been entirely different. Meanwhile help Inspire my fantasies and give me a little break

 

[klippert]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Man...All my shit started when I was young. I was exposed to porn way to young, and BiSex images too. My sexual experimentation(s) were with another guy in the neighborhood. After that, my M/M sex wasn't the Utopian dream you're led to believe.
you hesitation is called conscience. the Men that took advantage of me, didn't have any

 

[fitandfresh]

Ah well

The fact that there are so many in the same boat makes me think that I have missed mine lol......still if it happens or is meant to it will......I suppose

 

[bc_smash]

The fact that there are so many in the same boat makes me think that I have missed mine lol......still if it happens or is meant to it will......I suppose

That's honestly the way I feel too. Thank goodness for online playmates.

 

[touche]

That's honestly the way I feel too. Thank goodness for online playmates.

Hear, hear! I love being able to safely indulge my fantasies. Sometimes reality doesn't live up to the hype. *shrugs*

 

[bc_smash]

Hear, hear! I love being able to safely indulge my fantasies. Sometimes reality doesn't live up to the hype. *shrugs*

Well... Have to keep trying.

 

[touche]

Well... Have to keep trying.

More power to ya and best of luck!

 

[bc_smash]

More power to ya and best of luck!

I will do my best.

 

[R20191976]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Definitely not alone, I’m there myself to make that jump somehow with someone but than I think about the possible repercussions that could happen.

 

[none2_none2]

Believe it or not, I can relate to some of those comments where actual m2m sex didn't live up to the fantasy. For me, I had to deal with that for at least two years. Since I always also wanted a man's affections, it wasn't so easy to consider walking completely away from it -- although I tried.

For me, the m2m didn't meet the fantasy because the activities were not what I was really even desiring to do. I really just don't look at a penis and think I want to play with it. Two years into my m2m activities, a man finally offered to let me fuck him. (As I have stated numerous times, I was more attracted to men's behinds YEARS before I did m2m sex, but those early m2m partners I think just wanted to get off and use some young fresh meat (me way back centuries ago) to do it.) When I finally got to make love to a man's ass, I finally wondered what was enjoyable about m2m sex.

I would still think that if someone has a family -- especially with children, I wouldn't risk loosing all that. However, in my case I found out I was infertile, so it just made less sense to try the more conventional route. For years, I'm sure if someone could have found a cure for my infertility, I might have made the change, since it is hard to have both great sex with a man AND his love. I still wish I could have sired kids, but I wouldn't want to give up my guy for that. It would be a betrayal even to myself for how high I hold love as something when you truly find it, you don't want anything to happen to loose that person.

I will say that during my years before I found my better half, I did run into many bi-sexual men. For several of them, the troubling thing for them was that they still loved their wives and family, but over time, it was just so hard for them to get it up for their woman. Sometimes they could if they fantasized it was m2m sex, but sometimes even that wasn't enough. This of course was before the days of viagra, so perhaps with the pills such guys no longer have that issue. Note too that I don't think they were necessarily "married" but truly gay guys per se; rather, that whatever mental barriers was holding them back from engaging on something they had such a strong urge to try, got harder and harder to maintain.

As many partners as I had over those years, I do wish I knew how their life turned out. That is why I could never be the love cock (or in my case male ass), but not the man. I didn't necessarily want to marry them, but I would listen to their stories and wished them the best. I could not imagine reining in a strong sexual urge decade after decade. All power to those who have that strong a will power.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

On line chatting and discussing fantasizes is a safe, convenient, and anonymous way to explore feelings, without taking that emotional dive. And it's always nice to find there are others with the same thoughts more or less without having to take a actual meeting plunge.
As mentioned earlier, consideration must be given to whether the reality of what would happen will measure up to the fantasies.
I'm curious and with the current trend, will probably stay that way

 

[touche]

I find private roleplaying to be very satisfying. It allows me to set the tone and mood and even direct the action to best suit my desires. And masturbating during or after a session usually gives me wonderful climaxes.