Curious

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Yah know folks ..I leave this thread ..Every time ..With the profound feeling that Ive just heard ten people say the same thing..And then argue about it..

*sigh*

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Originally posted by catalina_francisco
Netzach the only thing I am saying is that BDSM is a unique individual experience and that no one in this world should decide for someone else what BDSM is.

Francisco.
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No, moderators do not decide for others what BDSM is or is not..
They can't. It's your sex life and Your expression thereof..
But it IS their JOB to decide if it belongs on the Board/thread..Which is why moderators have a large turnover on some boards..
Because that job sucks.
No matter what decision they make, and no matter how they say it...
Someone will be pissed..Every time.
The moderators we have had since I have been here, frankly, have been a VERY lenient bunch..WIthout letting things dissolve into anarchy.

 

[Pure]

Netz said in part,

Do thoughts of rape fantasy belong on a sexuality board? Yes. Do thoughts of sexualized murder belong on a sexuality board? Yes.

Since BDSM is a sector of sexuality all BDSM topics fit a general 'sexuality' forum.

BDSM is not the only building capable of housing the guest, is it?

Not sure anyone ever said that. Let's say it's a quite suitable building.

Besides that point, when I'm involved in SM, when I'm moving in a Leather world, those things are not suddenly cut loose and given free rein all over. In fact, they aren't usually at the forefront of my mind at all.

It's not less enjoyable to rub one out over, it's not less pleasurable, but as a foundation for *doing* like SD said, it's not feasible so it's kinda boring for me.

In BDSM as *I* know it, it's not that relevant. It's not safe and it's not healthy for *me*

I missed a turn, there. Why is a raping or being raped fantasy 'not safe' and 'not healthy' for you?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sheep? Check. Cookies? Check. Hairy rats arse? Check. Belly button lint? Check. Okay, I think it's safe to go in now.

Let's face it folks, we're a pretty passionate bunch. This is a good thing. NetZach posed a very thought provoking question, and we like the passionate people we are jumped all over it to explore the various ramifications.

In some cases that led us down various side issues and away from the central discussion. But hey, that happens.

Some of us also took opposing views and defended them vehemently. Yay! That's a good thing too.

Keep in mind that if someone takes the time to disagree with you and discuss why, it's a sign of respect. If they didn't care about what you felt or thought, then they'd just ignore you. Someone challenging your ideas, how you express those ideas... it's all good.

We have had discussions like this before, where tempers flare and people rant and the ire is up. It's all healthy. Take a break for light and fluffies as you need to, and try not to take it personally.

I'm sorry for those who have felt obliged to leave the discussion, but I have to say that I for one am enjoying it!

(Bugger. Forgot the fruit-cake.)

LOL, how did you forget the fruit cake but remember the cookies might I ask?!! Shame on you. And your post is similar to something I said yesterday in a PM, we discuss, we are passionate, we disagree, but it is all part of who we are and proof we value the other's opinion and respect them enough to care what they say.

Catalina Now for an admission Fungi....I find myself preparing for another Saturday night in front of the TV, once again like the time I PMed you before about, rooting for a Kiwi to win with their dancing feet and beautiful personality.....oh and they have one of my longtime favourite people as a partner, Julian Clary. This is becoming a habit!!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

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[bridgeburner]

Thank you!!! This thread definitely needs a re-visit.


-B

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Why i like QBoU

It's not always "pull up a chair, have a cookie." Life is not always pull up a chair, have a cookie ... I happen to like twisting apart my oreos, incidentally ...

i get this weird Breakfast Club image of Ally Sheedy in latex getting the adult version of a pony ride on the back of Anthony Michael Hall, or maybe even Judd Nelson while licking the insides out of twisted apart oreos slowly swaying forward and back like a pasha on elephant back and it gives me the giggles.

 

[bridgeburner]

That's a GREAT image!