Blowjob question for the guys

[CuttingEdge]

With my ex-wife, blowjobs were part of foreplay so I got them almost every time we had sex, 3-4 times a week, but admittedly, not to orgasm. They were just to get me in the mood. To orgasm was on the days she had her period, or as just an extra surprise for me, but just sucking on it in foreplay was fine by me.

I still get blowjobs by my current wife, but not as foreplay so much, so not as often. She is also hesitant to swallow, one of few lady's I have ever had that has not okay with swallowing. It kind of pains me, as it just seems it is a form of rejection. It's just cum after all...

 

[Not Normal]

Last Tuesday night my paramour gave me a short blowjob after the first round of me eating her out and fucking her pussy. It's not her main thing, but she does enjoy doing nice things for me.

My primary partner always spends more time giving me oral, she really loves it (and so do I).

 

[bobb_sledd]

Sixteen days ago. Due to a severe case of ED, I no longer get hard enough for penetration. It's a good thing my current lady friend has amazing oral skills. But then again, that's what I'm paying her for.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Damn, I won't say mine was last weekend then.

There is no way I would go 28 days, never mind 28 years without oral. Time for you to either go find a local "lady of the night" or fly off to one of the "sex tourist" locals like Bangkok. You could get excellent head there for 200-300 Bhat.

Believe me, I have considered engaging the services of a professional (although only recently--up until then I still had hopes of finding a woman who to whom what I could do for/to her might be appealing enough to, well, you know).

But that (the pros) is difficult enough, Johnny Law and all that. I should probably vacay in Nevada or something. (Not sure if that's exactly, precisely what I've been missing, but I'm sure it's closer than anything freely available in my state.)

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife gives me head occasionally. Mostly when I’m joking about it and unzip my pants when we’re watching tv or just in the flow of everyday life. But almost never to completion - it does take me a while to cum.

She’ll also give me head when we have sex. Sometimes after a long edging session or just fucking - again, almost never to completion.

She used to give pretty bad head, TBH. I know, I know, even a bad blow job is a good blow job…. And she’s a bit gun shy cuz early on in our relationship I came in her eye which burned like holy hell.

But over the years she’s improved her technique considerably. Importance of communication.

About a month ago she did suck me till I came in her mouth. It was great! First time in many years.

 

[hardcorefool]

Just the other day I woke up and the wife was sucking me. She could tell when I woke up and sucked me till
I cum in her mouth.

 

[Dreamer110]

Just the other day I woke up and the wife was sucking me. She could tell when I woke up and sucked me till
I cum in her mouth.

Lol. My wife thought that'd be a good idea once. Until I woke and swung a fist at her. Never did that again.

 

[Inthelastrow]

September 2014. It was great, she was great.

 

[Erodicus]

When was the last time you got a blowjob. Detail it and let us know how it was.
No judgment will come from me for who you got it from.

A few years ago now from a former girlfriend. She claimed to have had little experience, but she gave me the best blow jobs I'd ever had. What she lacked in technique, she made up for with enthusiasm.

 

[UtilityCurve]

A few years ago now from a former girlfriend. She claimed to have had little experience, but she gave me the best blow jobs I'd ever had. What she lacked in technique, she made up for with enthusiasm.

In all things sexual, enthusiasm beats technique, IMO.

 

[ImiGirrst]

The last time I got a blowjob to completion? Over 20 years ago. As part of foreplay? Tuesday.

I was wondering if cock sucking as part of foreplay counts as a BJ? Cause really, there isn't a lot of incentive for women to suck a guy to completion. I mean yes there are dildos which, for me, will do in a pinch. But real cocks feel so much better in my pussy - so if I get you off, well, I'm SOL.

And I mean, yes, I swallow, but it's because I believe in doing a job right, not because I love the taste of cum (sorry to burst anyone's bubble on that tidbit).

 

[DirtyMarine]

I was wondering if cock sucking as part of foreplay counts as a BJ? Cause really, there isn't a lot of incentive for women to suck a guy to completion. I mean yes there are dildos which, for me, will do in a pinch. But real cocks feel so much better in my pussy - so if I get you off, well, I'm SOL.

That’s why I like to take care of her first. Then me.

 

[ImiGirrst]

That’s why I like to take care of her first. Then me.

That's got pros and cons to it. Cause if you do your job right, your partner is exhausted - who wants to move after a good O? Still, it is quite gentlemanly of you to make sure she's satisfied first.

For me, if I get off on a clitoral O, if my partner isn't getting the point when I pull him on top of me, then I'm pushing him over and impaling myself. There is no missing the "I want cock NOW!" vibe. And if I don't get it, well, yeah - I'm not going to want to do any cock sucking then.

It's a totally different thing if my partner has ED. If anything, I was really delighted to find out I could suck off my older lover off when he wasn't hard enough for intercourse. It really brought a whole new facet to our relationship and has kept our sex life fresh. It was a real thrill to get so much of him in my mouth. Believe it or not, it actually helped me get better at deep throating, though I'm still not quite sure how it happened. And when he does get hard enough for penetration, it's like a special treat (I'm definitely all over that like white on rice!).

 

[Cardinal]

From my wife last week and it was great, I usually get a blow job before sex but last week was just great for some reason, I guess she did it longer and used a hand to play with my bslls during it which is a favorite of mine

 

[FortuneFaded]

Not my most recent blowjob, but a fairly memorable one was my wife and her friend tag teaming me as part of the warm up for some group stuff.

 

[FortuneFaded]

I was wondering if cock sucking as part of foreplay counts as a BJ? Cause really, there isn't a lot of incentive for women to suck a guy to completion. I mean yes there are dildos which, for me, will do in a pinch. But real cocks feel so much better in my pussy - so if I get you off, well, I'm SOL.

And I mean, yes, I swallow, but it's because I believe in doing a job right, not because I love the taste of cum (sorry to burst anyone's bubble on that tidbit).

I definitely feel it's part of foreplay (or even during a session as a fluff). I like that it's kind of a special treat and not a default thing in my relationship so when my wife starts it I get REALLY aroused and therefore extraordinarily erect, which she appreciates.

 

[bobb_sledd]

It's a totally different thing if my partner has ED. If anything, I was really delighted to find out I could suck off my older lover off when he wasn't hard enough for intercourse. It really brought a whole new facet to our relationship and has kept our sex life fresh. It was a real thrill to get so much of him in my mouth. Believe it or not, it actually helped me get better at deep throating, though I'm still not quite sure how it happened. And when he does get hard enough for penetration, it's like a special treat (I'm definitely all over that like white on rice!).

The current story of my sex life.

 

[RandallOldman]

I guess I'm luckier than I realized. My relationship has its fair share of issues, but my partner is ready and willing with a BJ whenever I ask. It's usually part of our lovemaking anyway, but if I just say "I'd really like you to suck my cock tonight," she will. She likes that I just say what I want.

She also has no problem deepthroating, almost always swallows, and on occasion will let me just fuck her throat.

Our sex life has never been one of our problems, lol. I'll remember to count my blessings after hearing how long it's been for some folks.

 

[ImiGirrst]

I guess I'm luckier than I realized. My relationship has its fair share of issues, but my partner is ready and willing with a BJ whenever I ask. It's usually part of our lovemaking anyway, but if I just say "I'd really like you to suck my cock tonight," she will. She likes that I just say what I want.

She also has no problem deepthroating, almost always swallows, and on occasion will let me just fuck her throat.

Our sex life has never been one of our problems, lol. I'll remember to count my blessings after hearing how long it's been for some folks.

I think a lot of guys would say you are a lucky fuck. Or lucky as fuck.

I continue to be amazed at the number of men I talk to who say their female partners will never go down on them, even if it is just foreplay. Personally, it's a very rare sexual encounter that doesn't include oral for and by both of us.

 

[RandallOldman]

I think a lot of guys would say you are a lucky fuck. Or lucky as fuck.

I continue to be amazed at the number of men I talk to who say their female partners will never go down on them, even if it is just foreplay. Personally, it's a very rare sexual encounter that doesn't include oral for and by both of us.

Yeah, I pretty much thought everyone did oral. I have encountered one woman in my many years who didn't, and we didn't date long. And yes, it was because she wouldn't give head.

I'm not totally shallow, but there are some essentials in a relationship.

 

[live4thebj]

Is it okay someone make you eat something you don’t like? Same goes for woman that don’t want to swallow.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Is it okay someone make you eat something you don’t like? Same goes for woman that don’t want to swallow.

I've never gotten upset when a woman didn't want to swallow. I prefer that she swallow, but I can understand why she might not. Fortunately, my wife always swallows.

 

[Bbl87]

Is it okay someone make you eat something you don’t like? Same goes for woman that don’t want to swallow.

Yep. I think it's hot when a woman swallows, but I don't expect it. My wife doesn't, and it doesn't bother me. Especially considering she can deepthroat me (which isn't easy) and asks for facefucking occasionally... I don't think I have any right to complain about that aspect of our sex life.

 

[RandallOldman]

Is it okay someone make you eat something you don’t like? Same goes for woman that don’t want to swallow.

Make someone? Of course not. It's a bit beside the point for me, because swallowing isn't a make or break activity. I do think it's reasonable to choose partners that like to do the things you want to do, though. For me, a woman who doesn't enjoy giving head isn't the sex partner I want.

If your friend doesn't like bowling but you do, find another friend to go bowling with.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Is it okay someone make you eat something you don’t like? Same goes for woman that don’t want to swallow.

True, but when you are eating a meal prepared by someone else especially for you, how comfortable are you with leaving it on your plate, untouched (or worse, spit into a napkin)?

I defend all "not in here" and spitting girls. It's their absolute right. But as I have always told my child, "just because no one did anything wrong doesn't mean no one got hurt." Life is like that. A guy is equally always right to feel some element of rejection (reservation, something-like-but-not distrust). But you have to take the bad (some rejection) with the good that remains.

This aspect of the great debate would benefit from the perspective of females who have "none for me, thank you" males: How do you feel that your pussy is fine to fuck and fill, but not to kiss, lick, suck on, tongue-fuck, etc.? Yes, it's not a perfect analogy, but it would be understandable/comprehensible nonetheless.

(It's a hugely complicating factor when a partner refuses to do something as a result of a bad experience with a prior lover. Yes, experience is a teacher--an excellent one, in fact--but every new lover wants to be your best ever and vice-versa. How to feel when things are crossed off the menu even before it is handed to you?)

Even the best communication (which is itself tragically rare) cannot detoxify everything.

But it's all we have to soothe hurts.

And that is a must.