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[Justfantasies]

What was she wearing when he did her and what does she look like?

 

[Justfantasies]

he was 20 and she was I think 42 at the time. Yes, she came with him riding his cock. I got her to admit that with some extra Merlot, but I think a few other things happened she only dropped bits and pieces of.

I am sure my Cindy has at least been finger fucked

 

[allthetimeitsthere]

I mentioned her usual halter top and short skirt, she hates wearing pants, just anything short until late Nov About 5'5", dark, curly hair, slim, nice ass, 34b, shes into Yoga. People hit on her all the time.

 

[allthetimeitsthere]

Mmmm, fingered usually goes to other things......depending on girl or guy.

 

[Justfantasies]

I love skirts, especially straight skirts. It’s a real turn on when other men hit on them isn’t it?

 

[allthetimeitsthere]

I love skirts, especially straight skirts. It’s a real turn on when other men hit on them isn’t it?

Hers are short , she gets noticed. We have had spells we partied around but when this happened we weren't doing much, to busy.

 

[Justfantasies]

Hers are short , she gets noticed. We have had spells we partied around but when this happened we weren't doing much, to busy.

Both my first and second wives travelled a lot and got hit on a lot. I’ve had three gfs who modeled a bit. In modeling certain things are expected

 

[Justfantasies]

Mmmm, fingered usually goes to other things......depending on girl or guy.

Cindy is definitely a girl!!

 

[allthetimeitsthere]

Both my first and second wives travelled a lot and got hit on a lot. I’ve had three gfs who modeled a bit. In modeling certain things are expected

Yes, thats true

 

[LookN2Talk]

Does anyone else have such big fantasies about CNC and forced s*x? I sometimes leave my apartment door unlocked hoping to fulfill my fantasies.

Must be happening often, she's busy, she's never come back.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Yes I agree I think about this

I remember back when Nancy Friday published her books about women's fantasies, she found rape fantasies to be extremely common. Volumes have been written since about the reasons it was so popular. My personal favorite was that women had been taught to be ashamed of their sexuality and desires, and that the rape fantasy gave them permission to have sex without having to initiate or even admit wanting it. But, what do I know. If this were true, I would think the fantasy might be less common. So, maybe it is an escape from feeling the need to have agency, into a passive role.

In any case, the most important thing to keep in mind, especially a lot of MEN out there, is that this is a FANTASY. The reality is NOT something women want.

 

[Kaushiki]

I love to fantasise about it but in reality idk how to achieve this.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I love to fantasise about it but in reality idk how to achieve this.

Some things are best as fantasies.

 

[lil_jenni]

I struggle with this. On the one hand, I don't want to ever be raped again. But... I want that feeling of loss of control, albeit only when I know I can get control back as soon as I want to do so... Or at least believe I can do so.

So, it's more than a fantasy for me, but I need a safety net. Yet, and I know this seems contradictory, sometimes my husband is too much of a safety net. He's not really into it. He's doing it for me because sometimes I need it. But it lacks... edge. Yeah, I feel sorry for him too.

I don't know the reason some other women need the loss of control (there are lots of thread on here where it's discussed), but I know for me I'm probably seeking the control I didn't have before by voluntarily giving up control and knowing/believing I can take it back.

Actually, I'm going to rephrase my above "it's more than fantasy" comment. It's not a fantasy for me at all. When I need the loss of control, thinking about it is not enough. I need to experience it, even in the slightly too safe environment my Hubby provides. But I need it ultimately in my control, so too safe is better than less safe.

Yep, clear as mud I am. Again, I feel sorry for my husband too.

 

[NikkiJean98]

Must be happening often, she's busy, she's never come back.

I got caught up with college classes and ending my engagement to move back home...

 

[LookN2Talk]

I got caught up with college classes and ending my engagement to move back home...

Very glad that you are okay. Sad that things fell through. Hope all is well. Keep on keeping on. My wife likes your idea - CNC and forced sex, Thx! I am working on how to RP it with care.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I struggle with this. On the one hand, I don't want to ever be raped again. But... I want that feeling of loss of control, albeit only when I know I can get control back as soon as I want to do so... Or at least believe I can do so.

So, it's more than a fantasy for me, but I need a safety net. Yet, and I know this seems contradictory, sometimes my husband is too much of a safety net. He's not really into it. He's doing it for me because sometimes I need it. But it lacks... edge. Yeah, I feel sorry for him too.

I don't know the reason some other women need the loss of control (there are lots of thread on here where it's discussed), but I know for me I'm probably seeking the control I didn't have before by voluntarily giving up control and knowing/believing I can take it back.

Actually, I'm going to rephrase my above "it's more than fantasy" comment. It's not a fantasy for me at all. When I need the loss of control, thinking about it is not enough. I need to experience it, even in the slightly too safe environment my Hubby provides. But I need it ultimately in my control, so too safe is better than less safe.

Yep, clear as mud I am. Again, I feel sorry for my husband too.

As I am sure you are aware, there is an entire professional field of women devoted to providing services like this to men who desire to surrender control. The Professional Domme field is not only or even primarily about men wanting pain. At its core, it is about men being able to surrender control and have a woman take control of their bodies and their sexual responses. The use of a "safe word" provides the sort of "ultimate control" that you speak about.
So, I don't think this is either contradictory or unclear.

Of course, there are fewer opportunities for women seeking professional assistance of this sort.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I love to fantasise about it but in reality idk how to achieve this.

Trusted. Platonic. Male. Friend.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I struggle with this. On the one hand, I don't want to ever be raped again. But... I want that feeling of loss of control, albeit only when I know I can get control back as soon as I want to do so... Or at least believe I can do so.

So, it's more than a fantasy for me, but I need a safety net. Yet, and I know this seems contradictory, sometimes my husband is too much of a safety net. He's not really into it. He's doing it for me because sometimes I need it. But it lacks... edge. Yeah, I feel sorry for him too.

I don't know the reason some other women need the loss of control (there are lots of thread on here where it's discussed), but I know for me I'm probably seeking the control I didn't have before by voluntarily giving up control and knowing/believing I can take it back.

Actually, I'm going to rephrase my above "it's more than fantasy" comment. It's not a fantasy for me at all. When I need the loss of control, thinking about it is not enough. I need to experience it, even in the slightly too safe environment my Hubby provides. But I need it ultimately in my control, so too safe is better than less safe.

Yep, clear as mud I am. Again, I feel sorry for my husband too.

As much as we might wish it, since we each first caught wind of it in our youth, sex has been complicated. A dance where no one knows the steps but everyone desperately wants to get out on the floor.

 

[curioustxn]

Does anyone else have such big fantasies about CNC and forced s*x? I sometimes leave my apartment door unlocked hoping to fulfill my fantasies.

I understand your fantasy; however, the problem for a man is how would he know you wouldn't press charges afterwards?

 

[LookN2Talk]

Trusted. Platonic. Male. Friend.

VERY Trusted!

I understand your fantasy; however, the problem for a man is how would he know you wouldn't press charges afterwards?

That is a Great Question... wondering about the answers on that.

 

[lil_jenni]

I understand your fantasy; however, the problem for a man is how would he know you wouldn't press charges afterwards?

I'm not an attorney, but I fuck one (my husband).

But seriously, I understand your concern and it is valid. One way to protect yourself is to get affirmative consent ahead of time (written, email, video, etc.). It's not as sexy or immersive, but if I were a man, I'd want that protection. And even then, it could still be a criminal matter depending on the state of mind/capacity of the party to be the 'victim', or if she/he/they made it clear during that consent was withdrawn. The latter would require some kind of safe word agreed to ahead of time along with the affirmative consent. Or safe signal, if the 'victim' will not be able to speak. Without that, it's a credibility issue with respect to who the jury will believe if the 'victim' alleges consent was withdrawn.

As a woman, I would only let someone I completely trust take that control. Well, these days. The lessons learned from giving up control to the wrong person can be very hard lessons, trust me.

And if I were a man in the other role, I would need to completely trust the other party and talk out EVERYTHING first. And document it and. And have it document in multiple media. And be damn fucking sure I paid attention for safe words/safe signals. And even then, it's a risk. So...

 

[NikkiJean98]

I understand your fantasy; however, the problem for a man is how would he know you wouldn't press charges afterwards?

I'm completely okay with writing up a contract that says it's consensual. I can even get a notary if need be.

 

[curioustxn]

I'm completely okay with writing up a contract that says it's consensual. I can even get a notary if need be.

Help me understand this from a woman's perspective? If it's consensual-non-consensual, (meaning that you would know about it before it happens, who it would be, and approximately when it would happen), wouldn't that take some of the excitement out of it? I mean, wouldn't that be like saying let's have a surprise birthday party. While it might be fun, it doesn't seem the result of knowing beforehand would create quite the same emotional/sexual exhilaration.

 

[curioustxn]

I'm completely okay with writing up a contract that says it's consensual. I can even get a notary if need be.

Sorry for the double post, but I had both a question and a comment.

When it comes to sex, (as far as I know), up to the point of penetration a woman has the right to say no, and being so, I'm not sure a contract of this nature would be valid in court if rape charges were filed. Perhaps someone who knows more about the law and rape could comment on this.