Boyfriend is very inhibited in bedroom. Advice?

[StrongMaster7]

Honestly, if you are thinking of ever being more than just girlfriend and boyfriend, you need to tell him what you want in bed unless you love him so much you are willing to never have what you want. Have the discussion! I didn't and, although I am happy in every other way, I am not sexually as fulfilled as I want to be. Sex is very important to me. Your guy could be like my wife. As she told me once long ago (and I didn't grasp the significance then) sex is not very important to her. This is a basic, important area of incompatibility. Can it be lived with? Yes. But to this day I find myself frustrated at least once a week. And that is after nearly 30 years.

 

[spjd]

Hi!

He is very close minded about bedroom activities. I personally find myself very into obedience and non-consent in a submissive way (and open to pretty much anything--except the illegal stuff, of course). Does anyone have any experiences with this they could share with me?

I've brought it up to him multiple times. He's not really into the idea. I have good reason to suspect he leans towards submissiveness himself.

Question on my mind: is it possible to be truly fulfilled in a relationship that's not sexually satisfying?

no

it will not end well

dump the schmuck

xxx

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

My two cents say that it depends on how important sex is to YOU in YOUR relationship.

I mean, any relationship is about understanding and meeting the needs of your partner... but doing it because you WANT to meet them. that's what makes relationships work.

Does he KNOW he's not meeting your needs? have you told him? is he TRYING to step his game up?

what are HIS sexual needs?

if your sexual needs are too incompatible, you're not going to enjoy filling them for each other, and it will turn sex into work.

this could literally be any part of a relationship... my friend had been living with a guy for over a year but they broke up because the way they diet and work out was so out of sync that they were ruining each other's routines and it was making them miserable.

so if he KNOWS that you need more but isn't trying, then yea, you're done. if he knows, and is trying but just isn't there yet... then keep at it, maybe he'll get there with encouragement! if he doesn't know... then.... you know... go talk to him.

also: not every guy is wired to be the dominant to your submissive. there are just as many guys out there that are built to be submissive, and they tend to make good boyfriends, because you can make them do stuff