Controlling what a person wears on a daily basis?

[MeekMe]

Things that are clean start to look way more stylish as the week goes on and laundry piles up. Today, for instance, I decided that a clean bath mat and suspenders can serve as a jaunty and fluffy spring kilt.

You must post pictures.

 

[CutieMouse]

I was reading an article in Smithsonian the other day where researchers speculated on the possibility, however remote, that you being involved in this sort of exercise would reverse the polarity of the earth and possibly tear a rip in the time-space continuum.

Duh!

I was recently involved with someone for a few months, and one day I came over to find a hideous pink leopard chemise laid out for me to wear. I may have rolled my eyes and refused to even consider touching it, much less wearing it.

him: You're a lingerie snob.
me: And?

I don't think my reaction was what he was expecting. lol

 

[midwestyankee]

Duh!

I was recently involved with someone for a few months, and one day I came over to find a hideous pink leopard chemise laid out for me to wear. I may have rolled my eyes and refused to even consider touching it, much less wearing it.

him: You're a lingerie snob.
me: And?

I don't think my reaction was what he was expecting. lol

In other news, it's Monday.

 

[CutieMouse]

In other news, it's Monday.

Pretty much.



(sigh)

 

[desertslave]

what about you? if given the option, would you want to be told everyday what to wear with some consultation, of course?

There have been a few times where Master has taken me out for a 'nice' dinner surprise, and simply told me to dress fancy, or to wear a shorter skirt...vague-ish stuff like that. Just enough to know that something is up.

Once it was just for the purpose of driving on the freeway at night, with my skirt hiked up so he could touch me and telling me to masturbate for him. I did express concern about what someone inappropriate might see (i.e. kiddies in minivans) and was told to trust him. He was true to his word and would flip my skirt down at needful moments. It was a very interesting ride.

 

[amigayorbi]

interesting insights

thank you. i think doing this on a continual basis is probably very tough as most of you have pointed out.

i asked this question because there is a woman who chats with me once in a while and asks me all the smaller details about dressing up. it is interesting because she gets so aroused while following the dress code i give her

so may be once in a while could be more healthy practice.

more opinions?

 

[monak4u]

most doms want to make sure i don't wear panties or a bra.

 

[amigayorbi]

yes i prefer that

but i keep her guessing..

 

[monak4u]

and they tell me to wear a short skirt.

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

I would like for him to choose what I am wearing for a sexy night out. But not every day -- that isn't practical and it sounds like it would get old fast.

 

[Chachi23]

I can handle taking a request every so often but I am very picky about what I wear based on my moods. I do enjoy having my lingerie picked out before a play session, but I buy all of my own lingerie so I know the fit and look is perfect regardless of what is selected.

 

[midwestyankee]

I like easy access when we're together, and it's a good thing to dress appropriately when eating in a restaurant. Beyond that, I want her to feel comfortable and at her best.

 

[MeekMe]

It occurred to me, I have a dress that I'm not allowed to wear out.

（；￣ェ￣）So he has veto power on that one. I suggested wearing it for an event coming up and he told me no. I suppose that goes for anything else that might be a bad idea. So he has control like that.

 

[skinnysinner]

It's an option

And only an option not a permanent game I think.

It suits some sub/Dom dynamics, not others. With one online relationship I had a complete list of her underwear and would mail my choice occasionally the night before, and receive a pic from work before 10 the day after.

It works best when both want it, if only the Dom them for me it's pointless, I get pleasure out of her pleasure at being controlled, and if this is something done unwillingly and without getting aroused at all then it's pointless!

Only my view though!!

 

[Primalex]

I don't quite see the big deal in this micromanagement. It's not like you have to come up with 365 different outfits for the year.

And 3/4 of her wardrobe can be eliminated basically instantly, because it is either stuff she doesn't wear because it's too old; stuff she never wore because it totally looked different in the store than at home; stuff that once did fit nicely but does no longer, which leads to the only explanation that the clothes shrunk, which then again means *I* must have put it into the dryer; and for the rest it is the completely wrong season.

*shrugs*

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I'm somewhat indifferent to what I am wearing most of the time, as lifedom seems to create its own sort of mundane uniforms that I must adhere to for adult life success. That said, I think the idea of always wearing some sort of decision that isn't mine has far more appeal than completely giving up the actual decisions of all the clothing I wear. Sometimes that might look like an entire outfit other times it might be what side my braid sits. Sometimes it could just be what I'm not wearing, but the gesture or display of whatever "it" is seems to both stir and nourish something very deeply. Even in vanilla realtionships I would feel warmed by choosing to not wear something that I knew they wouldn't like instead of being annoyed or limited by it.

I have always enjoyed the feeling of being marked, so having something I wear be chosen for me is maybe also about feeling marked. This is even more profound when it contains and element of color or style that I would normally not choose to wear because it would be more obvious to me. Bonus points for creative subtlety that is completely invisible to the public, but creates a private secret that is completely captivating in the exclusive and explicit just us knowing grins.

 

[Tigersman]

Picking clothes

If I were to tell my wife she had to wear what I wanted her to wear, then I would tell her she was to choose from dresses that buttoned down the front or skirts and front buttoning blouses. I would tell her garter belt with hose or just thigh high hose. Absolutely no panties except during her period. When she got home she would be required to be totally nude unless we were expecting guests, planned on going out or if she had errands to run. When not going to work but going out for any reason, no bra.

 

[desertslave]

I like easy access when we're together, and it's a good thing to dress appropriately when eating in a restaurant. Beyond that, I want her to feel comfortable and at her best.

You do understand that could be an oxymoron, yes?

In my world comfortable = nekkid or PJ's.

At my best = dresses or skirts & tops

Rarely the twain doth meet.

 

[monak4u]

I am required to greet my bf naked after work. He puts me across his lap and spanks me with a hairbrush.

 

[IrisAlthea]

You do understand that could be an oxymoron, yes?

In my world comfortable = nekkid or PJ's.

At my best = dresses or skirts & tops

Rarely the twain doth meet.

But when it's not an oxymoron, it's wardrobe heaven though!
I have a grey wool dress, that always gets me compliments when I wear it
When worn with Falke Soft Merino Tights it's as comfortable as PJ's.

Not great for summer though.

 

[midwestyankee]

You do understand that could be an oxymoron, yes?

In my world comfortable = nekkid or PJ's.

At my best = dresses or skirts & tops

Rarely the twain doth meet.

Fair enough. But one can not be nekkid or in PJs at all times. I'd also like you to consider that some women feel most comfortable in a skirt while others might feel that way in good-fitting jeans or slacks. Don't get me wrong: nekkid has its place, but when we go out to a museum, I think some clothing would be appropriate and I want her to feel on the top of her game in that place.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Ahlam]

i am curious to know if anyone tried that and more importantly, how long did this last?

Once upon a time when I was new to "the lifestyle" and I was more open to being micromanaged and annoyed, I allowed my Dominant to control me in this way. It was tedious after only a day. I went on strike after a month.

Now I tell anyone who attempts to control what I wear to get bent! But I'd hypothetically be open to it if that bossy person gave me the wardrobe item as a gift. If someone buys me pretty panties, then I'll wear them! In the absence of a benefactor, it's tutu, combat boots, football helmet, and nipple clamps.

 

[midwestyankee]

Once upon a time when I was new to "the lifestyle" and I was more open to being micromanaged and annoyed, I allowed my Dominant to control me in this way. It was tedious after only a day. I went on strike after a month.

Now I tell anyone who attempts to control what I wear to get bent! But I'd hypothetically be open to it if that bossy person gave me the wardrobe item as a gift. If someone buys me pretty panties, then I'll wear them! In the absence of a benefactor, it's tutu, combat boots, football helmet, and nipple clamps.

Pics, or it didn't happen.