Cunt, Whore, and hair pulling.

[shaymless]

Just tossing in my 2 cents...

I think the reason that I like the use of cunt, slut etc. in play and sex is because of the tabu associated with it....because I wouldn't accept it from anyone else in any other context. Add those words in a hot whisper to a fist full of my hair being held....Insta Drop into the happy place.


That being said, it wasn't always that way for me and the use of the word cunt was not a happy occasion, so I totally understand how it could be a hard limit.

All disclaimers inserted here,
shay

 

[Desdemona]

I'm a southern woman to my core. None of those things are limits for me in this relationship. However, I was with a guy once who tried calling me his slut and it made me physically ill. Its true, I don't like certain words, particularly cunt and as of right now cumdumpster (ick), but under the right circumstances...mmmmmmm.

When Snooze gets a certain look on his face and growls, "on your knees slut" just before grabbing a handful of hair, I am instantly into the submissive headspace and a very happy subby.

What more could a girl want? Oh yeah... I almost forgot. Bondage, flogging, spanking, wax, ice.... the list is endless.

 

[James G 5]

What more could a girl want? Oh yeah... I almost forgot. Bondage, flogging, spanking, wax, ice.... the list is endless.

Greedy much?
LOL

 

[Desdemona]

Greedy much?
LOL

You better believe it!

 

[James G 5]

You better believe it!

'least you're honest

 

[honeylick]

yes, please.

 

[Desdemona]

'least you're honest

No point in lying.

 

[FungiUg]

yes, please.

And would you like ties with that?

 

[James G 5]

yes, please.

Lookie who's here
Hi sexy

 

[honeylick]

Re: Re: Cunt, Whore, and hair pulling.

And would you like ties with that?

like i would say, no?
-smirk-



hi james.

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: Re: Cunt, Whore, and hair pulling.

like i would say, no?
-smirk-



hi james.

No need for rope with this one
all you need are powerful magnets on chains

 

[Croctden]

Well, for me, my submission is a gift I give because it makes me happy to do so. He respects that, and respects the feelings I have on certain things.
I am not sure if I have captured WriterDom's original purpose, but for me it is not so much the fact that name calling may happen (He does call me his little slut on occasion, or bitch, or some other names that may occur to Him) so much as the connotations that some words carry, and the feelings they bring with them. In the South, there tends to be more emphasis on politeness, courtesy, and the like, as well as a belief that women are entitled to be talked to respectfully.

Maybe it is different for other women, but for me, and a majority of the women I know, there is something particularly foul about being called a "cunt." That is the single most disrespectful word to describe a woman that I can think of. When I hear that word, or have it applied to me, it is akin to abuse. I do not know why I feel this way, or why a particular word might carry so much meaning in a certain region (I am assuming here from other's comments that the word cunt does not have such profound meanings in other areas of the country). I simply know that is how I feel.
So, do I feel that I am not being submissive by saying that I refuse to be called a cunt by a person that I have feelings for? Perhaps so, but then I would have to say that I am not being submissive by refusing to entertain the notion of putting up with physical abuse, or any other action that causes me pain.
As I understood it, a hard limit is a prohibition against an action that the sub (or Dom for that matter) feels would be repugnant or harmful for them, or an action that one feels to be totally unacceptable. Being treated as if I have no innate worth, and am worthy of no respect, is just such an action, and is, as such, a hard limit. Then again, I never claimed to get off on humiliation, and He does not require it of me. If he did, I would not be with him.

If it's a hard limit for you it's a hard limit. Even in a BDSM relationship you have a right to walk. Of course so do I...

No offense Johnny, but you seem to have this model how BDSM and allow no variation.

 

[ownedsubgal]

The bitch is a cunt and a whore, and I'll pull her hair as I see fit, dammit! Who the fuck is the Dom in the relationship?!?!?

There are hard limits, and there are times where the cumdumpster in question should only open her mouth when I am ready to piss in it!

btw, i was born and raised in the south, and never had any problem with the word "cunt"...if anything, i used to think it was kind of silly, and kind of "white"...after all, i had never heard a black person calling anyone a cunt or referring to a cunt. but over time i began to find it erotic and very appealing. one of the first times my Master had me used sexually by another man, afterwards, as we were leaving, the man told my Daddy, "that is one sweet cunt you have there"....my Master thanked him and i could see the pride in his eyes, and i was so happy. how could i ever think badly of the word cunt after hearing that?

as for "whore", that to me means prostitute, so unless i'm a prostitute, i don't care to be called by that word, only because it's not true and therefore role play, and i HATE role play. but i don't associate any negative connotations to the word.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

If it's a hard limit for you it's a hard limit. Even in a BDSM relationship you have a right to walk. Of course so do I...

No offense Johnny, but you seem to have this model how BDSM and allow no variation.

No offense, but I allow for no variation in intent, if you dig. When a 'submissive' is spouting off adamantly about how she holds all the power in a D/s relationship, how she gets exactly what she wants, and doesn't get anything she doesn't, I begin to wonder how that relationship is at all D/s.

 

[ownedsubgal]

No offense, but I allow for no variation in intent, if you dig. When a 'submissive' is spouting off adamantly about how she holds all the power in a D/s relationship, how she gets exactly what she wants, and doesn't get anything she doesn't, I begin to wonder how that relationship is at all D/s.

i have to stop agreeing with you....this can't be healthy.

 

[niteshade]

No offense, but I allow for no variation in intent, if you dig. When a 'submissive' is spouting off adamantly about how she holds all the power in a D/s relationship, how she gets exactly what she wants, and doesn't get anything she doesn't, I begin to wonder how that relationship is at all D/s.

Ummm... I am more than a little confused here. I don't remember saying that I hold all the power in my relationship. I wouldn't say that, because it isn't true. I also don't get anything that I want... if I did, N would be living with me, among other things. I do plenty of things I don't want to, some of which I did consider hard limits in the beginning, and I am sure there will be more.

And, please keep in mind that there may be other versions of a D/s relationship than your own.

If you weren't speaking of me... well, I don't really recall anyone else being all that adamant in this thread, or saying any of the things you mentioned.

 

[James G 5]

i have to stop agreeing with you....this can't be healthy.

Oh c'mon, it's not like you're agreeing with ME or anything

 

[Croctden]

No offense, but I allow for no variation in intent, if you dig. When a 'submissive' is spouting off adamantly about how she holds all the power in a D/s relationship, how she gets exactly what she wants, and doesn't get anything she doesn't, I begin to wonder how that relationship is at all D/s.

That's fine, I don't allow a sub to break my standards, but if she has a limit she has a limit. Now I might leave the relationship because I won't have it, but I won't lecture her about what a bad sub she is.

 

[FungiUg]

Bad sub. Bad sub! Sit. Sit! Now stay...

 

[James G 5]

Bad sub. Bad sub! Sit. Sit! Now stay...

Need to borrow one of my rolled up newspapers?

 

[lrisheyes]

Re: Re: Hair Pulling indeed

That one thing I don't have to worry about. The grey is another thing. But I hear that it's sexy. I like it on a woman. It says take me as I am. The salt and pepper. Not grandma Bush.

I like the way you think!!!

 

[niteshade]

bump for a fellow Texan